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'Will you marry me?'... Now, those are 4 scary words in my humble opinion. The other day, one of my
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'Will you marry me?'... Now, those are 4 scary words in my humble opinion. The other day, one of my 'Will you marry me?'... Now, those are 4 scary words in my humble opinion. The other day, one of my fav bloggers that I luv reading posted a question to blogland as to what it meant to a lover to hear the words: 'we need to talk...' Oh that phase definitely means that something is wrong in the relationship somewhere... and, you have to brace yourself for a potentially long, agonizing one way diatribe that will enable the other person to tell you all of the things that she has noticed and wants an answer to... It seems, that they don't want to be interrupted and they talk without breathing for minutes at a time... I've had a hand go up when I wanted to utter a statement and understood that the 'lesson' or rant or rave is not nearly over... so, I'm kind of prepared for it and dreading it at the same time... But, then I got to thinking because she (the blogger) asked what four words did I feel uncomfortable hearing... I said, initially 'I have no time'... when a woman tells you that she has no time for you, there is someone else... it is not her job, her pets, her family... (well, in two rare instances for me, my lovers did have parents that they needed to take care of and they actually moved two states away to be with them, but, that is an exception)... That brings me to this point... Ok... some of you are saying: 'Dreamboy' you lack commitment, you only think about yourself... you are like every other man on the planet... you are an animal... enough already... And, I have to disagree with you... In the past 10 years I have had lovers ask me 'will I marry them?'.... so, I speak of it with a history... I mean, maybe I am god's gift to womankind... I don't think that I am... as I have posted in my blogs, I'm just a simple man... easy going... I make mistakes...I lived tons more than '9' lives... so, maybe I'm living on borrowed time, but, I do appreciate every day that I open my eyes... every day that I can appreciate looking at a woman... I do enjoy this world... this is my heaven... this is my sainthood, this is my knighthood... I sleep good at night except when I'm worried about family or work issues... like a baby, I sleep... not a care in the world... but, the question of 'will you marry me?'... yes, it does haunt me... As I'm writing this I continually look at the site 'tagline'... 'Hookup, Find Sex or meet someone hot now'.. this is not 'match.com' or 'eharmony'... this is a site where people go to find something they are missing... usually, in the erotic area of their life... they are not getting it... and, hookers may not be what they want to get into, male or female.... by, chance they come here because they are curious or need an outlet... many of you have met interesting people here... some of you have filled some of those desires... some will never have that insatiable need satisfied... please don't judge me... As you know, I've posted on other blogs the fact that some of my old flames have reached out to me in the past 10 years... I can't be all that bad, if they are coming back for more can I? I don't think so... well... I didn't respond to two of them.. Oh, sure, some of you are saying... man up Dreamboy... but, here's the rub, I've been with less than 25 women in all of my life... from what I've read here, some of you go thru that in a year... yikes... please practice safe sex... anyway... 'will you marry me?'... that implies marrying the whole family... the whole closet... the naysayers, people who don't know you from adam, and you don't have time to invest in each and everyone... at least, when I invest time, I go thru a series of questions... I laugh because another blogger from spain posted an interesting blog today about 36 questions to ask in order to ensure the proper relationship could evolve and you would get to know your 'sameone' (not your one an only)... so, I do ask a lot of questions and like it when my future lovers ask me questions... I mean, if the door is open wide, why are you so special, how could you capture her imagination for any period of time... that<b> butterfly </font></b>is looking for another flower as she tastes you... well, that's how I see it... as you are enjoying your Halloween celebration today, maybe this will give you a different 'trick or treat' or 'food for thought'... thanks for the read... and, as always... your thoughts are appreciated... boo! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!  |
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Those are four little words I know I won't here again.....and my butterfly quit flying long ago. Nice post though. I do like reading your posts!?    WITHOUT PASSION LIFE IS NOTHING
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Very thought provoking post. It has been a long time since someone asked me to marry them. LOL I have not asked anyone to marry me either. I have joked about marriage with a few folks. I would like that connection again. Discussing relationships other than casual flings on here is sometimes frowned upon, do you know what I mean? Like you say, the tag line of Senior Sizzle is hook up, find sex etc. I would like some security. It is like saying...I would like to know when my next meal is coming from. LOL I am not saying to be supported financially. Most guys I have met on Senior Sizzle are very secretive about what they have in that regard which is their prerogative. I would have to be really sure of someone before I would give up my little life. I have thought about it as I had someone ask me to move to another state to be with him after only a week of messaging. I know how weird that sounds. I thought seriously about it too... He lives in Hawaii. LOL But he had some weird ideas about family. As in he did not have one and I have wonderful relationships with mine which I would not want to suffer by never returning to my hometown here in NH. Anyway, he showed that he would be too dominating for me. I need some independence. I need my "me time." Sorry for my long windedness. Your post made me think and so I shared those thoughts.  