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Totally Mortified
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Totally Mortified I spent most of the morning yesterday outside working in my yard, mowing, weeding and so forth. When I finished I felt a huge sense of accomplishment. I must admit, the yard looked GOOD. I received an email from someone on my friend's list inviting me for a quick coffee date this morning. He was passing through town on his way to meet a and wanted to reconnect. (We had met at my birthday party a friend hosted at a club 3 years ago.) After returning home, I saw what appeared to a piece of plastic someone had carelessly chucked out the window in my front yard. I went to retrieve it but upon closer inspection stopped dead in my tracks. Imagine my horror when I saw that the piece of plastic was actually a USED condom. So. Fucking. Disgusting. Could this be a message from married stalker guy An Open Letter To My Stalker trying to intimidate me?? Maybe I am reading more into it. What does this sound like to you? |
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it could be some one watching u in your yard n jerking off, i wiuld not worry to much , it could have been some one passing by n threw it out
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Sounds like DNA evidence should you need it for a harassment case. It may be worth putting in a ziplock bag and keeping around. Unless your yard has a road where someone might have been having an encounter nearby, it seems unlikely someone just threw it out as they were driving by (but I don't know your road/neighborhood situation. Vive La Difference
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As mentioned, it's probably a tribute. You have an admiring fan. Maybe a kid. If I saw the hot lady across the street working in her yard, back in my teens, I'd probably need some relief. 
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THAT IS A CRAZY STORY!! WOW!!
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Wow, I wonder how the men commenting here would feel if their mother or sister called them to say that someone tossed a used condom in the front yard? would they say, "well mom, it's probably a fan tribute from some guy who thought you were sexy, har, har, har". This is neither funny or cool. When something like this happens and you think you have a stalker, call the police and file a report. You don't have to give the guy's name, just feign ignorance. Just in case, you want to establish a temporal chain of documentation that you can use if you need to. You're right , this might have nothing to do to with your stalker. But if you are being stalked, you can't count on things like logic or fear to keep this man from escalating. You need more than a mental file to build a solid case for a restraining order or other legal action. You need to have a hammer in you hip pocket, just in case. I sincerely hope that it is just a random incident and nothing more sinister.
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It depends on where you live....sort of a main road would be a passerby I would think. If its a neighborhood........I am not so sure it's a coincidence... Click Here To Read A Hot Erotic Story: When A Woman Meets A Stranger Part 1 of 4
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BrownEyedBBW wrote: Wow, I wonder how the men commenting here would feel if their mother or sister called them to say that someone tossed a used condom in the front yard? would they say, "well mom, it's probably a fan tribute from some guy who thought you were sexy, har, har, har". No one is trying to make light of or dismiss the seriousness of a potential stalker. Please give us a little more credit than that.
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to me it sounds gross but keep it in a baggie in he freezer just in case. and repot it to the neighborhood watch or police. good to have a record of the incident so gross.......ick You cannot conceive the many without the one.
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Is there a chance this could be a coincidence? I've found used and unused condoms in my yard and dismissed it because I live on a busy street. When a teenager tosses a sticky little sperm purse out the window it's got to land somewhere. Sometimes it's my turn. Of course I find these by the side of a busy street. If you live on a quiet street, of if the condom was somewhere deeper into your yard, the context becomes menacing. I wish you good luck and safety. My featured post this week: Pulling Fantasy Sex Out of My Ass.
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Similar to one above, I remember in grade school and one of the guys picked something up off the sidewalk and it was a Used condom of course most of us did not know what it was!!! So It could be innocent and discarded everywhere from teens, kids getting this for the gas station jerking off -LOL - Sure some of us have done those things - everyone in he small town knows which filling station sells RUBBERS - lol. Most likely innocent - but also if worried or like some others said - you may need to take it to the next level just to be SAFE. As some large MU's firms and my boys we always say "BE SAFE". Always important to be careful always and come home to your family - work, arm forces, play etc May need to be dealt with in one way or another as you do not need to be looking over your shoulder. Hope that helps FM
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Absolutely disgusting, no matter whether intentional or a random act. 
