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Blogs > vabeachhotwife > Our Thoughts and Experiences

Reading the Profile Sometimes Helps.......  

vabeachhotwife 63M/62F
76 posts
3/18/2016 4:00 am
Reading the Profile Sometimes Helps.......

"Don't message or view my page u never was gonna let me hook up with your wife u asked me all those questions for nothing ."

Just received this from a local member. He and I had chatted, and it seemed that it could work with her. It's the reason that we talk with someone first, before arranging to meet. So I asked him to send the email introducing himself to her......... Just like we've described in our profile........... so that I could put her in touch with him.

But he doesn't do that. All he sends is another email here with his gmail address. And that took him 2-3 days just to do that. No "hello" to her. No description of things that he likes. Nothing.

And then, days later........... he sends this. Not like we'd been messaging him or viewing his page anyway............ I gave him the opportunity and he didn't act on it. Sorry.

Meanwhile, she's been talking on the phone with another guy.......... also local...... He'd followed through like we'd agreed upon, and now they're talking about getting together this weekend.

So no, doing it this way isn't always the fastest and easiest way for them. But it helps us to avoid situations that just aren't a good match for us. And that includes those who don't read what we've posted or just can't seem to understand it.

TicklePlease 56F  
13851 posts
3/18/2016 4:49 am

 I've noticed that lazy seems to be the new normal. Less and less effort is being made, has virtual become an acceptable replacement for actual? Is the effort to make a personal connection too great compared to the ease of chatting/camming/sexting? Sure seems that way sometimes!


vabeachhotwife replies on 3/18/2016 5:17 am:
Well, the good news is that not all the guys are lazy like this. So we just keep trying......... lol.
But we'd still agree with your assessment regarding real vs cyber. We don't mind chatting about things some. It's always good to get the views and ideas of others, to clarify some perceptions. But as for play.......... only looking for real.
Thanks.

nervouscpl6664 60M/57F
325 posts
3/18/2016 7:21 am

 No need to say "Sorry" for his issues! as it is his problem not your's!

We have a screening system as well for theses reason, and if they get to pushy or get rude.. that one way they end up closing the door to ever getting near the Mrs. and we end up saying good bye to them!

We had many issues.. as some great ones.. but we ask question for a reason.. and on warning sign for us is when the reply with a question or fail to answer.. it straight forward.. what are they hiding.. we not looking for the home address or bank info.. so why do they make it so hard!

Great post!


vabeachhotwife replies on 3/18/2016 10:20 am:
Thank you.
We understand that someone may want to be cautious about giving out information. There's too many scams and criminals on-line. So I never ask for an address. Or phone number, or even a particular place of employment. All I ask about are general things. What part of town, first name only, what type of work, etc. I leave it up to them to share more with her after they've actually met.
But like you, we've had too many issues in the past to not want to try screening some. Way too many guys end up wanting to meet with her, despite the fact that they are clearly not looking for the same things that she is. Or they are simply not a good match for her. And so we want to get those parts of the discussion out into the open right away, rather than find out later that we've all just been wasting our time.

CookiesNMischief 38M

3/20/2016 9:55 pm

 - Simply following directions usually does the trick, and reading up on the profiles. Or maybe, reading comprehension wasn't a strong suit with a lot members, simply because they merely wanted to thumb to the good parts instead.


vabeachhotwife replies on 3/21/2016 3:12 am:
It's back to that collective trend toward instant gratification........

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