Hope you have a great day. Happy Halloween.thanks, so much for responding so nicely to my blog... I enjoy reading the responses... it tells me that what I have written has affected someone... I hope that they are positive, but, I know that sometimes when I write I have to be ready for hitting that sensitive nerve... and, so, I fight my fears by trudging on where few will go when met with dissidence... but, that is me... From what you've shared with me thru your blogs, I would think that there are those that would want a more monogamous, committed relationship with you... and, I luved Hawaii... although, I only visited once for a week... Maui reminded me of my hometown... with the tropical climate and the ocean all around me... but, that's where this cybersphere is a safe haven for us, because we are a kazillion miles away from those that feign to want us.... and the ones that are next door seem to shun us or want something we do not want... except for one, which I'm thinking about... snooze you lose, goes the saying... the women I text with have some insights that they share... I wonder would they share them if they were less than 20 miles away... the ones that are less than 20 miles away have significant 'game of thrones' rules or desires that don't mirror mine... oh, the fickle state we weave ourselves into... you can't pick your family... my kids and grandkids are within 60 miles of my house... the proximity does wonders for my sanity for without progeny my life would be significantly different... the revelations of relatives long gone appears everynow and then in my children or grandkids and it makes me think about those times... a certain look, a certain response... how someone plays you even though they are only 3 or 4 years old... that drives me crazy, and yet I like it because I say a part of this person or that person in them... well, maybe I'm just crazy... our 'me' time is precious... and I need it to wind down, to re-charge to re-focus, or maybe just to get a lazy day... I won't pursue, stalk, dominate... not perfect, but time spent with someone should be time well spent as defined by your relationship guidelines... and, time away, should be time away... giving up your life and/or sharing it with someone may be similar, but, like you... there are some basic freedoms that we cling to when having our own space... Ok, this is stupid, when I was young my mom would tell me things like: 'when you have your own house you can leave it trashed up or run around naked or do whatever it is that you do'... I remember that... the other day, I talked to her about that and she said I was crazy... anyway, some people find it weird that I might walk around naked in my house and proclaim that my mom said I could, so if you don't like it here's the phone... call her... usually, that is followed by a rolling of the eyes and a flick of the hair... I don't think I'm misunderstood... I think I am unpredictable... now that is a verbose response to your response... thanks again for visiting... enjoy the Halloween festivities!!! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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Those are four little words I know I won't here again.....and my butterfly quit flying long ago. Nice post though. I do like reading your posts!? thanks for posting... I never use the word 'never'... unless, I have to... as you know, the strangest things have happened to me this past year, and I have posted many of them... I'm glad that you were able to enjoy this post it got inspired from three different bloggers posts that I had read earlier... Oh, but you are a butterfly, and I, for one, enjoy reading your posts and seeing the wonderful pics of you, other fine women, and of course my favs, the variety of roses... you know I luv roses... thanks again!!! happy Halloween... my fav 'Johnny Depp' movie is showing as I write this... 'Sleepy Hollow'... well, that and Edward Scissorhands... To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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Hi Joy... Thanks for you thoughtful and honest comments... hmmmm... can't wait to read your next post. have a great day! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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Hi __ruoutthere2006... Thanks for coming to visit and commenting... I see the traffic and so few responses that I don't know how the blogs were taken... I do appreciate the written words... Thanks for liking them... I hope that the conversation you had to have... happened, and, that it worked out to your satisfaction... I don't know that they have or have not for me... but, I've had them, and then, I live with the consequences... I don't place blame... as you've seen from of my blogs and/or responses, I have released myself or her from the relationship... sometimes, it has left a void for a long time, other times, the hurt is there, but you hope that they are happy... because you move on... 'there is no longer you and I...' and, maybe that is a better option to the first question... the one that scares me... well, now that it is not Halloween, with all of the masks... at least here, the mask we wear is one... it's a new day... 'tell the world that we finally got it alright...'... thanks again... let's go cowboys!!! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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The first time I heard those words it was simply beautiful, moving, delicate, kind...he asked my dad first...he gave me babies and a lifetime of friendship, even though we've moved on to what naturally comes after a long marriage; divorce, and no, there is no sadness for me in that word, at all, because he is still my best friend. The last time I heard those words, the men who said them had just left his wife. I was part of that big, terrible mess. That was a bad omen. And so, I didn't want it to happen that way. And I know I made the right decision, once again, when I told him good things didn't start the way our story had. And that was the hardest thing I ever did.