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No one is trying to make light of or dismiss the seriousness of a potential stalker. Please give us a little more credit than that. No, I can't give some of the responses here more credit. Let's take a look at your responses in particular. The blog post is titled Totally Mortified and the blogger relates that after spending time making her yard look nice, she was horrified to see that someone tossed a used condom in her yard. What was your response? As mentioned, it's probably a tribute. You have an admiring fan. Maybe a kid. If I saw the hot lady across the street working in her yard, back in my teens, I'd probably need some relief So what you are saying is that a used condom tossed in a woman's yard is a way of praising her desirability and that, heck, if you were a teenager, you probably would have gaped at her and jerked off behind bush. I repeat my earlier question. If your mother (or sister, daughter, co-worker, friend) called you up tonight and told you she was horrified because someone threw a used rubber on her lawn, would you chuckle about it? If you are in law enforcement and a woman contacted you because someone tossed a used rubber on her lawn, would you laugh about it and tell her to lighten up? Yes, this is a site where we can all have a good time and talk about stuff that is sexy and fun, but we also share things that are a little more serious at times too. Making your yard look good, going out for nice lunch and coming home to a some guy's used rubber on the yards you worked to beautify is not fun, funny or sexy. Especially if the poster uses words like mortified and horrified. I'd be a bit concerned about anyone (male or female) who didn't see how unpleasant and disturbing something like this can be. I'm sure that you're a very nice man who wanted to say something supportive but just didn't know how because the other option is that you do find this funny and that would be troubling. Instead of telling me to "lighten up" or "we're just joking", maybe you want to just say, "gee, I didn't think about the situation like that".
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You aren't someone who's easily rattled and you know how to take care of yourself, and yet you thought, instead of merely being disgusting, it might have been directed at you personally. This is what's so damaging about stalking, this is what it does to a sane, reasonable and competent woman, that she had that thought enter her mind. And you know, it might just be, so you have to consider it as evidence as some of the commenters suggested. If it was a thoughtless act it's annoying enough, but the fact that you do have to consider that other option makes me really angry. Nobody should have to live that way. I hope it was just some slob kid who's laughing about how you must have felt on finding it. If it was the other- I'd like to choke him with it. I know you know how to deal with it, but I'm really sorry this happened to you, my friend.  Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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BrownEyedBBW wrote: I'm sure that you're a very nice man who wanted to say something supportive but just didn't know how because the other option is that you do find this funny and that would be troubling. Instead of telling me to "lighten up" or "we're just joking", maybe you want to just say, "gee, I didn't think about the situation like that". No one told you to "lighten up." I asked that you stop selling men short with your criticism and judgment.
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7/17/2016 7:10 pm |
I will be honest myelin...I don't know how to take something like that. My mind might go to the same place as yours. unfortunately, it might be a matter of patience and seeing is a pattern of other "things" develop. I know...I hate the way that sounds too...but you know from your previous "lives"...the patterns always show themselves...and people like that DO have a pattern. Chin up though...I know you are mindful and alert.
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I would let it go...but if it happens again....then maybe he is trying to intimidate you....stalkers are the bane of the world! “Life is available only in the present moment.” Thich Nhat Hanh Come and read my blog! Become a watcher! veryfunnycple64 
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Two suggestions. 1. My kids volunteer to rescue dogs. My son brings home dogs to foster and train till it is adopted. They become "your dog" in just two days. You may want to become a foster for a few months. 2. Wireless video cameras are cheap and are easy to install. Another option is a trail camera. Instead of becoming paranoid, get proof and peace of mind. Spend $100 dollars for a cam and get a big furry friend that will adore you. "Rules for happiness: something to do, someone to love, something to hope for.”― Immanuel Kant .
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I agree this is sick. Hopefully this is a kid or someone playing a prank and not the stalker. but we dont know. I would at least install a cam. Those are cheap $200 or less. And you can do it yourself. Let me know if you need help I can walk you through. Also file a complaint/report with police without naming anyone. (I know you reluctant to name your stalker in the last blog)
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What others have said, so just showing some support. Security cameras, for sure, the cost is well worth the peace of mind. Also, have friends and neighbors be on the look-out for him and his car. It could be someone else's bad and uncaring behavior, we all fall random victim to that at some time.
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Damn!!! I can remember decades ago my wife and I having sex near my parents home in a construction site! I disposed of the used condom in the weeds across the street! The next day unfortunately the neighbor, just like a second Mom to us, said she found a used condom in the ditch across the street! I acted dumb as shit!!!! Lmfao! The ditch was not in her yard either! Good thing everyone believes I am a nice guy! Except for my two Brothers! Lol! Any chance your trash could be from a nearby hookup spot instead of the ASS giving you problems? 
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