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Upheavals  

daughterofthe3 50F
12 posts
9/12/2015 6:55 pm
Upheavals


Lately, there's been a few of these in my life. Upheavals. Since last November or so, I've been part of a triad. For most of this year so far, we've all been living under one roof. In the past couple months, she announced she no longer loved him. In the past week or so, she announced she was moving out.

I've watched my bf go through all the stages of breaking up; from shock, to hurt, to anger. Currently, it's guilt, as he's labeled himself an emotional abuser, and believes it's completely his fault. I can't say for certain that's true or not, I didn't witness everything all the time. But he did have moments.

We talked him some months past into seeing a psychiatrist. He got a script for Zoloft. It's done wonders for his moods and his behavior. He no longer is emotionally abusive. But the damage is done. And there's upheavals.

Watching him go through this trauma has been difficult for me. Three years ago, I was chemically suicidal from a shot over a breakup, and I went through all of these same stages. It's like reliving my own torments.

All I want to do is hold him, and make it all better. I want him better. I want him to laugh, smile, crack jokes, and enjoy life. And it physically hurts watching him emotionally hurt.

It's all just upheavals.

s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
9/12/2015 9:06 pm

What would happen if he broke it off with you and didn't have the same feelings.When it comes to unconventional lifestyles one would think they would be more hardened to sharing people and the outcomes when it doesn't work.Postponing the actual meltdown with medication could very well mean the worst is yet to come.

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