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Any chance I get I usually do.
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Why yes ma'am , I was taught to open doors for a lady which includes building,cars or a cupboard for that matter. If I invite a woman out I expect to pay ( it was my invitation) . Hell I've been know to stand when they leave or return to the table and to help them with their chair. There is no reason for not being polite under normal circumstances. In my opinion this world could use a little more courtesy.
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Play it by ear with regard to the bill or agree on it beforehand if possible. Of course holding doors open or offering to carry anything heavy the lady may be carrying is natural as well.
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"wow carrying heavy bags for a woman.I have not seen that one done in years.Very nice." It's the things that money can't buy that entices a woman about a guy
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I'll hold the door for people it doesn't matter the gender.It's automatic . Chivalry is like blinking an eye.I don't mind taking her money.I learned a long time ago how to make a check disappear.It's an art!Now about shriveling...... Using more than all the road!
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i always open doors for others... unless i get the wrong ideas, i usually offer to pay for dinner. if they offer to pay, i at least offer to leave the tip.
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gentlemen are you chivalrous? .... No. Doesn't make any sense, especially since she is suppose to be socially equal to the male. I don't believe [pretend] in being a gentleman. I like being myself. Do you always hold doors open gents for women .... No, I'm not going out of my way to get a door for an abled body woman. Men, do you always offer to pay her way? ... No. Women make their own money now for several decades, even more now.
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author51 replies on 4/28/2016 4:03 am: and I tend to agree with everything you said, having said that human kindness in certain situations and making someone smile just by the little things like holding doors open for each other if you both arrive there at the same time is all about respect.. ---------------------------------------- I'm not interested in making someone smile. This is not my intention. My intention would be more to alleviate the bottle neck at the door. Arriving at the same time, she can certainly get the door if she feels so inclined, but I'm in no way going to go out of my way to insist on myself getting a door.
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So my fellow ladies and gentlemen are you chivalrous? I am....manners count! Do you always hold doors open gents for women or ladies do you like holding doors open for men? I do....but some woman do not like this...I always ask. Men, do you always offer to pay her way? I always offer but my girlfriend and I have worked out a plan....we take turns. It works for us. “Life is available only in the present moment.” Thich Nhat Hanh Come and read my blog! Become a watcher! veryfunnycple64
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I always hold doors open for women the pretty sexy ones I drool over. Yes I am a male! . If the woman offers to pay I let her Have a great day
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it may relate clear back to cave men days, where the man took care of the woman in all ways.... OR... it may just be how some men with a good up bringing were taught to try an be nice to a lady.... opening doors, being polite letting them in front of you.. puling out chairs...a man walking on the outside when on sidewalks,(thinking is he would protect her from cars) buying her a meal, saying please an thank you... So alot of men were brought up to think it is the rite things to do in being polite an offering to pay an do things for a lady..... dont throw us back to the stone age now an not allow a man who likes doing things for a lady to not be allowed...lol Not all men think if they buy you a meal it entitles them to get into your panties or a bj later...lol If it was me you would just have to get use to being treated this way, as its a small easy way to spoil you an show you that a man wants an likes to do small things for his lady.
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Mmmm so nice >>!?*
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I always pay, i don't expect a woman to pay for anything, unless we were married, then that's a horse of another color, isn't it ?
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Yesterday I held a door for a gentleman and he held open the second door for me.....we both smiled and he said now he was returning the good deed.
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It's nice to see manners in use when in public. The grocery store is often a place when I look for a struggling senior citizen, man or woman, or a single woman having trouble lifting something heavy like a case of bottle water. Just the other day I was in line putting my items on the belt whan an elerly gentleman rolled up behind me. Some of his items had move towards the front of the basket on his electric cart so instead of having him struggle I reached for those items and placed them on the belt behind the divider separating our stuff. He had oatmeal in one of those large round cartboard containers and it had gotten dented. A young woman behind him noticed the dented container and retrieved another for him before he realized what was going on. I caught the eye of the young woman and we both smiled at each other in a way complimenting each other for our "random acts of kindness". Opening doors and letting a woman or elderly person is a no brainer. I do this all the time without thinking. It's part of my DNA. On the subject of who pays for a meal or drinks it all depends on how the invitaion to meet was set up. If I invite a woman out for a meal I'll gladly pay without question. But if the meeting was mutually set up I try to split the bill and if the woman offers I accept her offer. I assume if she offers it is a sincere offer and I thank her for her generosity. If it's with someone I like I try to set up another time to meet where I'll take care of everything. So Joy, I'm asking you out right now for breakfast, lunch and dinner so there is no need to wonder when the bill arrives who is going to pay.
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To Honeydripper126....I like your style. You are a AAA human being in my book. Let's do lunch...LOL.
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oh how i wish i could have seen your "ear to ear grin" and you could see mine
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Bill or check splitting can be worked out. A lot of factors come into play there and gender is becoming less and less of one. I will hold hold the door open for anyone! ... If on a date, then well... It's whoever is walking ahead. Chivalry isn't quite dead yet. Read my diary Journal of a Taxi Driver for taxi stories and pictures of flowers and trees.
