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Never Be Ashamed Of A Scar
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Never Be Ashamed Of A Scar  Recently, I had an interesting conversation with a friend about being a cancer survivor. It's not something I hide but at the same time, I don't mention it in my profile nor during initial conversations. He chastised me for not declaring my 'status' and that I should shout it from the rooftops! As I look at it, it's a part of who I am but it doesn't define who I am. I don’t want it 'to' be the centre of conversation. I am fully recovered and have since had another life-threatening illness, less than two years ago. Does that make sense 'to' you? Let me share a story: I have 2 small scars on my chest, below my collarbone. I am much less aware of them now and they are only visible depending on the neckline of what I wear. If you look closely at the second picture on my profile, you can spot them. One time, I met someone new for dinner. After our order was taken, we were sipping cocktails and continuing 'to' get 'to' know each other. At one point, he looked at me and said, ‘What happened to you? Did you get knifed in a fight?’ I almost choked! I put my drink down, looked him straight in the eye and said, ‘No asshole. Those are from my chemo port that saved my life!’ With that, I excused myself and left without turning around. Was he nervous and misspoke? Did I overreact? It doesn’t matter as I have never regretted my decision. I used 'to' feel obliged 'to' warn a potential partner about my scars (I have a few other ones). However, no one else has ever mentioned them nor asked me about them. Although most have faded, they will always remind me of where I have been. If someone can’t see past them, they aren’t the type of people I want to be around. |
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One of my favourite songs is 'Scars To Your Beautiful' by Alessia Cara Below are my favourite lines from it which should be a reminder to everyone: You should know you're beautiful just the way you are And you don't have to change a thing, the world could change its heart No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful
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Progress in *health care* and affluence has made near-flawless bodies an option, primarily for plutocrats. Compounding this trend toward ultra-vanity are high-tech cosmetics, teeth bleaching/replacement and the all-too-familiar photo-shopping. Sadly, the *Heidelberg dueling scars* of yore have faded as sexy badges-of-courage. A long life in the *tall grass* all over the world has imprinted me with a collection of scars. To riff on Rod Stewart, *every picture tells a story*. And such stories (including your own challenges) are far more enthralling and character-defining than a visit to your plastic surgeon for blemish removal or nose straightening.
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7/20/2020 12:54 pm |
sexyldy, Being a person that has some scares as well some very visible. I totally respect you and the way you handle yourself. It's one thing if they ask you if you want to talk about them. Another if the just assume you want to talk about them.
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Glad you had the balls to get up and leave, some one that would make such a remark does not deserve your company.. I have scars, I was visited by melanoma about 12 years back and it left me with a scar in the center lower part of my back that is ugly. but After 2 surgeries, removal of a bunch of lymph nodes; it was noted that it had not spread, and I made it, NO more sunshine, no tan lines just be careful and continue to watch for any recurrence other than that just life time battle scares, but They don't bother me and is none of any one else's issues.. Glad you made it and hopeful that you will enjoy a healthy life.. Be safe..don't let the new bug get to you!! Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
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I have known women that have had C/ sections and don't want to show the scars and never get totally naked, I just think that none of us are perfect so it probably in the main doesn't make any difference to your mate.
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I love your resolve to never sit idle and just accept ignorant criticism. The old expression " Nip It In The Bud ", is definitely what you did.
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I agree with you. Most of us have some type of body imperfections, scars, stretch marks, etc. I view them as signs you're a real person, whose led a real life. It's part of who you are.
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Blessed you are healthy now. Never be concerned about small minds.
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Scars are a fact of life my friend, I have one from my four c-sections, then I have a jagged one on my left arm, from a glass falling out of a window and cutting one of my blood veins open. I am so glad that you finally shared this story with us, and congratulations to for being a Cancer Survivor. And you know you have to do what feels right for you when they say things like that to you, as it wasn't very nice. If someone really wants to get to know you, and have a relationship with you then no scars that you have should matter. I hope you enjoy the rest of your day..  Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on.. 
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they call "hickeys" love-marks, and moles beauty-marks, guess you can consider scars "LIFE-marks" ? my only openly visible ones (when clothed), thank god, are many simple oven-rack burns on my arms collected over the years. but i DID once have a doctor ask if i did "cutting". at least it WAS his business to ask. as far as your date casually asking, i can see it, but going right to "knife-fight"? BIG warning flag. good move moving on asap "well only get through this if we work together. if we dont, none of us will"
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7/20/2020 2:21 pm |
I have a beauty of a scar running sown from just below my navel to a few inches above..... I am a prostate cancer survivor and have lived without a prostate since August 2002. I can no longer ejaculate, have not had a normal/natural erection since August 17, 2002 and no longer ooze precum at the beginning of festivities. The worst part is that the surgery cut a hole in my urinary system and I drip. But, I'm alive, cancer free and still have magnificent orgasms....
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7/20/2020 4:38 pm |
I don't have any tattoos but I've got some nice scars. I've always said tattoos are bought, but scars are earned. My Ex had a scar that ran from one side to the other side across her throat from gland surgery, it was so sexy....
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[image} for the courage to share
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A while back, I did a blog on scars as well. I've got several due to surgery for auto immune system issues. My under arms look like they were sewn back together - bout a 12 inch scar under my left boob - somewhat faded now. And, several others. Like you, I won't let them define me ... they give us character ... show that we lived life and not just sat on the sidelines. What a fucking douche bag he was to say something like that. No - don't think you overreacted. If he was truly interested in knowing, I believe he absolutely should have been more tactful. Way to go for fighting and being a survivor of such a terrible illness, brave, brave lady! *snuggles* In Luv, Lite, Laffter ...
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They are just part of life!! Meant that you lived and you are still alive!!! 
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hmmm... I guess everyone has a scar of some sort or another. Some are just more visible. ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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One of my favourite songs is 'Scars To Your Beautiful' by Alessia Cara Below are my favourite lines from it which should be a reminder to everyone: You should know you're beautiful just the way you are And you don't have to change a thing, the world could change its heart No scars to your beautiful, we're stars and we're beautiful
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Progress in *health care* and affluence has made near-flawless bodies an option, primarily for plutocrats. Compounding this trend toward ultra-vanity are high-tech cosmetics, teeth bleaching/replacement and the all-too-familiar photo-shopping. Sadly, the *Heidelberg dueling scars* of yore have faded as sexy badges-of-courage. A long life in the *tall grass* all over the world has imprinted me with a collection of scars. To riff on Rod Stewart, *every picture tells a story*. And such stories (including your own challenges) are far more enthralling and character-defining than a visit to your plastic surgeon for blemish removal or nose straightening.
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sexyldy, Being a person that has some scares as well some very visible. I totally respect you and the way you handle yourself. It's one thing if they ask you if you want to talk about them. Another if the just assume you want to talk about them.
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Glad you had the balls to get up and leave, some one that would make such a remark does not deserve your company.. I have scars, I was visited by melanoma about 12 years back and it left me with a scar in the center lower part of my back that is ugly. but After 2 surgeries, removal of a bunch of lymph nodes; it was noted that it had not spread, and I made it, NO more sunshine, no tan lines just be careful and continue to watch for any recurrence other than that just life time battle scares, but They don't bother me and is none of any one else's issues.. Glad you made it and hopeful that you will enjoy a healthy life.. Be safe..don't let the new bug get to you!!
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I have known women that have had C/ sections and don't want to show the scars and never get totally naked, I just think that none of us are perfect so it probably in the main doesn't make any difference to your mate.
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I love your resolve to never sit idle and just accept ignorant criticism. The old expression " Nip It In The Bud ", is definitely what you did.
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I agree with you. Most of us have some type of body imperfections, scars, stretch marks, etc. I view them as signs you're a real person, whose led a real life. It's part of who you are.
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Blessed you are healthy now. Never be concerned about small minds.
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Scars are a fact of life my friend, I have one from my four c-sections, then I have a jagged one on my left arm, from a glass falling out of a window and cutting one of my blood veins open. I am so glad that you finally shared this story with us, and congratulations to for being a Cancer Survivor. And you know you have to do what feels right for you when they say things like that to you, as it wasn't very nice. If someone really wants to get to know you, and have a relationship with you then no scars that you have should matter. I hope you enjoy the rest of your day.. .
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