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Needy friends can be tolerated. Hell, I have a couple of "needy" kids. Not gonna throw them away. But if they're calling while you're at work, or during your sleeping hours, then it's just being rude. I could see it happening once...but if you told her nicely, and it continues. Then she's not being that good of a friend. Maybe the occasional emergency call. Like it just can't wait. But not continuously. Just my opinion. " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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So true I hate that!
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I hate that, seems we all have those friends too....
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Well . . each person is different. I can have a healthy discussion with some friends, and the next day - we'll both be fine about it. Others... not so much. I tend to be the type of person who gives the other person a break and I'll listen to them, while reminding them that they should call at a respectful hour next time. If it happens too often, I'll be blunt about it and ask them if they recall when I asked them to call at a reasonable hour, and if they think that THIS hour is reasonable. I also flip the question on them ... by asking them - What would they do in my situation ! Usually ... it works... Eventually. ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Hello Joy I would have done the same thing Joy! She needs to respect your time always! Some people just don't get it all they think is about them that's to bad! Butch
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11/12/2018 10:54 am |
Nobody calls when I'm sleeping, thankfully. I do not wake up happy unless I wake up on my own.
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Although we are friends, I can promise you I "won't" call you!!
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You have a no win situation. To stop her calling at rediculous times which is what you wanted ends up with losing a friend. However if she was a true friend she would respect your wishes. She was happy to be your friend on her terms, only. That's not a friend. “For a moment, nothing happened. Then, after a second or so, nothing continued to happen.” ― Douglas Adams, The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy Much like this site Visit my Blog for my adventures.
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i probably would have gave them an ear full too, but at the same time i would probably just get used to turning my phone ringer off at night or when i sleep.
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Sounds like someone I use to know. It was always about her and she knew what was right and I was always wrong. She now has me blocked from her blog and she is from mine. Some times you have to cut the cord and let them fend for themselves. Have a great day. So nice to be insane; no one asks you to explain.
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11/12/2018 11:48 am |
You've got to respect another's wishes when it comes to that. she'll get it in her head and come running back. "Sweet, steamy, sensuous kisses light the bright fires of passionate lust within us." scott6250
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I completely understand my friend and I would of told her not to call me during those hours as well, but I would of also told her if you call me I WILL NOT BE ANSWERING MY PHONE!!. Some people just don't get it that we have lives too, I am sorry she feels the need to cut you out of her life right now but I think if she thinks about it long enough she will understand. Maybe you should of done that to her, so she would of gotten the hint.. I hope you feel better my friend..
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This is to confirm I know exactly where those calls were coming from!!!Before I moved I was getting them at 2-3 am with the same 3hours time difference. Many emails and several explanations on the phone as to what would work for specific hours if she wanted to chat, 2:30 am when I was quite ill did me in. I hung up on her after being TRULY TRULY rude. I now am in a new town and do not give out my landline or if I do it is with extreme prejudice to people I would want to call at 2am. Emphasis on the WANT{which includes Joy} She did not remain my friend as far as I know. Some times you have to decide to save yourself (Virtual Symposium Group) use Virtual Symposium Group
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No much of a friend if they don't respect your boundaries. I've hung up on people only after telling them what would cause me to do so. Neither are good friends if they continue with either behavior. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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I would have routed her calls directly to vm so I'm not disturbed. It solves the issue so I can leave it on for emergencies. Needy is one thing but this sounds more like disrspectful behavior. Do you have any Primal Urges ... I do, please CUMHANDLEME and explore some of my naughty and nice Primal ... Urges with me !!!
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I turn my phone off at night then I realise I've still got a land-line Thankfully that's just for family.
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I'd have done the same. Keep reminding her that there are time differences and she continues to ignore that, then you'd need to put her ringtone to a silent one so it doesn't wake you.
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She isn't being a good friend if she isn't respectful of when you are sleeping or working. And she should KNOW there is a time difference, and always keep that in mind. By not doing that she's showing she only cares about what she gets from you, not what she is bringing to the friendship. It sounds like you were more than patient with her. I'm sorry that this is an extra stress after you tough week last week. "Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is relax." – Mark Black
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Hi Joy. thanks for this one... So my fellow bloggers : What would you have done given the same situation? Well, my phones are not near my bedroom... I tell people who know me... that I am a better person when I am well rested... so, whatever it is... it can wait till the morning... 'cause I wouldn't know either way... I've always been like this... no phones in the master bedroom... period... Do you have needy friends who phone you at all hours of the night when it is bedtime? If I did, I wouldn't know about it... hmm... made me think of this one... London Grammar - "Hey Now" (Arty Remix) or the original... I luv them both Hey now, Letters burning by my bed for you Hey now, I can feel my instincts here for you Hey now By my bed for you, hey now, Hey now Ooh ooh, you know it is frightening Ooh ooh, you know it’s like lightning Hey now, now Hey now, Letters burning by my bed for you Hey now, Leave it to the wayside like you do, For you Imagination calling mirrors for you Hey now, Hey… To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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11/12/2018 8:27 pm |
Hi my friend, someone people don't listen or care. I know you don't want to lose a friendship.
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I have a niece who has this custom of always calling after hours, then I kept thinking and understood if she cares about me I have to accept, I think that it is necessary to always look the other side to be able to understand.
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FIRST of all, you do NOT need to answer any ringing phone at anytime unless you wish to ! And to screen your calls if they wake you, get a phone that anounces names rather than numbers when they call, and you can pick & choose whom you wish to lose sleep to talk to. I have a disabled friend who has no concept of day or nite since she never moves out of her bedroom & attached bathroom, 24/7 52 weeks a year, unless it is to & from the hospital. She messages me, since she cant afford the airtime for calls, at any time of the nite or day, in fact got one from her about 30 mins ago. If I am awake, I answer, if I am NOT awake, then those calls or messages WAIT ti,, I am, it is as simple as that ! Friends get the idea eventually that YOU SLEEP at certain times and quit calling you during those times. Others are not so considerate tho, so screen those calls !
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Can't hear the house phone at night ,,,,I use to have an extension in the bedroom with caller ID,,,but no longer...only because I bought a new phone system and have not bought the extra one yet...I take my cell phone into the bedroom ,,,again caller ID and the ability to send someone like your friend to voice mail...my house phone takes messages after the third ring...which I can't hear...The phone, like my doors, is mine to answer if I wish too. If the friend tried calling repetitively the phones can be shut off or put on don't disturb. I wake during the night for that special trip anyway and have no problem going back to sleep. A house phone can be taken off the hook for a last resort. I would also say hey...try to call when I am awake,,,or leave a message,,I will get back to you.
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When I worked my cell was in the lunch bucket...I am at work,,,my phone is for my pleasure or need. Before cell phones most construction sites did not have a phone for the working people's use. You had to leave the job to find a pay phone. I am old school. You could send your friend a bill for therapy sessions...late hour rates too! LOL
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