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Ms. Cellophane  

gottaring 51F
10312 posts
4/23/2012 4:49 pm
Ms. Cellophane


Dammit.

Why is it so fricking hard to just come out and be vulnerable? To lay things on the line and say what I'm really thinking/feeling?

You guys will say, 'Gee, Gotta, you're pretty fricking transparent already!" and yes, to some extent that's true. But there's a lot that you don't see because I just can't be that open. Not because you'll use my weakness against me, but because you might think I'm a bit of a freak.

We all hide our holes, don't we? Both literally, and figuratively, in my case, lol.

I've read two posts about the discrepancies between men and women and their respective thought processes. I've been ruminating on the subject all day with respect to my own situation and I've come up with bupkus. I wrote a comment on someone's post (I haven't requested permission to<b> </font></b>her, so I won't), but I think the comment sums it up pretty well:

You are so right- WE complicate men far more than we need to. They really are simple creatures, aren't they?

He's hungry--> he eats.

We watch him eat and we wonder why he's so hungry? Did he cheat on us with another woman and ramp up his appetite? Since when does he like Munster cheese? SHE must have given him Munster cheese- that ! And why can't he use a napkin instead of his sleeve? If SHE could see this side of him, I bet she'd run screaming. I hope that cheese makes him fart while she's blowing him.

Meanwhile, he's like a deer in headlights because he can't tell Munster cheese from drywall tape and just grabbed the first thing he could find.


Why do we do this shit? Who knows. Why do we hang our mouths open like walleyes when we apply mascara? .

So Guys, let me ask you something...are you really that simple and easy to understand? Should I take you at face value and not search for motivations and hidden meanings?

And how does one learn to 'lay it all out there'? Yes, I've said it before: I'm real and what you see is what you get. But there's also more to me that you don't see, and might eventually get.

I always say I hide my crazy in my hips, lol. That oughta tell you exactly how nuts I am.

When it comes to sex, I need a STRONG connection. Otherwise, the page just keeps buffering and takes FOREVER to load...


ABBC12356 41M
2268 posts
4/15/2016 7:20 am

GOOD


urzorally 55M
740 posts
5/11/2012 7:08 am


iowigian 60M

4/24/2012 5:21 pm

Item one: Men are simple.
Item two: Women are complex.
Item three: If it were otherwise, there would be no wars, but we would all die of boredom.

Having said that, both sexes can be devious. Transparency is a noble goal, but is difficult to achieve. Much risk involved. My experience is that it only happens when incredible trust has been earned...or if a guy thinks it will allow him to get laid...

Such is the mystery of life.


gottaring replies on 4/26/2012 8:13 am:
I do notice that me tend to 'appear' more open when sex is on the line. They'll admit to anything and feign transparency if the believe vulnerability will get them what they desire.

That's why I tend to believe that they are full of shit all the time, lol.

sugar4you1980 43F
5077 posts
4/24/2012 4:29 pm

I believe that men ARE simpler than women, but they are not simple. They are humans and there is nothing uncomplicated about human behaviors. They have just been given the excuse that they are simpler so they have an out when it comes to elaborating on certain things. In my mind ... I am a simple person ... but many would disagree. I say what I want to people. That does not come without repercussions, but I was born with my filtering system out of whack.

The most important thing you can wear is the expression on your face!


gottaring replies on 4/26/2012 8:15 am:
My filter is at the repair shop, resulting the demise of my ability to ask the questions I want to ask. Normally, I'd have no problem saying, "Are you fucking kidding me with this shit? Crap, or get off the pot, buddy!"

Now, I'm left with, "How do you feel, Babe?"

KarlBloggerfeld 54M
8624 posts
4/24/2012 1:16 pm

People tend to over-simplify things because then it's easier to categorize something as black or white, as opposed to that pesky gray.

Nevertheless, there's some truth to what you say. Men can be fairly simple creatures - straightforward, goal driven. "Must kill mammoth." I think it's part of our DNA due to the way that we've evolved.

Similarly, women can't typically get their way through brute force. They've had to evolve to be alert to nuances of behavior - after all, they didn't want Grog the Caveman getting pissed at them and tossing Junior off the cliff.

