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Respect
Respect OK, my first subject, and my first question - Respect, what is it? IMO this has many parts to it and it is very complex. First of all, I think respect needs to be free. It should be something that is automatically given when you encounter another person. Making a snide comment, or something that is better off not said, gets you a nasty comment in return. Thus you have never given your respect to begin with and get what you deserve. Lord knows, I have done this many times in my youth. Second, I think respect can never be "earned" I have tried many times to earn someones respect and have never been able to do it. In some cases I thought I had friends, when in reality, they were never friends to begin with. Its funny, it seems the only time those people are your friends are when you are around, which makes it even worse. Thus, for me I always treat people with repect when I first meet them. I give them all the opprotunites to earn other things like "trust" and "disrespect," even "friendship" at some point. Third, respect for me is an integral part of "friendship" and even part of "love" (with a lady). Thus for me the giving of respect to some one else is critical, in getting their "trust" in return. Anyways, this is my opinion. I look forward to what anyone else has to say on the subject. Thank you for reading. |
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Hmm this one should prove interesting. So, seeing as I am first up here is my two cents worth. Respect, means that you can agree to disagree without resorting to insults or snide comments and ending a friendship that obviously wasn't really a friendship at all. Respect, means that just because you have preferences, ideals that are written in stone for YOU, does not mean that they have to be adopted by, nor agreed with by everyone else you meet, and you don't set out to show them the error of their ways of not being like you are or agreeing with you. Respect, means that when you encounter an elder, you defer to their age, and treat them with politness and address them accordingly as sir, or mam, unless they tell you otherwise. Respect means that when another person tells you that something you say or do is annoying, disrespectful to them, or they just plain don't like something, you make the concerted effort to not repeat the offense. Respect means that when you read a ladies profile, you actually read the words and respect what HER preferences are instead of saying "well ya just gotta try you know" Because if you are hitting on her and you are NOT what her preferences are, then you just totally disrespected her. It isn't all about what YOU want, but what she wants as well. Umm I think I better stop now. Lady
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10/6/2008 11:07 pm |
Smiles very good topic to start the chew upon JP . And for those who have not had to he chance tospeak with Jp and get to know him , he is a man of respect , and a man who is wholeheartedly able to empower woman I know he did me . Now my opinion on respect : First I believe if you are not familar with someone , don't expect them to feel the same about endearing terms ie: Baby , girl ,sweets , etc and the same for men too ladies . Second : I believe with respect yes there is a certan level of trust , and trust can lead to friendship .However decieving and betraying a trust for me is unforgivable Third : If I don't like someone I try my best not to be rude towards said persons ,I will remain cordial but nothing more . If someone has betrayed my trust I simply in my mind see that person as dead , I longer acknowledge their presence (should say try to as has been a time or two when some have pushed to a point ) Fourth : If I see someone disrespecting another or betraying a trust I will speak up , and voice my opinion . I try to show respect till I am disrespected , and I will be totally honest here I am working on it ; but have been known to have a bit of a temper when I am disrespected . Like everything else am still a work in progress and am reading Lady's words and finding much to ponder
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Well JP, I am think very similar to you.. Respect has to be earned not a given in life.. I still find you very sexy and senual.. I respect you.. Mistress V Become a blog watcher sweet_vm
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I think thats where we differ V, my question to you is how? JP
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I'd have to agree that initial respect is not necessarily earned however, I do believe that the maintaining of respect is dependant upon the mutual regard of the parties involed, but this is more just something that may or not transpire than something that is dictated. I can't say as I feel it is earned so much as respect is given. To earn respect it almost seems you'd have to change who you are to gain respect from another, thereby disrespecting your own self if you are of a different mind about things. I think respect is more a gift than a reward, I can not change you but I can respect your wishes to be different. Like so many words it seems to me respect is one that is tossed around lightly and few have a real grasp on its meaning. Many tend to use it as meaning, if you don't agree with me you should say nothing because disagreeing is to disrespect me or that one can not show respect and still have a very strong opinion opposite from thier own. Also like life itself, words are not black and white but have various levels of grey as well. ( though Mr Webster my disagree with me) Perchance I feel strongly about A and you about B, well I may respect you as person and still disrespect your choice ( i.e. I hold you in high regard but not your opinion on B ) ............ Here is something to think about... Cooper is stating his opinion about the belief of dirt being cleansing ( giggle dont ask me why I chose that ) Aldia disagrees with Cooper stating that is an oxymoron and therby impossible. Cooper continues to explain his belief but is now irrated and has risen his voice a bit out of frustration as he further explains why he believes as he does. To enforce that her analogy is correct and Coopers is wrong Aldia becomes upset and drags Searu into the conversation so as to try and persuade Cooper of the error of his ways. ........... In that scenario who would you say disrepected whom first? Man I may be over my head on this one... giggle but those are my thoughts... Lea
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Thanks JP for letting me post your blog on our notice board. I think what you have written tell it all.. Become a blog watcher sweet_vm
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