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The mind is powerful when it comes to sex
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The mind is powerful when it comes to sex If you got a second, check out this posting [post 3225504], by JustJane13. Her article was so right on, and I want to thank her again for letting me post her link.  Her post brought back memories of mine with Mark, whom my wife dated for two years. Mark was a domme. I had several conversations, serious ones at that, with Mark about<b> domination </font></b>and submission. Over the years I had developed this huge interest in being a sub. But really, I didn’t know much about it other than what the net had to offer. Since she was already seeking sexual pleasure outside of me, and she and I had begun cuckolding, I was already on the road to becoming a submissive. But, as I talked with Mark, it was my mind stopping me from accepting and becoming a true submissive. My wife, who already had, and has, dominate traits, also had an interest in it. Mark talked often of the importance of securing your mind before your body. What he meant by that was total commitment within your mind to the role which you are becoming a part of. BDSM, femdom, and cuckolding, are much different than general swinging. They are alternative lifestyles which focus on a powerful partner over another. Though having sex with another man and giving discipline are different, indeed they share similarities, by submission and dominance. Overcoming your mind, seducing it, enticing it, and complete and total trust in your partner are the just beginning. You have to accept the role, or reality, in which you are exploring. I had to embrace the fact that I couldn’t satisfy her, and enjoy the reality of pleasing her through other ways and avenues. And honestly, that’s hardest part. Acceptance. Participating in those lifestyles is so much deeper than, ‘okay, I’m in charge tonight,’ or, ‘I want to have sex with other men.’ There is a process to it, a commitment and deep faith that needs to be established first. Issuing discipline or any other form of power exchange becomes a lifestyle. It doesn’t get turned off and on. It becomes who you are sexually. That’s what I learned when I tried ‘topping from the bottom,’ which in a sense was me trying to control the relationship to my wants; something I still struggle with today as I continue to ask to watch her fuck, instead of waiting for the invite to. Discipline isn’t about being mean, controlling, fearful, rude or insulting. Neither is being a cuckoldress. It’s the contrary; respect, acceptance, trust and love. In a sense, it’s the hierarchy of your sexual life now. But if you can’t dominate the mind first, the rest is just nothing but bad acting. Shared wife -evergreenstatewife |
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