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In Hindsight A Poem  

yesmamallthetime 56F  
4466 posts
4/18/2018 12:42 am
In Hindsight A Poem


I wanted him to be
Someone he wasn't.
I wanted him to care
About something
He couldn't.
I wanted him to feel
About something
He couldn't fathom.

Now I see him clearly
He is not who I
Wanted him to be.
Hindsight is 20/20.

I thought he had
Depth in his DNA
Call me crazy
For thinking him
Like his brethren
He could let go
And live far away
He made a life
Whereas others stayed.
That should have been
My first clue.
He could cut the ties
That bound lesser men.
But were they really inferior?
Perhaps just in one area.
They catered to nostalgia
He snipped that cord
No umbilical tether
To his first home
Or even his second.
And so on and so on.
He went forth.
Oceans and continents
They were to be explored
And navigated.
He was not bound
To any one land.

Fuck rolling stones!
Fuck those who gathered
No moss!
I know. I know
It might be the healthier choice
But I am lost!

I am lost along the way
As he found nothing
About me that could hold sway.
He was not the man
Who revered the things I did.
The past was barely mentioned.
Anecdotes with no nostalgic sadness
Just things that happened
About which he never cried.
Showing he barely cared.

He was strong
And he was a stoic
I could blink
And he could be gone.
For he would never stay long.
He was the veritable rolling stone.
In human form.

Truth be told
He is not rootless
His are just shallow.
People certainly had little hold.
They were there if they were
He slept well
He needed no insomnia cure.
Love was not a question
He asked himself.
That required feelings
He could not espouse.

If I had this information
Before I became invested
If I had foresight
Instead of hindsight
I could have saved myself
The agony of a broken heart.

Independently Romantic Sounds Better Than Lonely


LakeRidgeBBWSeek 63M
3847 posts
4/18/2018 12:59 am

Two lessons here, one, dont go into a relationship planning to change your future lover, they will only change IF they want to, and the more you push them to change, the further they will back away. 2nd, not everyone gets into a relationship for the same reasons. Sadly, I had such with a gal years ago, we had a lotta funn, but she wanted a husband, or at least a life companion, and I did too, but she wasnt the one and I knew this from the begining. I never promised anthing beyond funn, but the longer we had funn, the more she wanted more, which I couldnt give. In the end, I did find that woman I chose for my 3rd wife. When I told this gal, it broke her heart, and it was only then I realized how she felt about me fully. I regret I hurt her, but my blindness to her feelings was never intentional.


easy_going2014 57M
14366 posts
4/18/2018 9:21 am

Hi yesmamallthetime.

thanks for sharing this one...

sometimes... we only see what we want to see...

sometimes... we attract those we never wanted...

maybe... we need to change our filters...

maybe... we need to change our patterns...

body language is more than 60 percent of communication...

made me think of this...

"Did she want me to change
Well I change for good..."

Coldplay - "Shiver"

So I look in your direction
But you pay me no attention, do you
I know you don't listen to me
'Cause you say you see straight through me, don't you
And on and on from the moment I wake
To the moment I sleep
I'll be there by your side
Just you try and stop me
I'll be waiting in line
Just to see if you can
Did she want me to change
Well I change for good
And I want you to know
But you always get your way
I wanted to say
Don't you shiver, shiver, shiver
I'll always be waiting for you
So you know how much I need you
But you never even see me, do you
And is this is my final chance of getting you
And on and on from the moment I wake
To the moment I sleep
I'll be there by your side
Just you try and stop me
I'll be waiting in line
Just to see if you care
Oh, oh, oh, oh
Did…

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buckersby 54M
203 posts
4/18/2018 3:35 pm

When we really like someone it is easy to overlook the warning signs that they are not looking for the same things as us.Love is blind and all that eh!


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