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Dudebros everywhere I only joined this site a few weeks ago. I logged on for the first time and immediately purchased a Gold membership, because I'm not an idiot and I knew I wasn't going to get anywhere by just posting a profile and waiting for the ladies to come to me, and no way was I paying three bucks or whatever the hell Senior Sizzle wants per profile view. Since then, I've had some good conversations with several women, gone on dates with two of them, and generally had a great time. But a common subject has come up again and again with every lady I've had any continued contact with, and that's the fact that most of my fellow guys on this site are fucking shitheads. Married men masquerade as single. Men scheduling a date and then never showing up. Dick pics everywhere. First contact emails asking immediately for sex, or offering money for sex, or just leading with something like "u have grate tits." WTF guys? What possesses you to do these things? Married guys, I think you're jerks for cheating on your wives, but fine, you're here, you're doing it, I can't stop you. But why not just tell the truth about what you're doing? I've looked, there are plenty of married/attached women here doing the same thing, why not hook up with one of them? What do you think lying about your situation will gain you? Do you really think the women that don't want to meet married men are so stupid they won't figure out you're married when you can never meet on weeknights or weekends and only ever want quickies at lunch time or whatever? And I really don't get the guys who schedule dates then don't show. Jesus, you actually got that far along in the process of getting to know a lady, and then when it comes time to actually meet up you bail? Why? If you never intended to meet, why bother saying you do? There are plenty of ladies here who just want to cyber or text/chat/cam. If that's all you want, find them! Do you just get cold feet at the last minute? OK, that happens, I can understand suddenly not feeling right about it or whatever. But be an adult and cancel, don't just stand someone up. Pretty sure this is Senior Sizzle, not Junior High Bullshit Friend Finder. Now let's talk about dick pics. I get it, this is a sex/swing site. There's going to be dicks, and boobs, and pussies. That's good! I like looking at the pictures and videos of other members even when they live way too far away for me to actually ever meet them. Pics of your junk are fine. Just hold them in reserve, would you? Why use them as your main profile pic? I get if you don't want to put a pic of your face front and center. I'm cool with it, I'm a single guy with no , so I don't care who knows I'm on here. But if you don't want your face on the site for whatever reason, leading with your dick is not the next best option. Take a full body pic and crop your head out. If you're well built go for the flexing in the mirror pic (keep your fucking pants on though!) And some of you are fishing with some pretty small bait anyhow, I'm not sure what you're looking to catch... I'm not a prude, and neither are the women here. But every single one of them that I've spoken to has said they could do with fewer dicks. For fun, a lady I met up with logged into her profile and we compared our home pages--what we each see when we log into the site. Here's what mine looked like: Smiling face, smiling face, stern looking face, cleavage shot, body shot in lingerie, smiling face, smiling face, nipple. Here's hers: Dick dick dick dick dick dick dick dick dick. Who do you think has the better experience? Yes, we're all here for "adult" interactions of some type. I'm sure there are a few women on the site who are here collecting dick pics and really, really want to see your little guy standing proud. But trust me, most of them don't. By all means, upload those dick pics, especially if you have something to be proud of. You're going to need them if you want to hook up with a size queen! But try to use something else as your main profile pic! Finally, let's talk emails. This one really baffles me. To me, it was a no brainer. First, I read a lady's profile, look over her pics, and her question and answer section (and thank you to everybody who takes the time to fill those out!) From there I have an idea if this is someone I might like to get to know, and I have hopefully learned if she might possibly be interested in getting to know me. Then I email her. My approach here varies depending on several factors, and I'm not claiming to know the secret of success because I strike out most of the time just like every other guy here. We've all seen the numbers, and the odds are stacked against us men, so expect to strike out. A lot. But here is one key thing that most of you seem to miss. Look at the goddamn profile and see what the woman says she wants. If she says she doesn't hook up on the first date, don't fucking email her and ask to fuck! There are women here who will meet and fuck you in the same night. If that's what you're looking for, go find them. But don't assume that's what all the women want. If she says she is looking for a relationship, don't email her and ask to fuck. Or worse, berate her for looking for a relationship on a sex site. Apparently this is a thing some of you do! You see a woman's profile, and you get offended that she says she won't fuck you right away, and would like to get to know you first, so you email and call her a prude and/or a stuck up bitch. What the hell do you think you're going to accomplish with that? Do you think she's going to read your email, reevaluate her entire philosophy, and say "You're right bigcock4u, I really am a prudish stuck up bitch. Come on over and let's fuck!" The only place that happens is in your imagination. The only thing you're doing is wasting your own time. She's already blocked you anyway. As it turns out, women are people, and they get to decide what they want out of life, how they want to go about meeting others, and what they do and don't do with the people they meet. And you should respect that. Finally, being crude will almost always get you nowhere. If you think because this is a "sex dating site" that the best approach is to email a woman out of the blue and just say "nice tits" then you're probably going to have a bad time. I'm sure there are some women who will respond to that, but not any of the ones I've talked with. They're all tired of that shit. It's juvenile and rude. A good rule of thumb is, if you wouldn't say it to a woman in a bar, don't say it here. Yes yes, I know. SEX DATING SITE. Doesn't matter. Even if you think you "should" be able to say it, I'm telling you right now, it's not going to get you anywhere with most of the women here, even the ones who might fuck you tonight if you approached them right. So just don't do it! So that's all I have to say (finally!) I know this will do no good because most of you doing all these things won't read it, or can't read anyway, or are just assholes who don't care. Well, fuck you I guess. Later! |
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Thank you very much for speaking up for the ladies!!! The "men" just wont hear us or listen to us. Great blog post!!!! I appreciate where you are coming from and being the gent we wish we had from others. Now it's time to read my email and see how many of these exact emails I have. Be strong, there are some ladies out here that totally appreciate you 
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