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The first time I heard those words it was simply beautiful, moving, delicate, kind...he asked my dad first...he gave me babies and a lifetime of friendship, even though we've moved on to what naturally comes after a long marriage; divorce, and no, there is no sadness for me in that word, at all, because he is still my best friend. The last time I heard those words, the men who said them had just left his wife. I was part of that big, terrible mess. That was a bad omen. And so, I didn't want it to happen that way. And I know I made the right decision, once again, when I told him good things didn't start the way our story had. And that was the hardest thing I ever did. Thanks for sharing those comments with me... It's interesting to read what those words meant to people... You were able to see the good with one version and the 'caution' the next time you heard them... As time goes by we learn from our experiences (hopefully) and can see the pitfalls before we think of going down a path. I always think of Penelope Pitstop in a cartoon I watched as a kid, as she was always getting in and out of trouble😀.. What a name for a character. Not so unusual if you think of the names given to characters in Bond movies, interesting, nevertheless... Thanks again for sharing. Have a good week! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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I think for most on here you will find out that those 4 words are very scary and not be used.. I can't ever see myself again married if something happens to my marriage making me single again.. So yes I agree I would be scared of those words too hugsssssssssssssss V Become a blog watcher sweet_vm
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I think for most on here you will find out that those 4 words are very scary and not be used.. I can't ever see myself again married if something happens to my marriage making me single again.. So yes I agree I would be scared of those words too hugsssssssssssssss V thanks for the visit and the comments... 'Scary' seems to be the consensus... I've been asked that question three times in the past five years... I don't understand it... It's scarier than the flying monkeys from 'The Wizard of Oz'. Thanks again for your comments! Have a great week... I want to be consumed... To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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Hi curious woman. Thanks for reading and commenting on my blog... Your response was so special. As you know, I never reveal who has written what in this cyberspace of blogs. I am often influenced by what my blogger's post. For months now, I've been reading your blogs and have been fascinated by what you write whether real or fiction. You have captured my attention. And, since you write in your native tongue or Spanish or Castilian, I have to focus to get the translation correct. The meanings are so provocative and intriguing. I respond in English not to torture you, but, because my Spanish vocabulary and witticisms are not near as deep as I would like them to be. Some Spanish blogger's give up because they think I am teasing them. But, I'm not in just using the best vehicle to send the appropriate message to you. A message that you have received by responding in this manner. You have a marvelous way about you... Thanks again, for your visit!!! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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Hi BiggLala. Thanks for taking the time to read and comment on my blog. As always, you delve right to the core of my posts. I like that, similar to the interests in songs we also seem to have like ways of looking at ideas and there thy might lead. As you know, a few months into my relationship with the only woman I've met in person from this site, discussions arose on the aforementioned topic. There was a goal in mind that I had not embraced and once the realization of that was fully digested, then her interest in me waned. She decided to pursue a greener pasture. I believe that anything is possible... Or else, what is the point? For instance today, my daughter-in-law sent me a groupon for a reduced ticket to go see one of my sliding top 30 women... She knows that I went to go see her in concert this past February and enjoyed myself. I mean, this is the real thing... She can sing, act dance, write and looks stunning... I luv Molly Ringwald!!! Not like I luv Azhar, but similar to the affection that I share for Hana Reid, Sofia Karlberg, and a precious few other what you might call infatuation women... Be that as it may, anything can happen if you have an open mind!!! Thanks again! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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