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Blogs > New2Midlo > Fun with a normal white guy...

Back to the Dating Slog  

New2Midlo 54M
666 posts
1/20/2019 12:37 pm

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1/20/2019 6:30 pm
Back to the Dating Slog

With the bruises and scars from surgery healed, and my self-confidence appropriately renewed, I decided all that positive self image needed to be blown back to hell. No better way to wonder what the fuck's wrong with you than internet dating, so a little over two weeks ago, back online I went. So far, my expectations have been exceeded.

If I'm honest, I thought looking younger than I did five years ago would make me the proverbial belle of the ball, but the level of interest I've been receiving has been amazingly dismal. When I lived in Richmond, the response rate to my first contact emails was probably 20% and I received one to two first contacts per day initiated by women. Not bad for a guy who isn't six foot four, with six pack abs and a thriving law practice. Contrast that to the last two weeks, where the rate is closer to five percent and I've received three first contacts from women. What the hell memo did I miss?

Since I've not suddenly become boring or less interesting, for lack of a better descriptor, it's something else that's contributing to my suddenly becoming a loser. Actually, I think there are a few factors. First, women have stopped reading profiles, and those who do no longer bother with a computer. So, a profile with any depth (length) will be lost on their phones. (Guys never read profiles, so no change there.) And while mine isn't an epic, it's a solid read. There's also the whole Midwest culture, which seems to value pablum over any sort of edginess. There were two components of my profile that garnered significant attention at home, but have been highlighted by women here as potentially off putting to their fellow flat land women. One had to do with knowing when my partner wanted me to be less than a gentleman, the other was a riff on Johnny Cash, where I said shooting a man in Reno just to watch him die would have been more fulfilling with the right partner. As a marketing professional, I recognize I should position myself to my audience, but this is personal and I refuse to dumb down who I am for Kansas. I'd rather be single and true to myself than date someone provincial enough to be offended by what I wrote.

So, fuck you again, Kansas.

New2Midlo 54M
1075 posts
1/20/2019 12:37 pm

 No, really...fuck you, Kansas.


Naughtypursuit 56F  
2766 posts
1/20/2019 1:37 pm

 I read an article that stated that like animals there is something akin to mating season ( for want of a better word) for online dating. Apparently the time of year has an effect on the success you may have.


New2Midlo replies on 1/20/2019 5:21 pm:
There are certainly cycles to the number of people on dating sites. They drop in the summer (kids are home=less time) and surge in the fall. But for those on a dating site, regardless of the time of year, one would think they'd be interested in meeting. Granted, many of the women I'm seeing are the same ones who were on during the two previous times I waded into the swamp, since moving here.

Gotta catch the holidays, next year. Standards almost certainly drop in order to not deal with another NYE alone LOL

missthee 58F  
4511 posts
1/20/2019 3:39 pm

 I think there is some truth to there being a cyclical period for dating opportunities.


New2Midlo replies on 1/20/2019 5:25 pm:
I guess we'll wait and see, although I remain skeptical...

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