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21 Emails
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21 Emails The Lovely Siren and I are often bemused by the abundance of people who bemoan their lack of "activity" here on the site. While we can certainly understand a certain amount of wishful thinking, we also believe, and have said and written on numerous occasions, that you get out of anything what you put into it. In this particular venue, unless you are SO spectacularly good-looking that you stop traffic on a regular basis, one does not get all that they desire simply by dint of their own existence. { And even if such is the case, might the intimidation factor also keep potential playmates at a distance?? Don't ask us, we're Not anywhere near the exalted beauty demographic...} So....assuming that any of those folk who raise these concerns about their activity level are just regular folk like the two of us, and that they are making an honest effort to put themselves forward to the masses, what ARE the chances of a successful encounter here on this site? { Presupposing that "successful encounter" is defined as having been a physical interaction that was pleasing to all of the people involved... Fair? } The Lovely Siren and I conducted an experiment a while back to find out for ourselves. What we did was...Send out THREE emails every day for SEVEN days. In order to be fair to both the recipients and ourselves, they had to be to folk we were Actually interested in, and well within the bounds of our general geographic region. Other than that, we left the results up to the fates, with an eye towards understanding better the dynamics of securing comfortable long(ish)-term playmates for ourselves. Here is an example of the email that we sent. Generally we tried to leave it just as it was in the first email, but as you might imagine, small subtle differences were often required { After all, even here, we are individuals, and have individual eccentricities that had to be dealt with...} : Good Evening Mr & Mrs _______________ , Hope this message finds you well. We had a peek at your profile, liked what we read, and since the likelihood of like-minded people just falling into our laps seems remote, we've decided to take the bull by the horns and send out a few emails. Since this is merely by way of introduction, and not an immediate request for you to lose your underwear, we hope we'll be able to pique your interest enough to generate at least a reply. May we humbly suggest that before you decide either way, perhaps you might peek at our blog, where we detail just about every aspect of who we are ( if you have the patience to wade through it all...), and thereby allow you to see if indeed we share enough similarities to move forward slowly. After all, getting to know new people is certainly one of the great benefits of a site like this, whatever the outcome might be. As are road trips if the rapport makes such a thing desirable. They're some of our favorite aspects of "play", and we hope you might feel the same way. Prime & Siren We like to think that was as reasonable an introductory message as we could cobble together, not too long, but not the classic one-liner that is the subject of so much derision either. Friendly, but not fawning. Direct, but not demanding. Polite. In other words, just the sort of message that we ourselves would have been pleased to receive. And what you ask, were the results of this grand experiment Mr Prime? { He asked, wondering to himself if there was actually anybody still hanging on this deep into such a lengthy post } What we found was that, after sending out 21 emails over the course of 7 days, we received three replies, none of which led to any kind of joy. Were we surprised? Not really. Were we depressed? Not at all. Were we defeated to the point of leaving the site? Ummm......we're still right here, aren't we?? Nope, the little test we ran merely reinforced what we already knew. Finding compatible matches on any sort of sex-site is Hard Work! If you factor in that the Lovely Siren and myself have considerations that seem to often vary from the norm, it becomes even more difficult to find like-minded people to share time and flesh with. The only part of the experiment that both shocked and disappointed us was that ( unless they were invisible or blocked us ) so few people out of the 21 looked at the blogs as we suggested. Out of the 21 people we contacted, we only saw TWO who were listed as having even visited out blog. We would have thought that sort of information might have been useful in any kind of decision making....But, to each his, her, or their own. With all of that in mind, should the good folk of this site so freely complain about a lack of activity? Probably not. As people who Have been successful at finding naughty playtime, the Lovely Siren and I are always still cognizant of how difficult it is to find exactly the right person(s) at exactly the right time, in exactly the right place. There is more to finding similar people to play with than merely being here. Imagine if you will, the difficulty of finding a date in the vanilla world by simply standing on a street corner. You'd have to actually say something at some point, without appearing creepy to whoever you spoke to, and have enough going for you to actually maintain the conversation past the act of saying hello. So it is around here. Is it easy to find what you want on a sex site? I suppose it can be, depending on your boundaries. But for the vast majority of us it will be a complex, time consuming, and tedious chore. But....unlike vacuuming, dusting, doing dishes, or loading the washer, the rewards for your efforts are far more satisfying, and will certainly leave you with a much longer lasting smile. So, go get your chores done good people!! 
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LOL Mr & Mrs Voyu, We'll let YOU in on a wee secret.....The "experiment" was done quite some time back, undoubtedly before we met you two. It just took us a while to get around to detailing the results. As for Costco, still an attractive place to rendezvous, but as you've no doubt seen in our recent posts, we've had ALL sorts of issues over the last few months { seems like forever....} But....As we've said on many an occasion , shopping and Hot Dogs are two of our most powerful aphrodisiacs....
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Well said and well done Sir and Madam....You have buoyed our hopes so we will keep on swinging until we connect
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