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OMG! You’re Talking to Other Women on A.F.F! You Piece of S#%T!
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OMG! You’re Talking to Other Women on A.F.F! You Piece of S#%T! Good evening ladies and gents, so this blog sprung up due to an incident that happen sometime back. I’ve been on and off here for almost 10 years, I’ve talked to some wonderful people, heck I’ve even met some wonderful people from here. That being said, I don’t get 1,000 messages a day but I do get a few a week. Some are from people 500 miles away and some are from people that don’t speak English as their first language. Most of the time it’s chit chat; “Hey! I like your smile”, “I see you were a science major in infectious disease, what’s your take on bird flu (H5N1)”, and so on. I never deny or hide that I talk to “other” women on here, now what I don’t do is discuss other women I talk to with others. It’s not that I’m trying to deceive any parties involved I just simply feel it’s rude and distasteful. If asked though I have no problem answering that question, for the most part it seems it would be “understood” that there is a chance that anyone you talk to is also probably talking to other men/women until exclusivity has been discussed and established right? Or am I wrong? I talk to other people about anything under the sun and I’ll occasionally comment on a photo they may have up if it’s tastefully done (Some of you take amazing “selfies”, truly in awwwe!). Being in my early 30’s I have no problem owning my mistakes or even apologizing and accepting the consequences of said mistakes. I feel that’s life and part of growing as a person and God knows I’m not immune to being a dumbass! Some of the best life lessons I’ve ever learned were from self inflicted incidents that I brought upon myself and paid terribly for in my younger years, but I learned a lot from my mistakes and I’m not a person that repeats the same mistake twice. Now a little back ground on this blog! I started talking to someone; they had some personal qualities that I found attractive. Strong personality, very intelligent, witty, confident, and funny; by all accounts the conversation was really good. I said to myself this is someone I could sit across from dinner and enjoy talking too! Well, it blew up in my face unexpectedly (kind of an understatement). We’ve never met (were planning too), never were intimately involved (Never discussed), and yet I’m a deceiving piece of shit liar? Anything like this happen to you all? I’m good, it wasn't traumatic for me but I’d like to know if I’m in the wrong, if I am I have no problem chalking this up to, “I fucked up” and changing my ways. But again I wasn’t hiding anything, wasn’t deceiving anyone, hadn’t made exclusivity plans (never would with someone I hadn’t even met in person yet), and the conversations I was and still am having were/are more friendly and platonic in nature. Would love to hear from all of you and what you think. Cheers! |
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I think if she expected you to only be talking to her, she should have stated that from the get-go, so you had a chance to make the decision to, or the decision to run like hell. I've seen women get like that in chat rooms, and I just don't get it. "If you chat to me, then you can't chat to anyone else!" Really?! Sounds a little psycho and extra-needy to me. On the other hand, I've been dating someone "exclusively" (the words were spoken, and face to face) that I met on here, only to discover he was still trying to meet other women here. I won't lie, I went a little ballistic, but that was in the context of a real life relationship. But before you even met? Sounds like you definitely dodged a bullet! 2022... it HAS be better, right?!
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Gotta say, I can totally understand why she got pissed off. Imagine talking to and making plans with a guy and according to her, with the intentions of getting a hotel after. Then 2 women you don't even know contact you and tell you that he's been saying the same things to them. Yes, this is a social site and no, there isn't anything wrong with chatting with people. I've made a lot of friends in doing that. The difference is when you are making plans to go out with one and also trying to hook up with several others as well. While some women are only on here for sex, there are those of us who aren't looking for just a quick hook up or to sleep with tons of guys. Being a single woman on here is a whole different world than for couples or singles guys. You get emails daily from dumbasses asking you to let them come over when you don't even know their name. Then you have guys who are having sex with tons of girls and you're just the flavor of the day. It gets frustrating. So when you meet someone nice that you may like and you get contacted by 2 other girls, you just finally get sick of it. So no, if you were just chatting with other people, you weren't doing anything wrong. If you were trying to hook up with others as well and saying the same things to them, then yes, that was a crappy thing to do and I can see how it would upset her. Just my 2 cents 
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