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Blogs > New2Midlo > Fun with a normal white guy...

Loss of a Friend  

New2Midlo 54M
665 posts
1/28/2015 7:28 am

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1/28/2015 12:07 pm
Loss of a Friend

It's strange fascinating how we react to certain events in our lives. Rob was a colleague of mine, based in the Netherlands, from a previous company. While I was there, our mutual respect for each others abilities forged a friendship. We were both complete motorheads and Formula 1 fanatics and would debate various aspects of drivers and teams whenever we saw each other, chatted on the phone, or traded emails. We'd wind up getting together two or three times per year; sometimes in Holland, others in the US.

When I moved to another company, Rob and I kind of lost touch, as often happens. We'd fire off the occasional email to one another but we probably went four or so years without any interaction. About a year ago, I learned Rob had cancer that, short of a miracle, was terminal. I reached out to him and we exchanged a few notes back and forth, catching up and bitching about the new rules in Formula 1.

Today, I received word of Rob's passing. I'm a guy and, therefore not allowed to show or feel emotion. But the truth is I'm a bit taken aback by how hard his death has hit me. While there was a great deal of mutual respect between us, our friendship wasn't incredibly deep. But the punch in the gut happened just the same. Perhaps it's the whole 'taken before his time' dynamic. I won't speculate because I just don't know. What I do know is that tonight, I'll break out my bottle of Remy and raise a glass to Rob. Rest in peace, my friend.

MaxCourt 56M
338 posts
1/28/2015 8:03 am

 Sorry for your loss. I do know good memories live forever.


New2Midlo 54M
1075 posts
1/28/2015 12:07 pm

 Thanks to all for the kind wishes!

I wasn't necessarily throwing out a 'woe is me' post so much as wondering why Rob's death hit me as hard as it did. I've had other friends pass, here and there, with much less impact. Again, it's not as though we were terribly close. Maybe it's because he was younger than me and hit the 'man sees his own mortality' button. Who knows...

Anyway, thanks again for the kind words.


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