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now that's a real road block , very hard to make long distance relationships pan out we think especially if both have good jobs that they like
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My gosh... How many people on the planet? I would remain friends, but that's just me... I guess I don't believe in there being only one person out there. Thanks for posting. ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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9/25/2018 5:49 pm |
Never say Never! 
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9/25/2018 5:50 pm |
I have talked with but never met some amazing women on this site and others but distance has always been the thing especially when I am not thinking that everytime I potentially start talking with women that this could be the start of my last relationship.but that she seems like a great person. That I will likely never get to meet for real. Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.
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A few years ago I was chatting with someone who wanted me to move to Hawaii, the big island. I live in New Hampshire. Can we say a big difference as well as distance? We met on another dating website. I can't remember if we discussed marriage but I think that was a possibility. This guy was all about monogamy. He had deactivated his profile from the site and I had too. But then I talked to family and friends and they made me see the light in that this was putting all my eggs in one basket as they say. So I put my profile back up. He found out and flipped out saying he could not trust me. I apologized but he would not accept it. This controlling unreasonable side of him was very revealing and it's safe to say I dodged a bullet. Whatever would he think of my being on Senior Sizzle? I can only imagine...LOL So I don't know if a long distance relationship can work. I have yearned for change but the guy and place would have to be pretty darn special for me to leave my manageable life here in NH. My siblings, many nieces and nephews etc are here. I have good access to medical care. That is very important with the issues I have. Although if the guy was a doctor...I might feel better about things eh? LOL Independently Romantic Sounds Better Than Lonely
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9/25/2018 6:06 pm |
Kind of strange this coming up, this is exactly the situation I'm confronted with at this time also. I have a lady friend that I've known since high school, we lost contact for years and just reconnected again last year. She is located in the southern states and myself here in the midwest. She doesn't care for my area here and I don't care for where she is located. She has just bought a house there and I have just bought one here, but neither of us is going to move for the other, so it's pretty much been put at a dead end as far as any real relationship goes, maybe visit each other from time to time, but am thinking that's going to be pretty much the extent of it.
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I know this situation only all too well. In my case it is still unresolved ... and I do not know what will happen eventually ...
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It's a pipe dream to believe that a long distance relationship will work. Forget running a "fool's errand" and date locally.
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Tell your "friend" to follow her heart but be very sure of all the facts, complete vetting of some one should be considered, this sounds like it could become long lasting and a lot of things to be considered that may not have been discussed in the" heat of he night". enjoy the evening, finally cooling off down here, glad to see it Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
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Never had that situation arise but if it did I would trust my gut  Drop in and visit my blog sometime, but you'll probably regret it 
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I always put up the road block first and foremost. I dont want to lead anyone astray and feel being truthful up front is best for all. My career is here and I have family responsibilities. In 4-5 years I will be free and can retire but until then I could never be fair to someone long distance.
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Good luck with that!
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I don't think you can make such a huge decision without meeting first. Spend time with one another where the other one lives...go away together, find out if the fire is still there. Don't try to make choices about things that don't matter right now. As my grandmother would say, that's putting the cart before the horse. You don't have to decide whether or not anyone would move until you know if there is a reason to consider the moving. I'm a never say never kind of person...you don't know what the future will bring you, and you will not be the same person then that you are now. I did meet someone from here, A*F*F. I was in Seattle, he was in Florida, near Tallahassee. We were friends for a long while before I ever came here to visit him. We shared naughty emails, IMs, texts, and phone calls, but mostly we were really good friends. There was a period of time we talked every day. We were both married, it was after I found out my (now) ex was cheating. I came to visit him about 9 months after my ex and I separated, and right before his divorce was final. It wasn't the trip I was hoping for. But, it was good to spend time together. We discovered that those easy conversations we had on the phone for hours at a time were not so easy in person. I have no idea why, but it was. I came back about 9 months later, to vacation on my favorite island. I didn't see much of him that trip, the distance to the island was too far and he was working. He came to visit in Seattle. Another good trip. Conversation was easier, but still...not the way it was on the phone. At some point, I made a decision that I needed to move away from the town I lived in after my divorce. I decided on Tallahassee because it felt comfortable and like home when I'd visited. I talked with him about it, and he was excited. I didn't want him to think I had expectations of us becoming a couple if I did that, because we'd drifted away from the "naughty" talk, and were more just close friends. He had said he wasn't ready for a relationship, and I understood...I wasn't really ready for that either. I hoped that we'd spend time together and just figure out if there was something there or not when either of us was ready. Apparently, there was nothing there. I haven't talked to him in almost 6 months. Technically, I did not move for him. I also did not have to change jobs...my company was more than willing to have me work from home. I don't regret moving, I love it here. I'm sad that we aren't in touch, but sometimes people have to leave your life, for reasons that have nothing to do with you. I figure if nothing else, our relationship, whatever it was/is, is the reason that I moved here...and maybe I never would have tried pottery...and maybe I would not have ever come back to A*F*F* and met all of you to blog with. (Sorry for the novel...it's late, I'm tired...and that all just flew out of my fingers, lol) "Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is relax." – Mark Black
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My hopeless romantic fling comes to mind with this one. Thoughts from the Garden...
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I know this situation only all too well. In my case it is still unresolved ... and I do not know what will happen eventually ...
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9/25/2018 8:44 pm |
Each situation is different. Sometimes it might work out and other times another sharp curve or roadblock occurs and it might end. You have to talk through these situations.
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9/25/2018 9:55 pm |
All the time. And for different reasons. It all seems great. things are going well then that one thing comes up. On my side or her side, its a deal breaker. So the process stops and we continue a different sort of relationship. Two really good friends of mine started that way. I guess the bottom line is that not all relationships between men and women have to include sex or a wedding. I have friends that I play darts with, eat at nice restaurants, go hiking.... and all are great friends. And some move on and that's OK, too.
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9/26/2018 1:45 am |
Tried it - did not work out this time, but who knows what the future may bring. Ideally we should be close to each other, but I am not afraid to try a long-distance one again, as moving for me is a possibility
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Had a couple of long-distance online relationships where we intended to meet but it never happened. So the subject of relocation never really came up in any great seriousness. I've no real ties to my current location except that I like the place, so I guess that may not have been a stumbling block. But I can see how it can be a barrier in some relationships. You just have to work through it when the time comes. Or if it's something immovable, maybe just have to accept that it's not going to work out.
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That's a tough one.... a pretty fast ride on the relationship escalator it seems tho. To be talking about relocation before they've even met? I personally seem to have better long-distance relationships than any other. I think it's the enforced distance that actually makes things better for me. Or maybe because I travel so much. Of course, if I ever stop traveling, I might change my mind... 
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Good Morning J  You don't say if they ever actually met? Why not plan a Holiday/s together prior to making the big decision. Please visit my Blog "Older but no Wiser"
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A lot of serious "thinking" would come into play! 
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I have remained friends despite the roadblocks. Yes, those dreaded two words; long distance often get in the way. If I had the finances; I would have moved by now. Not to a different country but at least as close as to not having to spend a weekend in a hotel once in a blue moon. 
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There was someone long distance once ....we met and are still good friends but I could never locate too far away from my family.  ~~Anais Nin~~
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distance perspective is probably different over on that side of the Atlantic, but yes, and attempt was made at a long distance relationship on here, long ended. At the time, relocation was not an issue given how I was making my money. We still stay in touch via whatsapp. I also met another lady from hre who lived, again, in the south of England. Flying to meet was never an issue tough the first woman was a little further south and the relationship one
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