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Open Door Policy
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Open Door Policy I have to say you learn something new everyday.. I learned an opened door policy only applies to one person or the other in a partnership.... I am not married or have a boyfriend in this life style but I did have a fwb.. I thought it was going great meeting new people trying new things.. I asked people who were couple how they did it? I got rules and ideas from a lot of people.. I was glad there were rules that each couple went by so they could enjoy this life style... So when sitting around with fwb I am thinking we really aren't a couple but are.. So I say two rules... One always play safe Two always be honest.. So my thought is wear a condom and let me know if you play with others... So after some time I find out one of us has broken both of those rules... I don't understand an honest woman wants no strings sex a cuddle every now and then She wants to play she wants you to be happy and play But you cant tell her your playing with someone else.. I was always honest I found myself a couple to try out and another guy all he new about... Just don't get if men have an open door to play and like the lover you have why lie ? So should there have been more rules ? How long is to long to have a fwb in this life style? Is it better to just have<b> fuck buddies </font></b>? More questions then answers |
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You know where I stand on this? And I feel there is no time limit on a FWB situation. And as you know I have been with Ryan for over 2 yrs. Yes we have had our ups and downs, but always seem to find our way back to each other. I can't say what we have is a unique experience either. But I do know when you set boundaries and they are broken issues occur! Partners, whether fuck buddies, friends with benefits, girl friend, boy friend, need to respect each other. If you can't do that then there is nothing and its time to move on.
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Looks as though you're asking the right questions, at least... the right answers (at least, for you) will come with time and experience. As long as you accomplish that most difficult of tasks -- "know yourself" -- and stay true to your own guidelines... AND keep the communication open and flowing... you should have a wonderful time in the lifestyle. Happy playing! Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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Rules change and people change. I dont know why but it happens.
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Open Door Policy Communication is the key in all relationships I am very lucky my submissive pet and I are both poly, which works out great. If she was sex with either a male or female - we talk about it. Same if I have sex with a male or female, we talk about it. Personally I enjoy it if we can both interact as a cpl with another single or cpl at the same time.
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I'm with you on the honesty requirement. If someone isn't honest, you can't have a relationship...any relationship. Men are insecure and men are naive. They think it's just as hard for women to get laid as it is for them to get laid. So when a guy wants an open relationship, he THINKS he's going to get laid all the time and the woman is just going to be sitting at home bored to death. When they find out that the opposite is true, they can't handle it. I should say that MOST men are like that. Every now and then you meet a guy who gets it and it comfortable with reality. If you find a guy like that, hold onto him! 
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