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You know there is nothing wrong with a gentleman picking up the tab every once in a while, and paying it forward is always a good feeling especially when you know people appreciate it and pay it forward as well. I go to the stores all the time and gentleman are always opening doors or holding them for me. I am so glad that chivalry is still alive because the younger generation seems to be at a loss at what chivalry is..
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Either way is fine with me....Sexy!!!
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I often go out to lunch with my youngest sister and we always take it in turn as to who pays.
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To me who ever made the invite should offer to pay regardless of gender. If the guest isn't down with that, it isn't a problem for me. Supposed to be pleasant ,right? Doors pretty much any gender but more woman and kids, old people. Standards are people too.....kinda
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Joy, you do continue to take me further and further like a commercial or piece of taffy being stretched at the state fair... I've never dated a Dutch woman named "Chivalry", but, I'm not opposed to it... Have I, do I... offer to pay and open doors for people... Yes, and, not just women... it's surprising to see women that have purchased my meals, airplane tickets, hotel rooms, and what not... They do so, because they want too... not, because they are told or asked... they just wanted too... And, I've loved it and thanked them... but, I've also run into those that feel entitled... and, those have not lasted long with me... because... they expect... it's an obligation... and, I don't roll that way... It's always a good day to pay it forward... whether you are in an elevator and offer to let people go first, or just walking and give "the right of way"... it doesn't hurt one bit... I feel good about it... and, I liked reading this post... I thought of many lyrics to post... but, settled on this one... because, in the end... it's about... giving it away... RED HOT CHILI PEPPERS - "Give It Away" What I've got you've got to give it to your mamma What I've got you've got to give it to your pappa What I've got you've got to give it to your daughter You do a little dance and then you drink a little water What I've got you've got to get it put it in you What I've got you've got to get it put it in you What I've got you've got to get it put it in you Reeling with the feeling don't stop continue Realize I don't want to be a miser Confide w/sly you'll be the wiser Young blood is the lovin' upriser How come everybody wanna keep it like the kaiser [Chorus:] Give it away give it away give it away give it away now Give it away give it away give it away give it away now Give it away give it away give it away give it away now I can't tell if I'm a kingpin or a pauper Greedy little people in a sea of distress Keep your more to receive your less Unimpressed by material excess Love is free love me say hell yes I'm a low brow but I rock a little know how No time for the piggies or the hoosegow Get smart get down with the pow wow Never been a better time than right now Bob Marley poet and a prophet Bob Marley taught me how to off it Bob Marley walkin' like he talk it Goodness me can't you see I'm gonna cough it [Chorus] Lucky me swimmin' in my ability Dancin' down on life with agility Come and drink it up from my fertility Blessed with a bucket of lucky mobility My mom I love her 'cause she love me Long gone are the times when she scrub me Feelin' good my brother gonna hug me Drink my juice young love chug-a-lug me There's a river born to be a giver Keep you warm won't let you shiver His heart is never gonna wither Come on everybody time to deliver [Chorus] What I've got you've got to give it to your mamma What I've got you've got to give it to your pappa What I've got you've got to give it to your daughter You do a little dance and then you drink a little water What I've got you've got to get it put it in you What I've got you've got to get it put it in you What I've got you've got to get it put it in you Reeling with the feeling don't stop continue Realize I don't want to be a miser Confide w/sly you'll be the wiser Young blood is the lovin' upriser How come everybody wanna keep it like the kaiser Give it away give it away give it away give it away now [x3] Give it away now [x20] Give it away... Nooow... To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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I generally hold doors for all . . . but particularly for women . . . I'm one of those "Old School" old guys, I guess . . . just a small display of respect for others . . . and I always appreciate it when that respect's shown me in return. As far as the "who pays" . . . no set rules, there . . . just depends on what's comfortable for both involved . . . but I'll admit that either "Going Dutch" regularly or "being treated" on occasion is kinda nice.
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I'm always a gentleman through and through. Thoughts from the Garden...
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4/29/2016 10:43 am |
Having a woman like you, the simple things would be so easy!
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Yes chivalry is still alive, but sometimes very hard to find....as well as just common respect and manners....as I sit back and watch the comings and goings of people these days, which I do every time I get a chance...it amazes me at how selfish and unappreciative some people have become....men and women a like....especially the young (perhaps our generation is to blame here, for instilling it more from our kids) and even many middle aged, me me me people. The "older folk" (my generation and my parents generation...lol) is where I still see kindness and good manners most often. Sometimes I wonder if it will be completely gone in the coming decades, but then I'll see a young man hold open a door for an older lady or I will hear a thank you from a child and I know it's still there....some of the lessons we were taught as kids and some that we taught our own kids have managed to stick....but in this day and age of less and less physical interaction and more and more virtual interaction...I wonder how long that will hold true. A story by Lucius8858
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It is so very nice to hear that some women notice! I do these things automatically. Its not necessary for anyone to even acknowledge but, when I see it acknowledged in this way, it does make me grateful to have been raised by a Southern Gentleman. I always expect and usually pick up the check on a date. I asked for the pleasure of the lady's company, it is the least I can do to show my appreciation for her lovely gesture of spending time with me. If she insists, I will graciously allow her to pay. However, a man that feels a date owes him anything at all, is no gentleman. Please do not feel beholden if a man pays. If he is a gentleman, he has no such expectation.
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I'm always polite at first.
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Nice....
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