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Blogs > senecaguy2 > Sex - Hot - Cold - Fun - Funny

I don't know what to do  

senecaguy2 63M
537 posts
2/24/2014 2:04 pm

Last Read:
2/26/2014 8:42 am
I don't know what to do

One of my good friends lost his job in 2008. He is excellent in his profession and well recognized. He is now 65 years old. He has been unable to find a new job. They had retirement savings and investments, but five years of no work has eaten up all that. He has applied for jobs, but is either too old (not stated to him, of course, but they fired young guys) or too qualified. Scome time ago another friend and I recommended he become a consultant because we felt he could make a lot more money than with a regular job. But he said he did not feel he could do that. His wife retired and made no attempt to get a job.

He has worked for others his entire work life. He has never been unemployed for longer than a month or two until 2008.

Now they are out of money they are going to sell their house. They are very, very depressed.

I have a deal going to build a facility in Tbilisi in the country of Georgia. I would employ him for that. But in three years the project has crept along and is still months if not years away.

I don't know how to support him. We used to have lunch at very good restaurants. One part of me says I should continue to invite him to those same restaurants. Another part of me wonders if doing so will send a message that I can still afford it, you can't. If I invite to cheaper restaurants won't that deliver the message "you failed."

I am really bothered. He is a friend and will continue to be a friend. It does not matter to me whether he has money or not. It does not change my view that he is a friend. As a friend, I really really want to support him. I can remember when I went broke in a business venture. There were so called friends who may not have said, but dumped me and gave every impression I deserved to be homeless. I am sure there are some of the people he knows who will treat him the same way. I want to support him even more so now that he is going through the tough times. How do I do that?

secretlives72 51F
155 posts
2/25/2014 1:07 am

 Continue to do lunch....when you invite, go to the same restuarants. If he offers to buy, he chooses. Dont change a thing in your relationship...continue as you have before.
On your next trip to Tbilis, if you truly believe he would make a good consultant, offer him the trip with you to get his opinion. Or find a position in your company stateside.


senecaguy2 63M
339 posts
2/26/2014 8:42 am
    Quoting secretlives72:
    Continue to do lunch....when you invite, go to the same restuarants. If he offers to buy, he chooses. Dont change a thing in your relationship...continue as you have before.
    On your next trip to Tbilis, if you truly believe he would make a good consultant, offer him the trip with you to get his opinion. Or find a position in your company stateside.
I believe you are correct. That is probably what I will do.


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