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Blogs > Captainsbabygirl > Baby Girl

Rejection  

Captainsbabygirl 50F
4329 posts
12/26/2014 7:59 am
Rejection
So, my last poll got me thinking more about sex and relationships.

When is it ok to sexually reject your partner and being sick doesn't count.
Never
After an argument
When I'm tired
After a long day
When I see fit
When I want
Always
Other

Biunicorn
DoctorBooty 43M
6426 posts
12/26/2014 8:21 am

 There are certain times when you are exhausted or when you are very mad when sex doesn't even enter the equation, but other than illness I can't really think of another


Captainsbabygirl replies on 12/26/2014 8:37 am:
True

PDrive66 57M
3985 posts
12/26/2014 8:22 am

 I would never expect a partner to give in to sex when they don't want to or are not in the mood. It doesn't matter what the reason. It would make me feel like crap thinking they were just having sex on my account or to shut me up and just go through the motions. I want them with me physically AND emotionally. I would expect them to feel the same if I'm not in the mood or whatever.


Captainsbabygirl replies on 12/26/2014 8:38 am:
It is very important both parties are involved I agree.

cyclingfool 62M  
6666 posts
12/26/2014 7:26 pm

 There are times when it is ok, it just can't become a regular excuse.


Captainsbabygirl replies on 12/30/2014 6:46 am:
Exactly

harley52341 72M
288 posts
1/9/2015 2:06 pm

 didn't vote. 62 years old and still not sure of that answer


Captainsbabygirl replies on 1/23/2015 4:34 am:

discreteSteve62 50M
2169 posts
1/19/2015 4:18 am

 Sexual desire varies.
- Sometimes one really wants it.
- Sometimes one isn't particularly in the mood, but isn't opposed.
- Sometimes one doesn't want it.
- Sometimes one wants it but can't (sick, etc.).
- Sometimes one can't and also doesn't want it.

When both of us want it, it happens, unless circumstances interfere (at work, etc.). Declining is not going to occur to either one in that case.

When one wants it and the other isn't particularly in the mood, it often happens, and frequently getting started gets the one who wasn't in the mood into it. It's OK to decline, but usually we say yes because it's good for the relationship -- but it's still OK to say no.

When one just doesn't want it, then it's always OK to decline. However, it's unhealthy for the relationship if the "no" condition lasts a long time.

Situations where one or both one it but can't are truly frustrating, but "no" is obviously the only answer. Likewise, can't and don't want to is also the time for "no".

So when is it OK to say "no"? Any time, as long as the "no" means "not now, but I'm not going to keep you waiting too long."


Captainsbabygirl replies on 1/23/2015 4:36 am:
All good answers

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