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Here! I'll Lend You My Reading Glasses...
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Here! I'll Lend You My Reading Glasses... The Lovely Siren and myself are always flattered by any attention we receive. Ultimately, all of it comes as a compliment, and we appreciate that fact. When someone(s) take the time to flirt / hotlist / or send us an email, it means we've done something right in our quest to meet up with similar-thinking friends for a night or nights of fun and frolic. And enjoying occasions such as those are really why we have this profile. We Truly want to meet new people who enjoy sharing themselves in the same manner as we do. It's why we've gone to all the trouble of detailing our wants, needs and requirements, both in said profile, and also here in our blog . { Which, we might add, is freely accessible to any and all... } SO...why then do we continue to receive emails from folks who are quantitatively outside the parameters we've laid out so succinctly in so many ways and places?? We might easily forgive those standard members who have little access to the minutiae of our profile for their zest in attempting to contact us; that much is understandable, and , as we stated above, flattering, even if misguided. Where we actually go beyond shaking our heads in bemusement into something approaching irritation, is when we get an email from individuals or couples with Gold status, who, at first glance, seem to be people we'd like to get to know, only to discover upon actually Reading their profile that they are totally unsuitable as a match for us. And, if we can be frank, the reason we find this a bit unsettling is because, given the way WE like to play, a good match is actually more difficult to find than one might imagine. SO.... when we see an email from people who appear to be similar to us,and the way we think, we get rather excited. And then we are crushed upon discovering that despite that initial blush of hope, they are, in fact, outside of our parameters. If, as we believe, the point of "all of this" is to actually connect, is it not incumbent upon all of us to, at the least, make sure such a contact is feasible before sending out some salutary greetings? While such epistles may be , as we said initially in this post, massaging to one's ego, they actually come at a cost when misdirected. Because...we try to answer any such overtures, and have always prided ourselves in our consistency in this regard. But, how many different ways are there to say , " Thank you for your interest, but we don't think we'd be a good match". And, as far as that goes, why should it even fall upon us to always make that determination in the first place? In a quid pro quo universe, isn't it just as responsible for the transmitters of emails to stop for a moment before hitting "send" to determine whether or not the recipient is indeed a suitable one? Is that one small detail too much to request? While it may seem to be a trifling inconvenience to some, we do try to take the relationships we attempt to forge around here quite seriously. For those who get little or no attention at all, we may well appear to be simply whiners, full of ourselves, and far too particular for our own good. Perhaps. BUT.... To us, the reality is merely that the Gold status should come with some responsibility. It shouldn't mean sending out an email to everyone who has a nice picture that catches your eye, though you're well within your rights to do so....But Many, many of us in this venue long for some contact, of any sort . As a couple who are oftentimes in the "Standard" mode, unable to ever send or receive ANY emails at all, we envy those of you who have access to all that the site might allow you to do. While it might have come at a monetary cost, You have the privilege of being able to use all of these ways of meeting new friends. Is it too much to ask that one of them might be to actually read the profile? 
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You two are hot and why you get hot listed and lots of emails. Keep up the good work. Even if I am not meeting I normally send back a quick email just to say I am real and give them some help on the site. hugsss V Become a blog watcher sweet_vm
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good food for thought, thank you and thanks to those who have responded also
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With this site being a remnant of it's former self and that a lot of people that have had really no direction in life have found their personality through social media, Most use meme's to express themselves and have adopted a sort of clicheanguage if you will.Loaded with tired and old sayings.They have forgotten or most likely never knew what being rude or uncouth was or is. Attention driven egomaniacs looking to be saturated in adulation at a time in our lives when the relationship takes a back seat to just hooking up.There is an underlying sense of desperation from a lot of divorced people hoping they hadn't lost something.Most of the women I have spoken to around my age seem to have adopted their children's personalities as well as their behaviors. I have always read profiles sometimes twice before I ever sent any messages.I still read them though I have stopped messaging after realizing that any guy over 50 has about a 0 to.25% chance of even being considered alive. I haven't read anything here indicating anything more than a one track mind and there is more to life than that.I have never been happier looking else where! Using more than all the road!
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As a woman, I run into this all the time. Occasionally, I'll write back and ask why they wrote since they were obviously not what I was looking for. It usually boils down to "I know if you meet me you'll see I'm different"
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Strangely enough, I get hardly any attention at all, so shut yer trap, eh! Seriously, though, I do wish those with the means would do their due diligence and read what has been so carefully penned. Much thought went into my profile, as this one, and it is befuddling why one wouldn't spend the few minutes to actually read it. Very nicely written, as always..... 
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Hmmm......I wonder if we still have to post a comment to be noticed? Egomaniacs such as ourselves care about that sort of thing...
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