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Blogs > thegrlsnme > Thoughts from a late bloomer

Can you love 2 people at the same time  

thegrlsnme 67F
2769 posts
1/21/2017 7:15 am
Can you love 2 people at the same time

Good morning, I hope this finds you with that secret smile on your face. I do have one.

One of my crew, and I had a discussion about can you love 2 people at the same time.

I guess first, it would depend on someones definiton of love, and do you believe in love. If you don't, then this is a moot blog.

My definition of love, is a person doing something for someone without expectations. Doing something because you want to, not because you are obligated. That is not putting them above you or below you, I believe two people should work together. Yes, one may require more attention then the other, and there are always more ifs, ands, or buts involved.

One statement said to me has stuck with me. "maybe if I loved her more".

I feel you either love someone or you don't. You can't love someone more, you either love them or not. Of course, what do I know.

For whatever reason, some of us are in relationships, and seeing other people as well. It could be for sex, compantionship, or whatever, but it's happening.

I have come to understand there are extenuating circumstances, such as an Illness. From talking to both parties, the sick one, and the other one, I can understand that situation. My eyes were opened when a female friend said she hoped her husband, would find someone for sex, as she had not had it with him, since she had some major medical stuff going on that would not change. The discussion was very involved, and it did open my eyes.

It seems many couples stay together for whatever reason, and one or both are stepping out. I guess from my perspective unless its medical, get a divorce, and move on.

I can understand being the person that loves someone you cannot be with, for whatever reason.

If that is you, you have some choices. 1) continue to see that person only
2) see that person enjoying what time you can with them, and seeing other people as well, or 3) move on.

Let's put it this way, I'm not saving myself for anybody. Unless someone says, Linda, I want to be exclusive, I am my own person, and will see whom ever I want to.

I believe there is always going to be that one person we will always love, people stay together for whatever reason and will step out, we can see others while still loving one.

If that person died, you would move on. If they are alive and not your partner, you figure out what is best for you.

I believe you can truly love one person, and care about the other. But, like I said earlier, what do I know.

So, my question to you is, can you love 2 people at the same time.

Have a great day.
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls
karmamdA 65M
311 posts
1/22/2017 5:59 pm

 yes you can just look at the mormans


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
1/22/2017 10:15 pm
    Quoting karmamdA:
    yes you can just look at the mormans
If I was a mormon, I would have manhusbands. I'm not sharing........thegrls
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


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