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g0y A personal view
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g0y A personal view *Before you read be warned this is a long post. Apologies for it being a bit rambley but trying to express my views and thoughts and maybe provoke an interesting discussion in the process* I'm am not one for posting to forums. But I came across a new word and it interested me. After researching the subject and found a culture identity that I would have happily identified with except for the fact, that according to this subculture they would not want me. A little about me first to let you know where I'm coming from. I am a bisexual male. On the Kinsey scale I would put myself at a 5. For those who don't know about the Kinsey scale that would mean "Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual" normally with m/f couples. I enjoy my sexuality immensely. I enjoy sex, like most sexual people. As far as that goes, I never felt comfortable in what would be considered the "Gay scene". I always preferred going and hanging out with my straight friends and other gay guys who were masculine and straight acting as well. For bars, I preferred straight bars that are gay friendly. I was always more at ease and comfortable in those surrounding, it just felt more natural for me. If i was more interested in just women and not at all in men I would be perfectly fine straight guy. This brings me to the point of my post, recently I came across a new word "g0y". I was am by nature curious and wondered what the term was about. I have been having sex with guys for a while and knew that male/male sexuality is a complex things. Over the years that I have been sexually active I had to uncover a lot of stuff on my own. Also find my own place in a world that wanted to label me and say I was supposed to act or behave a certain way because I was X. How I rejected that view and after being comfortable with the identity I forged for myself, and I've been lucky enough to try and help other guys once I was experienced enough to bring them along. For me my sexuality views are kind of this. I want my guys to be guys and my girls to be girls. I just don't find the blur in-between attractive. Girly guys or butchy women just don't crank my gears and get my engine running. Give me a masculine hunk or a sensuous woman any day of the week hands down. Being as I am, I tried to support the gay community and met some good people and are friends with but I never really identified well with the group. Its just a lot of gay culture just doesn't resonate with me. I felt like an outsider looking in. Upon initially reading about g0y, I was like hallelujah a group of guys that think like me. Men who like men. No gender bending. No extravagance. Just guys being guys with guys who like guys. That was until according to the almost everything I read about g0y said I was essentially a disease spreading, murdering, , and destroyer of masculinity because I enjoy having anal sex. How anal sex was the worst more degrading sexual act out there and responsible for destroying human sexuality, whether male/male or male/female. I was honestly surprised and it confused me, after the initial anger of course. I spent a great deal of time developing and understanding myself and my views on sex. Of course whenever someone essentially says something that destroys an importantly held view you go on the defensive. But I stepped back and considered and started to think. When I was growing up I was out of touch with a lot modern media at the time. So when I first started having interest in and pursuing sex, it was a lot of finding what felt good and natural and developed from that. It was like it kept on getting better and better until I had anal sex and it was like "Wow." For me being a top and pursuing anal sex was natural development. For some I know they are natural bottoms. Some guys are versatile and some guys don't enjoy anal sex at all whether on top or bottom. I was utterly surprised at some of the views, bile and rhetoric I read on some g0y sites about anal sex. Please feel free to research as well. The funniest thing I read though was male/male anal sex violated masculinity. I literally laughed at that. Some of my favorite sexual partners involved guys who would probably beat the crap out of anyone who even implied that being a bottom made them anything less then a truly masculine man. It's strange to find a group that has almost 99% of my own personal view of male/male sexuality but that slight 1% difference is essentially as wide as the Grand Canyon. Its not to say the g0y movement is bad. Anything that allows people to experience their honest feelings for one another is a good thing. Its just much of the material I read online was like finding that ultra hot guy or girl that just turns you on like nothing else and then finding out that he or she has that one fatal flaw that turns them from a smoking hot 10 to a ice cold 0, like dragon breath that could peel paint and perm your hair. Is it really to much to find the sub-sect of gay/bi/str8 guys who appreciate masculinity with other guys, the male/male bond but doesn't believe anal sex is akin to murder and . These are just my views and opinions after reviewing page after page after page of g0y related sites. If there are g0y men who read this, please feel free to respond if you to clarify something or maybe have your own take on the subject. Hopefully this post will spark some thought. Maybe a curious guy reading the forum can find some additional information he didn't consider before. While I don't like everything I've read about g0y, I do think it could be an answer some guys are seeking. Yet there are some aspects I just can't agree with and unfortunately don't see a middle ground too at all. |
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wow i agree with you 100%,i love being a bottom . i dont get excited abot crossdresses.or sissy guys.i consider myself a manly man
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