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Blogs > thegrlsnme > Thoughts from a late bloomer

how come we can't find that person  

thegrlsnme 67F
2769 posts
9/10/2014 3:25 pm
how come we can't find that person

I have been dating for awhile longer than I thought I would be. With that being said, I continue to see many other singles in the same situation.

Some of them feel the same as I do, when will that person for me come into my life. With all the single men and women out there stating they are looking for someone for a relationship, why are we still single or unattached.

There are many. many of us looking and getting no where. I wonder why with all the dating sites, and places people can meet, are we still out here if we truly want a relationship.

How do we find that person. It's a mystery to me. It doesn't matter what dating site a person is on, people are basically the same. With Senior Sizzle, however, we know what the site is, so the sex question is not a surprise, it is sort of a given.

I guess with all the single people I know and see on line that say they are truly want someone why we cannot hook up to make that happen. What's the secret. why can't we find each other.

I wish you luck in what you are searching for here........thegrls
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls
jerr51 63M
2050 posts
9/10/2014 4:16 pm

 Thought that many times sometimes feel like I am damaged or something wrong with me.Seems like it should be easy but its not


mindworker1970 53M
328 posts
9/10/2014 4:33 pm

 The problem is that people are not honest. Not with other people, but especially not with themselves. Finding the right person takes time and effort, no matter how you do it or which dating site you use. I am on here because I met my wife here. We had 10 years before she passed away, and I am hopeful I will find someone who makes me feel the same way at some point. But I will not settle for anyone, only The One. However long it takes. Unlike a lot of people on this site though, I KNOW it can happen. Good luck to you.


AlvinBooth 70M
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5468 posts
9/10/2014 5:40 pm

 How come we can't find that person? Hummm ... Perhaps nobody is looking for us ... for one thing. Or the person doing the looking ... on both sides ... has such a long list of pre-conditions and "must haves" ... "can't haves" .... that no such person exists on this planet while the whole time crying and moaning that they can't find anybody.

I have given up because ... like most of us ... I live on planet Earth and will never match up to anyone's laundry list.

AB
No Bozos


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
9/11/2014 4:43 pm
    Quoting jerr51:
    Thought that many times sometimes feel like I am damaged or something wrong with me.Seems like it should be easy but its not
I used to think that myself. What is wrong with me. there is nothing wrong with me. It seems the men I end up caring about or really like, are not there for the same reason I am.

I always say, it takes two people with the same relationship goals. It's almost like finding a needle in a haystack. thegrls
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
9/11/2014 4:44 pm
    Quoting mindworker1970:
    The problem is that people are not honest. Not with other people, but especially not with themselves. Finding the right person takes time and effort, no matter how you do it or which dating site you use. I am on here because I met my wife here. We had 10 years before she passed away, and I am hopeful I will find someone who makes me feel the same way at some point. But I will not settle for anyone, only The One. However long it takes. Unlike a lot of people on this site though, I KNOW it can happen. Good luck to you.
I agree with you as well, many people are not honest about what they are looking for, or in fact about their relationship status.

I see several people have met their partners here as well on other sites. I still believe their is hope. I just sometimes get tired of playing the game. thegrls
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
9/11/2014 4:47 pm
    Quoting AlvinBooth:
    How come we can't find that person? Hummm ... Perhaps nobody is looking for us ... for one thing. Or the person doing the looking ... on both sides ... has such a long list of pre-conditions and "must haves" ... "can't haves" .... that no such person exists on this planet while the whole time crying and moaning that they can't find anybody.

    I have given up because ... like most of us ... I live on planet Earth and will never match up to anyone's laundry list.

    AB
I try to keep an open mind when dating. I don't have that many pre-conditions. If a person does, they will have a heck of a time finding someone. I figure at my age, we should be passed all those pre-conditions. Things like expecting the person to have a job, car, and proper hygiene, are pretty simple. I have found many men want someone to take care of them. thegrls
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
9/11/2014 4:48 pm
    Quoting mcmaniac:
    The sad fact is, there are no guarantees that we will ever find a perfect match, and I'm done settling for something close.
who's looking for the perfect match. I agree, there is not a perfect match. I am not going to settle either. I still believe in love. I know, I am sappy..........thegrls
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


jerr51 63M
2050 posts
9/12/2014 6:04 am
    Quoting thegrlsnme:
    I used to think that myself. What is wrong with me. there is nothing wrong with me. It seems the men I end up caring about or really like, are not there for the same reason I am.

    I always say, it takes two people with the same relationship goals. It's almost like finding a needle in a haystack. thegrls
Took me a long time to realize it wasn't me too, but my choices and who I attract to me.Needle in a haystack says it exactly.


s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
10/10/2014 12:08 am

 I have to think that it is something bigger than us.Since settling isn't an answer.There is something better around the corner..We certainly can't be desperate at this stage.No one will take anytime to get to know someone anymore.The addiction to sites is really turning into something worthy of meetings and step programs.

I can't bring myself to go to Wikipedia and find the stats on the number of people that die without someone in their life at the end.They most likely will have one of the worst pictures of me there. Good luck to you as well.
Using more than all the road!


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
10/10/2014 3:27 am
    Quoting s2ndegree:
    I have to think that it is something bigger than us.Since settling isn't an answer.There is something better around the corner..We certainly can't be desperate at this stage.No one will take anytime to get to know someone anymore.The addiction to sites is really turning into something worthy of meetings and step programs.

    I can't bring myself to go to Wikipedia and find the stats on the number of people that die without someone in their life at the end.They most likely will have one of the worst pictures of me there. Good luck to you as well.
I believe it is something bigger than us as well. I also think about the people that don't have anybody or may never have anybody. I believe there is someone for everyone..........thegrls
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


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