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I have few complaints.
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I have few complaints. My experience on this site has been a positive one and the majority of messages I get from men are complimentary, pleasant and respectful. I've been on the site for about 10 mths now and I've never felt the need to block anyone. However, from what I’ve heard and have read many women have blocked quite a few & have a lot of complaints about the way they are treated by men on this site. Maybe some of those complaints are valid and maybe some of those guys deserved to be blocked but due to my own experiences so far, I have to wonder if some accountability lies with the women. First off, I think women who have very explicit photos are more likely to get treated differently than those who don't. I think men will respond to them in a more direct manner. And the type of man who is likely to respond will also differ. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with a woman having very graphic images of herself but she also shouldn't be surprised if they are seen as a kind of invitation or pissed when she receives responses like, "I want to fuck that pussy!" or a dick pic in return. Men are visual creatures, after all. *grin* And I’m not saying that men should respond that way. It’s just a matter of fact that some will. Secondly, (and, again, I am just going by my own experience here) I believe that many (possibly even most) men will wait to see if a woman seems receptive before making any overt sexual advances. Most need an opening. Sure, I get email where some men come right out and ask for sex or send a dick pic before they’ve even said hello but honestly, not too many do. Most will say something flirty or compliment me, or comment either on my pictures or about what I have written in my profile. How I answer that initial message is the key. I set the tone and the pace. If I respond by telling them that I saw their pictures and oooh baby, they made me wet...that's an opening to a sexual advance. If I respond and say that I like their photos and comment on something in their profile....that's showing interest. Most men, from what I've noticed, take their cues from how I respond. And on the rare occasions when I have received messages that I perceive as too forward for my liking or disrespectful , I just don’t respond. At all. Responding to them even to ‘give them a piece of my mind’ only encourages them to persist. Because it’s still an ‘in’.... and any attention given is better than none at all to these guys. |
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You are so on target with your comments and your observations. I could not agree more.
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I love that you see things the way they are and tell them as such........................ Youre an incredible person through and through 
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I agree... Stupid is as stupid does... If you live by the sword... eenie, meenie, miny moe... well, this one doesn't apply, but, I just thought I'd put that out there... given the tone of the blog!!! Have a great day! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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I think Keppel is dead on - plus add the anonymity factor, the guys-are-often-assholes factor, and the general lack of integrity by 95% of the Senior Sizzle community (thank goodness for the 5% of y'all!). For more on that aspect, check out VideoGirl's profile. Here's a hint for those that hate to research: Inquiries/Offers --- 441 Meet and Greets Scheduled --- 28 Meet and Greet No-Shows --- 25 (90 % no-show rate) There's a little Senior Sizzle-reality for ya! lol! Great post, hon! [image]
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Great posts on this subject - I have been a member here since 2011 and I actually have 242 profiles blocked for one reason or another. I have met many in person but the majority of course I have not. The reasons for blocking those online is that they were out of line in their e-mail or IM chat. The others that I have met in person in a public place, of course, I have blocked because they were deceptive in either their age, their looks from the posted photos on their profile, or I just had a bad "gut" feeling. This is a big bad world we live in so we all must be very selective and choosy. I would not hesitate to do this again if necessary. On the flip side, I have had some real successful meets and actually had 2 pretty serious long term relationships from Senior Sizzle; sadly, they were both married and I got my heart broken so I will never cross that line again...what WAS I thinking??? -KCClaire {=} {=}
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Have to agree.... This community, like everywhere else, has its personalities and always going to be the unsavoury experiences (on both sides of the gender gap).... As the penguins in Madagascar said "smile and wave"... My view is that when the equality is as skewed as much as it is in here (the men / woman number, again), fatigue and frustration from both sides becomes an issue.... Can only hope that the genuine have the stomach to suffer the rest... I've found that this is less of an issue in the blogs, but can bubble to the surface.... Great post.... If this post were a dance, it would be a Waltz  Mark xxx
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I don't know whether the site still does it, but their ad slogan has been, "Get laid tonight!" To a horny man gullible enough to believe ad slogans, that suggests that the women on this site are looking for sex (very often true) and that they aren't already overwhelmed by other guys who believe the ad slogan (definitely misguided). Personally, I know enough not to trust advertising. I know that more honest slogans would be, "Get laid next year!", "Get laid if you settle for leftovers!", "Get laid if you pay for it!", or "Get off the computer and get laid with someone you meet in person!" For me, a good slogan would be, "Get laid any time, with your hot, horny wife!" -- except I don't need to buy a paid membership for that. Thus I'm only here for the blogs, and the vanishingly small chance of finding a woman who wants to play with both of us. Anyway, I know that it takes a bunch of polite contact attempts to get even a polite reply, and hundreds of polite contact messages to get a meet and greet that might lead to sex. I could do better in person, even if I didn't just ask my wife. But the site doesn't make money from guys who get laid without the assistance of a sex dating site. The site depends on guys who don't know how to get laid in person -- which only makes their odds worse on here.
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I think a lot of people here are just kind of thrashing around in the dark hoping to grab something worth hanging onto. And often they're folks who feel like they've failed in some way before...but there aren't any courses of study they can take in how to succeed at this. Even though a lot of good advice is sitting here in the blogs, they aren't always confident about how to apply it- explicit as it often is. I really do like your post- you have compassion. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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The victim card is an easy one to play, and some just want to play it over and over and over again.   You didn't comment on my pictures This was a great, great post by the way! Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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good point. men are indeed visual and prone to becoming aroused quickly. a woman posting extremely explicit photos creates an image of being "fast and easy" to the simple logical mind of men (and Mr Spock)
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When you consent to having a profile on a site like this, you have to assume that you'll get some lewd and lascivious messages. Common sense, especially for someone in their mid-fifties. I hope. "My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur
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 Sooo true!!!Seems as if you noticed the reality of,.. rather than the common consensus. I do believe the problem is the mix message most members profiles give off. in most cases the pic don't match what the introduction says,. Good thing I read first,. but this site is a big contradiction for the most part. The willingness to read rather than look could solve a lot of issues,.. Hard but fair,.. Sad but true your post was definitely a good read,.. thanks  Is my point valid,.. I dont know,..depends where your head's at when you read it
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Well said.
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Well, that is what I working with. Just trying to meet woman is like pulling teeth.  Oh, well, it really does not matter. I just blog and read stuff here.  Cum to my blog and respond.  Have a great kissing fun time. 
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