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Random It's been a "meh" kind of weekend. My left to visit her dad on Friday and will be gone for five days. So, it's just me and Cee Cee (my cat). There are some weekends that I struggle with an all-encapsulating feeling of loneliness. This has been one of those weekends. Usually I am able to get through it by heading outdoors and going for a run or working in my yard. However, the weather clearly has different plans. It's been cloudy, grey and intermittently raining off and on all weekend. I've been maladaptively coping by eating things that are bad for me, spending a lot of time in bed reading and napping, watching movies that I have entirely no business watching when I am sad (think: chick flicks) and shedding a lot of tears. It doesn't help that I am PMSing. Do you ever experience loneliness? How do you cope? |
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I don't have to deal with the loneliness that come with being alone, like they say, you don't have to be alone to be lonely. I work all the time, keeps me out of the house and make extra money.
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3/13/2016 7:17 am |
When i was going thru my divorce it was hard being by myself lots, but i found ways to try and stay busy and it seemed to help. Your going out for a run sounds like a good start, but maybe try to do something with a good friend(s). Maybe go to a nice restaurant or movie or maybe some SHOPPING!!! LOL The busier you are the less lonely you will feel. Hope this might help you out.
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I "used to" experience loneliness... or what I thought was loneliness. Then someone pointed out that I had a hard time enjoying life when I didn't have anything to do or anyone around or something to otherwise engage me. I couldn't appreciate my alone time because I thought I was well... alone. I couldn't appreciate my own company. Now I plan ahead for those times when it's just me in the house... like I'd plan for someone coming to visit, except that someone is me. I know.... it seems a little strange when I write it out but it's really just a shift in my perspective. Now I don't feel like I have to "get through" my alone time, and I don't feel guilty about doing whatever it is that I want (so long as it's not excessive.)
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I'm a big fan of watching sad movies when I'm feeling down...the tears have to come out somehow and usually the people in the movie are way worse off than me so it actually helps me feel better. I'm dealing with a lot of meh right now, although for different reasons. I've noticed that the more I fight feeling it, the worse I feel. So I sit with it (as much as I don't want to), Indulge myself and also remind myself this too shall pass. I try to stay away from beating myself up for feeling bad - some days that's easier than others. And I try to do small things that make me feel better - take a shower, have a good cry, read a good book, nap... Hugs! Always tell the truth Use kind words Keep your promises Giggle and laugh Be positive Love one another Always be grateful Forgiveness is mandatory Try new things Say please and thank you Say your prayers Smile ~Author unknown
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That's when you're supposed to reach out and connect with friends 
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I'm almost always lonely. I retired less than a year ago and while I was ecstatic about it during the first 7 months or so (doing quite a bit of what was put off during the time I was over-working at a place I learned to detest), the "thrill" has worn off. Thought I didn't see my friends very much because of me (always sleeping on weekends), turns out it was also them - they all have families, work, errands to run, etc. So while it might be good to connect with a friend during lonely time, it just may not be possible. And this past winter hasn't helped me; while not that much snow, it's been dreary many days. However, I'm looking forward to spring staying for more than a day at a time and the street fairs begin again Do you like to cook, craft, bake? I've been telling myself I'm going to cook more but I do so hate the cleanup lol and it's difficult to cook for one. IMO it's not bad to self-indulge once in a while by eating all those bad things that taste so good, sinking into "chick flicks" (which I avoid with a passion) and becoming lethargic, so long as it doesn't become long-term - a day here and there is fine.
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When I'm alone, i befriend my radio and television! 
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Drink! .... no, I'm kidding of course. Gym is very good advice, something about exercise has the same effect as alcohol, kinda euphoric. Cleaning house with loud music on can take your mind somewhere else and is productive. I believe everyone experiences loneliness at some point even if they're busy or around someone morning, noon, and nite. PMSing is definitely a factor if a man is allowed to say that. Hopefully, posting this blog and reading the replies helps, I don't post much but reading and replying helps me tremendously. Especially when someone puts themselves out there as you have. Very hot pic of you, myelin36, btw Standards are people too.....kinda
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I am at the gym a lot, so I am always around people that I like....or I go for a run longer run than usual. Hope all is well with you!!
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I do get lonely....I do watch movies that I shouldn't, I eat my ice cream pints, and I lay around. Then I go for a walk or hike!! “Life is available only in the present moment.” Thich Nhat Hanh Come and read my blog! Become a watcher! veryfunnycple64 
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Call a friend or relative and go hangout. Vive La Difference
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I've never been much of a people person so I have spent alot of time alone and it mainly only bothers me when I'm around people. But often times I watch TV or dvd to have the feeling of being around other people. Please don't let me be misunderstood.
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I think we ALL do at least to some extent. Its how some cannot cope with it that is sad. They do not always end well.  However, most do ok with it and many do very well coping. Sometimes its being lazy and vegging out. Other times its being very active. Doubt there is one prescription every time for everyone. But you know that already! Lol! Weather should get better starting today and you can get more active again as you feel better. Hang in there sexy!  Hugs
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Oh sure....I go through loneliness at times. I'll jump on facebook and try to chat. Sometimes I'll go to one of the chat rooms and either chat or read. Or I'll get offline and read. Or watch a movie. Or nap. Depends on the time of year and what else is going on. I generally only get really lonely when it's cloudy though. But I usually only get lonely when I don't have things to do. So if weekend A is exactly like weekend B, but I have stuff to do on weekend B, then I generally won't be lonely then. And there is a thin line between lonely and depressed.
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LMAO!!! Good for you and shame on him!!!! I never expect that should happen! Now, if she ends up jumping me then great!!!  But then again, that has not happened in quite a while!!! Lol@! Hell, not even any meets in a long time. Oh well!!! At least Spring Football has finally started!!! Only a few weeks before Spring Clinic in Fayetteville!!! Hugs sexy
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I get lonely at times but I'm out every day either walking my dog or just driving. It's a bonus having four siblings all living in the same city as myself.
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Trust me I get what your saying I suffer from combat PTSD and I take zoloft for it so I can function without being a jerk. Lol
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