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Manners From Our Perspective.
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Manners From Our Perspective. So, we're sitting around this morning, perusing the profiles as we like to do, the IM up, just in case any ladies or couples in the local area felt like chatting, and we are struck once again by a certain detail endemic to sex sites. They're not the best place to inhabit if you're looking for good manners. With us, it begins from the perpetual one-liners from single men on the IM. Now....we went back to look, and will admit that if one is a standard, and might therefore only be able to have a tiny peek into our profile, then we MAY not have left the "NO Single Men" caveat in plain enough view. But still, it doesn't take too much experience on a sex site to KNOW that couples generally need to be approached by single men with a modicum of propriety. So, we're baffled by the number of "wanna Fuck tonight?" messages we still receive. Does that EVER really work?. I suppose it must, perhaps by dint of sheer numbers and odds, but it still rankles us nonetheless. We might JUST be elitist snobs, but wouldn't life be SO much easier if one did a tiny bit of research to see if the people receiving your IM actually had ANY interest in replying to you? Beyond the IM, there`s the incoming emails. Similar in nature to the IM irritant, is the one-liner email. "Nice bums", while certainly a true statement of the facts, does little to inform us of the nature of your desires. "Local Guy Looking To Fuck"only reinforces the fact that you didn't take the time or effort to READ our profile. And the mysterious "Hi, we th fh wled...", just leaves us puzzled and confused.... Again, PLEASE believe us, we are NOT so full of ourselves as to be offended by ANY interest. We appreciate all of it, we'd just like to feel it's directed at US, not just to any and all profiles within a certain mileage indicator on your cupid settings. Because we DO value each and every person who shows a genuine interest in us, we WILL reply to any and all...who have SOMEthing to say.Respect begets respect, regardless of gender. Even in the case of Single Men, if you show us you actually thought about why we might be a good match, we'll do the same in return, even if it's just to let you know that we disagree. As for the comments while we`re on cam, well, the lovely Siren has already blogged extensively about that. But, we'll reiterate one thing. Say something stupid and you WILL get banned. ( Up to 632 the last time we checked the list....) We're still bewildered about what people actually get out of asking us if we've been fucking the lately, but to each their own, I suppose. We don't even have a dog! But, just as they are free to direct rude comments at us, we feel no compunction in exercising our freedom to ban them as well. We actually do get on cam to encourage open interaction, especially locally, but only in a respectful fashion. And finally, in this discussion of manners on a sex site, could ANYthing be more discourteous than leaving a conversation mid-sentence, with no reference to the rather pertinent fact that you're gone?? We get that not everyone clicks, either right away, or even after some effort has been attempted. And, we even acknowledge that some folk MAY not find our countenances pleasing after we forward them a pic ( on those RARE occasions when we do...). But REALLY??? Just do the IM equivalent of hanging up on someone? No wait, at least when someone hangs up on you, there`s a click to let you know. With the IM, one just sits and waits..and waits...and wonders...and waits...and Finally, just has to accept that the conversation is over. We urge you to accept our word for this when we say, if we are rejected ( as EVERYone is at some point ) we do not weep, gnash our teeth, rend our clothes, or climb to the top of the nearest bridge tower. We accept it as part of the status quo of "dating"on a sex site, and move on. BUT...we WOULD like to be told that such is the case. We're not about to badger you with questions about the why's, we'd JUST like to be told, "Thanks , But No Thanks", so we can get on with our search. To the best of our recollection, we haven't yelled at anyone yet for not having an overwhelming desire for us. It's a part of the process....some like us, some don't. But in our case , at least, we try to gently inform those people who don't ring our bells of this fact. We don't simply stop talking and hope they go away. Which is doubly ironic, since in many cases, it was that other party that instigated the conversation in the first place. Anyway, that's a few things we needed to get off our chests ( Her shapely one, mine hairy...) As in all of these blogs, we hope we didn't come off as sounding TOO pompous and self-centered. We DO like meeting and chatting with people on Senior Sizzle,and we'd surely like for it to a pleasant experience for all concerned. And as my Mamma always told me, "If you don't speak up, don't expect to get what you want". So now at least, we've taken care of that, can we expect NOthing but polite and charming interactions from this point forward?? 
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