Of course, I'm pulling this out of my ass and could be totally wrong.

karlbloggerfeld - Dry-humping your legs since 2007.


gottaring replies on 4/26/2012 8:18 am:
I don't generally give a crap why men do the things they do. I just want them to be consistent in their behavior: if you want to be take at face value as a rule, then quit being evasive and moody. Pick a lane and stay in it.

rm_4jasmine2 53F
10698 posts
4/24/2012 9:14 am

I think I am also a bit more simple - just say how it is or how I feel. But on the other hand, maybe I have not been blesses with the necessary social graces??

Something interesting in my life: A surprise on my naked body this morning
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gottaring replies on 4/26/2012 8:19 am:
I think your social graces are just fine- insofar as what I see on this site. Most of the people here tend toward candor and openness .

citizen4722 66M  
74582 posts
4/24/2012 8:02 am

I've got a lot to give, but just not on here


miss_priss4fun 48F

4/24/2012 6:42 am

I do believe that men are simple creatures on the whole. I admire this approach so much I have adopted it as my own. When dealing with others I choose to think in one steps instead of subtext and countersubtext. That or I'm a Fabulous cross-dressing guy lucky enough to be born in a very curvy woman's body

The statements made herein are in no way meant to express the opinions or views of ANYBODY ELSE.



There is no abnormal and normal
Just honest and dishonest


gottaring replies on 4/26/2012 8:21 am:
Yeah, I sometimes wonder if I was born with wrong privates, lol. I tend to be quite straightforward and no-nonsense- if I like you, you know it, if I don't, you'll know that, too.

spudsy1000 50M
6594 posts
4/24/2012 5:40 am

I've been asking that exact same question for YEARS lol

"A full blown basket of hash browns with a steaming cup of 'WTF?" on the side"

Enter my Lair: spudsy1000


Comecloser00 49M
98 posts
4/23/2012 10:36 pm

*grabs your hips and wiggles you*


gottaring replies on 4/26/2012 8:22 am:
*Giggles and tells you everything you want to know*

Diogenes5959 64M

4/23/2012 8:23 pm

I think women give men too much credit for being deep thinkers with ulterior motives. I know I'm not. Ask me for advice and I'll give it. Ask me for help and I'll try and fix it. Take us at face value. We'll do what we can and tell you when we can't.

Men are not super-analytical, over-emotional, hyper-sensitive people. We're not women.


gottaring replies on 4/23/2012 10:00 pm:
You think I'm fat, don't you?

That's what your answer means. You think I'm fat. And you hate my friends and you want to break up with me. You didn't even finish the pot roast I made- I worked so hard on it and you barely touched it. I get it- you're cheating on me with that whore from your office! Lesbian, my ass! She's no lesbo- you just said that to throw me off her scent, you asshole.

Why don't you love me?



(That's for calling me super-analytical, etc., and using 'woman' as a pejorative term. Don't make me sic my Girls on you- those bitches will kick your virtual ass, lol).

bbcjay8in_isback 46M

4/23/2012 7:43 pm

Strong and silent....thats the way to go
Men, be strong. Women, be silent.


Adventures of a Reformed Midwestern Player

Go 'head. You know you wanna.


GimmeAThrill 55M  
24635 posts
4/23/2012 7:37 pm

I know have a plan for my next relationship... randomly eating, and saying, "I didn't eat because I was hungry." That'll twist her noodle.

Smart as a horse and hung like Einstein.


spiderj72 51M
7898 posts
4/23/2012 5:18 pm

there is a lot in each sex that we wish we could change. men could listen more, women could talk less. the whole sitcom business is based on this stuff after all. now what i have to say is this. if you communicate honestly it will be rewarded. like i will say "if you hips are crazy then no one should be sane." and you will say "you know exactly what to say" and i will count myself lucky and we will both feel better. just as men want to fix womens problems instinctively women want to complicate their men by the same token. strange but true.


gottaring replies on 4/23/2012 7:15 pm:
What men don't realize is that often, what they aren't willing to share is exactly the problem. It speaks to every insecurity that women have: we aren't trustworthy enough or important enough, we don't mean enough to you.

Women can be 'simple' too: if you care, you'll tell me.

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