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Yes, there has to be a certain amount of decorum even on a site like this. Virtual courtship is possible. Given the very visual and salacious nature of this site context and connection are often hard to find. If someone you are communicating with supplies details, observations of their life and yours, a sense of something human then I think that is a basis for whatever might come next whether it be a concert, hooking up or simply finding a kindred spirit even if he/she is in a different location. My desire o contact another is generally based on an amalgam of physical appearance, something intelligent, cogent or funny in their profile and also a certain level of understatement... a million pics of bare breasts, while titilating, only go so far. BTW, nice pic, kind of a Gertrude Stein motif.
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6/27/2019 6:53 am |
I do agree with you on the blogs as being amusing- as far as contacting one person over another- it's the language they use in there blogs and profile- -
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That is the nature of this site unfortunately, I think men and possibly women think everyone is sat round, having a cup of tea just waiting to get laid by a stranger  At least his approach was honest and polite, what was his picture like?  I will answer messages from ppl who are within my mileage limit of 50 miles, except those that just say !hi" or fancy a fuck....SERIOUSLY!! if they read my profile and actually comment on it... even better
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The sites easy casual sex “join and get laid tonight” marketing leads most men to believe that women here will come running to service just any random dick that comes along at the drop of the hat without needing to put any effort into it. Judging by what women write in their blogs and responses on the advice line, most men are on this site because they don’t have the social skills to connect at any level with women in the real world and think this site will make for an easier solution than admitting to themselves that they need to change how they think and make an effort to learn, there’s plenty of relationship and dating advice on the internet for the sake of a simple search, and I don’t mean all that laughable pickup artist bullshit that leaves women laughing at them. On the page where one puts their location there is also the option of adding a travel location which adds to the belief that women, like a great many men, will fuck just anyone that happens to be coming through town. While there are easy women to be found on occasion, that certainly is not true for the majority, be it on this site or the real world, of course one needs to have learned something about how women in their right mind generally think and feel about sex and what excites them to make that sort of connection. As for your second question, I think even a totally blank female profile will get responses from many if not most men here, since all they want is a hookup just to get off with any willing woman or for that matter any random person of either sex. For me to write, since I’m not interested in random hookups that can be found without this site any night at darn near any neighborhood dive bar, a woman first has to be within reasonable driving time and then have something interesting written about herself in her profile along with enticing or at least interesting pictures of other than her boobs and genitals. Every woman has those, but not all have substance and an engaging personality. I haven’t bothered to pay for gold in a long time since there aren’t many women within reasonable driving time to begin with, and only a couple new not obviously fake members since the last time I paid to look at the now stale profiles that were of no interest the last time I read them. I did write the two or three that interested me, got one response that after a while unfortunately did not evolve into anything more.
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Others have addressed the main question as I might have. Re: contacting one person over another. In a word comparability. If a woman has written a profile (big IF) and what is written is interesting and does not exclude me I will contact her over someone who does not want X (age, sex, color, etc). When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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7/17/2019 8:51 am |
I still remember before I met my wife when I was meeting new people and I don't miss it. It takes a lot of time and effort to get to know people but I always took the time because of safety reasons when I was meeting people. Become an Apollorising58 watcher!
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I get a lot of these messages even though on my profile I state "must be from my city." The irony is that I do meet "visitors" (women and men) to my city, but on a non-dating social network, where I am their volunteer "guide" for a couple of hours. I enjoy introducing them to my city, and it has led to worthwhile friendships. Once there was indeed sexual chemistry and it could have led to an interesting experience, if I had wanted to. I can see the benefits to these limited-time hookups, but that's not how I prefer it. In that respect, yes, the site's marketing of us women as 'available anytime anywhere' is misleading.
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4/11/2020 6:45 pm |
Thanks for sharing your perspectives ladies. I appreciate it. I'm back on the site after a break of about a year. I'm being contacted FAR more now than ever before, and it's not really a good thing. Mostly, it's women in their 20s and 30s who send an ID validation link or ask for a gift card. Their profiles are very similar, which makes me wonder if they all come from the same 'profile factory.' When I have met someone that went on to become a real life friend, we usually clicked pretty fast, and not over talking about sex.
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