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Sex Swinging Introduction : Swinging is a form of recreational social sex between consenting adults, most commonly consisting of male / female couples meeting other male / female couples for sex and / or ongoing intimate friendships. In the context of swinging, They should, however, have at least a little history together and familiarity with each others' emotional needs, and be comfortable approaching others as a " Couple ". The general rule of thumb is that swinging works best when couples view swinging as an enhancement to their existing sexual relationship, rather than as a replacement for a failing one. As one would expect, good communication is critical in any attempt at swinging as a couple. There are many, many different forms that swinging may take, and whichever one you choose is fine as long as you and your partner are clear about what you are doing and why. Sex has the potential to be an emotionally charged area, and the pleasures that may be found in swinging can generally be reached only when both partners are sensitive to each others' needs, and put their partner's comfort first. From a more pragmatic point of view, there will always be another party, another personal ad, another dance, another convention; there may not be another chance to salvage an exploration into swinging if one partner becomes overwhelmed in " The garden of delights " and forgets to treat his or her primary partner with sensitivity and respect. It's important to keep in mind that swinging is primarily a SOCIAL activity. The ordinary social customs of meeting people and initiating a conversation are really not that different than at any other type of social gathering, and the process by which acquaintances become close friends is not that different either. The key social traits that tend to be appreciated in the swinging community are responsibility, friendliness, flirtatiousness, open-mindedness, and most importantly stability with regard to one's primary relationship. As is the case with almost all human social endeavors, if you already know people in a particular community you'll probably be happier if you attend your first few events with these people so they can introduce you to others. Waiting a little while and watching how others behave is also a good idea, as it is in almost any new social situation. Common courtesy, of course, is as welcomed in the swinging community as it is in any other community; After all, we're just human. Meeting Couples Online : You and your spouse have just completed your couple profile on one of the couples online dating sites and within a day or so, your mailbox is overwhelmed with email responses from couples interested in meeting you. This may not be the case in all situations, but the key to getting responses to your couple profile, is having a complete, and interesting profile itself, and most important include current pictures of you two. Meeting couples online can be an exciting experience, as well as horrifying in more ways than one. Like many other couples, we don't respond to a couple's request to meet us, unless we see current pictures FIRST, no exceptions, and no surprises. Now getting back to your profile, Pictures are very important to getting responses, and replies, think of your profile as a webpage, more importantly a webpage that represents you and your spouses personality to the online swinging community. We've noticed that we're always receiving responses after updating our profile photos, so the more pictures you provide, or update, the more likely you will get replies of some sort. If your profile is boring, or incomplete, people whom have never met you will assume you are the same, remember, your profile is introducing you to total strangers. Be upfront, and straight to the point as to what type of couple, and sexual experience you are looking for, and include it in your couple profile. One way to " Turn off " the other couple is withholding important information, such as your desire for them to participate in : a bisexual experience ( Male or Female ), soft swinging only, and if you've changed significantly since taking that profile picture. Next, don't just sit back and wait for people to contact you, do some searching of your own, initiate contacts with other couples, and stay active, because most couple dating sites have profile statistics that display the total number of " Mail Sent ", " Mail Received ", and " Mail Replied ", so if you're not sending or replying to mail, some couples will assume that it would be a waste of time contacting you. Questions to ask yourself - before deciding to Swing : 1. Do you truly understand that love and sex can be two different things ? 2. How are you going to feel when you see your partner, obtaining sexual satisfaction with another person ? 3. If you were assured of retaining your partner's love and respect, would you be interested in sexual variety ? 4. If you are considering swinging, are you doing it to please yourself, or is it to please your partner ? 5. How do you feel about female bisexuality ? How do your feel about male bisexuality ? ( There is a VERY small percentable of male bisexuals in swinging and you should at least discuss the topic. ) 6. What fantasies do you have and how would you like to go about fulfilling them ? Can we fulfill your fantasies together ? How about mine ? 7. Can we be totally, brutally honest with each other about everything ? 8. Can you and are you willing to be honest with your partner ? Can you both talk about your honest feelings ? 9. Are you ready to accept an honest answer to your question - even if it's not the answer you wanted to expected to hear ? 10. Are we ready to be completely committed to each other ? 11. Can you be ready to " Come to the aid " of your partner or keep your partner's well being and feelings foremost in your thoughts ( