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The Nightgown
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The Nightgown I get up from our bed and my husband says “where you going” Being the smartass that I am, because I don’t like being questioned, I say I’m going to get a nightgown, sarcastically I say “do you want one?” That question was the end of my marriage as I knew it. My husband said yes. He then proceeded to tell me how he liked to wear women’s lingerie and panties. That was my introduction into cross-dressing and the LGBT community. My grandmother had a store on Polk ST. in San Francisco for 30 years, so I knew all about being Gay. Also, I lived in San Francisco for a year. I was a very open minded person, but I didn’t know about cross-dressing up close and personal. The next year was hell on me. I did as much research as possible about the LGBT community and cross-dressing. I even did research on the Male to Female surgeries. We found a counselor in another town for my husband to talk to also. He admitted that he was confused and didn’t know what he really wanted. We bought him ladies clothes, shoes, and boobs. He got all the accessories too including purses, stockings, and wigs. We even went to a major department store in San Francisco and purchased makeup. He tried to dress as a woman but he couldn’t pull it off. Some men are just built like men with broad shoulders and skinnier waists. Also, the 5 o’clock shadow always showed thru. He walked too much like a man and not delicately like a lady. If he was dressed out in public people would stare. They knew he was a man dressing as a woman. I was very humiliated and embarrassed often. I always resented my husband for not telling me before we were married. It was not new to him. He apparently had done it many times before we met. I tried to be sympathetic and compassionate. I tried to understand the emotional stress he felt not knowing what gender he wanted to be. It was a very hard time in my life. This stressful marriage continued on for 3 years until my husband died in a<b> motorcycle </font></b>accident. Some of you may wonder if this is a true story. Yes, it is. Some of you may say wow, now I understand why she is so out spoken and direct. My life was turned upside down by a man that couldn’t be honest prior to marriage. I demand anybody I have any kind of relationship with be it friends, lovers, or whatever else be honest. Communication is the key to any type of relationship including a friendship. If I find out that you can’t be honest it will be the end of our conversation. The moral to this story is if you are gender confused don’t get married without communication to the other person. It is not fair to that person. It will make them bitter and resentful. ltk 
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Two Issues One honesty and communication .. that's bedrock for strength and weakness of any relationship. No matter what anyone will say or do Both these issues can make or break relationships two Orientation .. I guess if we care about someone ..a stage comes beyond which acceptance is more inclusive and accommodative But Honesty and communication is must Can understand how cheated you felt .. .
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omg so sorry to hear any relationship communication is key more so in a marriage so sorry it was such rough time for both of you. and sorry to hear about the tragic end. and for the record nothing wrong with being direct only way you be sure you are getting you point across.
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