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First, my condolences. A lot of us have felt your pain. I do not endorse the afterburn of a ghosting as *badge of courage*, but to riff on Winston Churchill- your experience and (more importantly) your heartfelt response means that you stood up for someone, sometime in your life. Good on you for that. A couple of hundred blog-responses back, I discoursed on the "why" of ghosting. Without putting you through the pain of a rehashing, I offer bullet points on what is believed to drive people to this annoying and destructive behavior: 1. Fear for personal security - unlikely in your case! 2. Overcommitment- your Lothario was juggling too many on-line relationships and you were fumbled and/or discharged. 3, Depression and/or trauma - an unbearable, paralyzing emotional pain that likely has nothing to do with you 4. Fear of exposure - you were getting too close and the House of Cards he had built with his exaggerations and lies was at risk. 5. Fear of commitment - again, you were getting too close for his comfort and triggered crippling anxiety. 6. Sadistic trolling - The world seems filled with people who enjoy teasing and tormenting and will go to superhuman lengths to deepen the wounds. I will leave it to you to figure out the best *fit* for your unfortunate circumstances. Stay strong!
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I was in the same position a month ago... chatting, couldn't wait to meet.. blah blah.. then 48hrs before the day.. he blocked me..I was seriously gutted, I thought we got on well, we video chatted, and he texted me every day... I emailed him for an explanation and he went off on one like a bloody firework.. and came up with some crap excuse... which to be fair.. I think your man's excuse was pretty crap too... you're not going to have a first date then move in and marry... Obviously. you are going to go home whether it's the next day, the next week or whatever.. but unless you meet you will never know if there is a real connection. Unfortunately, I am rather down on men on this site at the moment,, hence why i no longer meet... but i think you should consider whether he is married/attached. It's a bitch but better to find out now then when you travel there and he's not there to meet you. Good luck x
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