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DoctorBooty 43M  
6426 posts
9/4/2020 4:04 pm

Best offer is the only way to go to get laid, in my opinion.

In my time here I see that men and women approach it differently altogether, thus the lack of meetups or the oft complaint of sour meetups.

Men look at it as a buffet in general, thinking women will say yes to a cock picture or a phone number and nothing else. "She must want dick so I'll use that to lure her and won't have to put any effort in" So I'm told a lot of nasty messages can come about when he shows his dick and she says "nah".

Both sides are often cheaters looking to sneak around if they are singles, so they lie a lot, and that leads to meetups that cannot meet expectations and things turn sour.

I could write essays on it and I think I have, but thats my .02.


bfun421 45M

9/4/2020 4:12 pm

i always give my best offer first if u do not like it i leave


gwme1997 44M
16 posts
9/4/2020 4:47 pm

The experience varies so much depending upon the person. I have found it rare for everything to line up. It is sure fun when it does though!


justaguyinalaska 57M
879 posts
9/4/2020 5:02 pm

While I believe your analogy is appropriate for a significant segment of this community, my sense is that is not fully-inclusive. For many of us, sexy-time is secondary to building authentic, trust-based friendships.

That said, I concur with your transactional analysis for those who seek sexual connection(s) as a primary objective during their time here. Moreover, you have also accurately described the mechanics of transactions between sex workers and their clients.

Which in my mind begs this question: would not many of the members of this community achieve more expedient and satisfying fulfillment of their objectives by simply connecting with sex workers?


ULIXBIG 69M
9288 posts
9/4/2020 5:12 pm

I like your flea market analogy.


Merida8in 51M

9/4/2020 6:17 pm

Best offer always


Bllll56ccv 26M

9/4/2020 7:03 pm

Hmmmm


Miner1980Brown1 62F
113 posts
9/4/2020 7:04 pm

From a lady's point of view:

Most of the messages that I receive are not worthy to respond to, however, in most cases, I will respond with a "Thank you for writing to me" and go on from there. I go for quality of the conversation on here prior to meeting anyone in person in public before I even think about having sex with them. I have met very few on here; much less played with them.

Since this crazy pandemic has begun, I am not meeting anyone. It is their prerogative to continue with a conversation or not, once I have stated this since they are wanting to meet and play now than wait. They still have the same mentality whether or not this pandemic came about. I still have the same protocols and rules that I follow in vetting out potential playmates; which is my prerogative.


DiscreetQuirky 55M  
280 posts
9/4/2020 7:09 pm

Sounds about right. I am a believer in treating others as equals - yes, even on here. And it would be much nicer if people of all flavors could be less intolerant/angry with other people's clumsiness in interacting.


Orallyfixated193 54M
2 posts
9/4/2020 7:44 pm

I totally agree! I think men and women both show up with unrealistic expectations without seeing things for what they really are. And then, for the newbie, there's kind of a shock factor. It's definitely sensory overload before even contacting someone. Then there's a whole slew of 'how should I's and 'what's the protocol for this action' kinda questions running through the mind. I won't go off the range because books could be written on this subject. We still have to have some connection before the initial quick hook up or whatever it is we're looking for here, to happen. And also, we shouldn't be so dismissive because someone does't reply or respond in the exact manner as we want. Patience and giving someone a break goes a long way at times. That being said, yes, I know there's a lot of jackass' here that are beyond ones time. Fortunately, everyone isn't like that. But yeah. It's a search at times.


merlot5555 67M/57F  
1472 posts
9/5/2020 6:45 am

...wowowow... now this is why the blogs are the place to be.... thoughtful and insightful..... kudos to you ms. 12FK2......

..... the buffet is the mirage... the flea market is the reality.... and within the flea market there are so many interesting things to be bartered.... and for some the bartering is the fun... after all, if it was just sex that was desired there are far more readily transactional options out there that are assured to have the desired outcome....

....within the flea market, some are browsing.... some are just watching... some are actively seeking something..... and some want to be watched..... a regular cornucopia of sensual delights and titillating offerings.... and the quiet negotiations take place all the time....some come to successful conclusions and some expire when the tit and the tat come up short.... but that's ok for there are other tables, other offerings.... and sometimes, people come looking for a kindred spirit... someone with whom to share their carnal desires... more on an ongoing basis rather than a transactional basis.... all good....

....and yes, this flea market has it all... but there is one special thing you can almost rest assuredly be guaranteed about within this arena of sensual delights..... the attitudes of most... since the distinction between the buyers and the sellers is muddied indeed, the vast majority have a healthy attitude towards their sexuality and understand the wide spectrum of choices.... and that is probably why many are drawn into the mix.... less judgement and more understanding....better chance of finding your needles in the haystack .... and less judgemental knowing nods saying maybe what you are looking for is not their thing, but it's ok if it's yours..... and of course sometimes there are the ones that stir things up but it's easy to ignore them.... that's what blocking is for....

...now go find what you are looking for.... and happy hunting and good luck...

....carpe diem....


seems6666 53F  
4838 posts
9/5/2020 7:37 am

Hmmm flea market analogy... I would offer my lowest price first ,, and haggle...you can go up but you can't go down.... Most men aren't interested in haggling,, (trying) they think sex is on the plate however they introduce themselves. WRONG!


merlot5555 67M/57F  
1472 posts
9/5/2020 8:42 am

    Quoting seems6666:
    Hmmm flea market analogy... I would offer my lowest price first ,, and haggle...you can go up but you can't go down.... Most men aren't interested in haggling,, (trying) they think sex is on the plate however they introduce themselves. WRONG!
....lol... I think many are hoping that there is a lot of going up and going down involved in the transaction.... after the haggling is completed.... big grin....


CedarsPrince 44M
1608 posts
9/5/2020 8:42 pm

As the buyer, do you give the seller your best offer to try and secure their goods? As the seller, do you accept sub par offers and relinquish your items?

As the buyer, do you brow beat and curse out the seller if they do not accept your offer?

As the seller, do you brow beat and curse out the buyer if they give you a sub par offer? OR Do both buyer and seller come to the table with some amount of mutual respect and cordiality and discuss matters in a congenial way? And whether a deal is made or not, do both parties walk away and go on with their lives, usually without any harm done?


As a buyer, I am more or less window shopping and if an opportunity presents itself, approach the person respectfully. Never understood the childish tantrum if there is no connection or return communication, like some of the other members on here

As a seller, I am respectful and although this is a buffet for many, this site is a food truck with only some items on the menu that catch my eye. I still will be nice and respectful, even to the guys who message me (yes, even gay guys don't read profiles).

Unfortunately, this place is no different than a bar with guys trying to pick up with the one exception, they can hide behind a monitor to be a bully, and disrespectful


lindoboy100 61M
23969 posts
9/7/2020 4:10 am

Nothing wrong with your analogies here Mc12.

When I go out to eat, I always like to peruse the menu carefully, and I try to find out as much as I can about the dish before finalising my decision. I'm patient. Good food is to be savoured, I don't like indigestion.

Sadly, as with most things in the modern world, most people seem to want fast food, which in my experience is rarely as satisfying as the advertising would have you believe.

Ye need tae the try haggis, neeps and tatties sometime Mc12! No' the bonniest to look at, but interesting, spicy and highly nutritious.......


proteus_2a 58M
7979 posts
9/10/2020 8:11 am

Kudos for another insightful post my lady, like everyone says in the comments

Staying with your analogy of offer and demand, I would add the parameters of :

-- Numerics ( the extremely low female population in relevance to the male one)
-- Aims pursued ( regarding level of availability of the member )

Now put into this mix the frustration of members trying to achieve an end game in their own time limit - and I'm talking both Fem / Male here, mind you,
-not to mention technical glitches and the ubiquitous change of parameters imposed by a site aimed at profit you have a Carnivalistic situation , much like real life, enhancing the worst traits of human interaction
"...A veritable 3 ring circus, like the saying goes, run by the monkeys ..."

As for myself, I have kept in these 9 years I am on here, 4 contacts, with which I interact quite frequently, in a friendly level, sexual or not, according to taste

Double that number , have vanished in time, having passed and gone

Cheers my lady

P


freespirit11501 53M
1542 posts
9/11/2020 1:18 pm

I think that is a pretty accurate analogy J. I was taught long ago to always try and make your first impression your best impression because there is no guarantee you will get another chance. In my opinion, I believe that there are a lot of people that go with the quantity as opposed to quality approach. "If I reach out to 100 women, even if my approach is half-assed, I will get my foot in the door on at last a couple of them." That has never been my approach in anything in life, but too each his own I suppose.

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merlot5555 67M/57F  
1472 posts
9/29/2020 9:16 am

.....so Georgia... how is the haggling going? ....


merlot5555 67M/57F  
1472 posts
10/31/2020 8:11 am

....as in fine wine.. some amazing things take time to properly come together.. the art of the flirtation is as mouthwatering as the actual sipping and beyond... in an age where fast food and immediate gratification are always on the menu, sometimes, just sometimes... the long lazy meandering adventure becomes the story that keeps you awake at night... pondering ... wondering....

..... in my neck of the woods, I am in full blown bow hunting season.... quick and fast and easy is never on the menu.... but when the adventure does come together, that fine wine is the perfect choice of beverage to wash it down.... and then the vessel in which the wine comes to the lips is as equally important....


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