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The Lie We Buy Into
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The Lie We Buy Into “Love hurts.” We’ve heard this often. It’s a lie. I love. Without expectation. Without having to own the object of my love. Without a need for a return. I love in a moment or moments. It is not a constant. I love with the understanding that I am making the deliberate choice to love and I make that choice often..... for the purely selfish reason that it feels good to love. Love is only painful when it becomes a currency. |
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3/9/2015 6:43 pm |
Excellent point! Well written!
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1 post 2/9/2015 9:06 am |
It is better to have loved and lost then not to have loved at all is as far as I am concerned the best way to look at it. I have found that I have loved and loved deeply and when it was over there was still a connection that never leaves regardless of the outcome. If you have truly loved someone then it doesn't just disappear, it just changes. One should never expect something from saying I love you, it is just something you feel or do not feel and usually if you love someone the feeling has been reciprocated or you wouldn't have let emotions go that deep. Of the serious relationships I have been in we remain friends, I never go back though because there was something that tore you apart in the first place and it will return however that doesn't mean that a friendship can't remain. I do hope you find love again beautiful girl..
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LOVE IS ONLY ABOUT GIVING (DALHI LAMA-LEO BUSCAGLIA)...TRY IT
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Love is a battlefield but it can conquer all.
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When thing are based on lies, love can definitely hurt.  Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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"Love like you've never been hurt" is very good advice for every new relationship. Hard, yes, given the fact that baggage has weight... but those who can internalize this sentiment will find much joy. And yeah, this advice is usually dropped alongside "sing as though nobody is listening" and "dance as though nobody is watching." All good tips -- especially for the tone deaf and rhythmically challenged among us. Love that serves as a currency isn't love. It's... well, usually it's blackmail, which ain't love at all. Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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I guess I'm not so cynical when it comes to love. Personally, I'm a big fan. I love easily and, to my detriment, often. Love has always been more about giving then receiving. If you can keep your ego in check, you can open your heart to many things and live a fuller life. Does it really hurt? Well I guess it can when a loved one manipulates, abuses or is callous toward you. But the stronger person will always keep that door open, trust their confidence and be patient. We reap what we sow. Nice post! T.
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love is a wonderful thing. we need it in our lives. our failing is in expecting it to "last forever",when we can find love many times in life. each brings its own blessings
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When it becomes a currency !!!! It is such to most people nowadays and only given in expectation of getting back in return. Being hurt while being in love has nothing to do with love itself and its sad to see it confused as the catalyst to pain ! A beautiful post, beautifully put by such a beautiful soul x
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Agree, love is not a source of pain. Your characterization of love as a deliberate choice to feel good is as good as I've come across. People who know how to give freely without need for reciprocation understand that such gestures are their own reward. Thank you for sharing. 
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Love hurts in different ways.. When the relationship is broken apart, it hurts.  Cum to my blog and respond.  Have a great kissing fun time. 
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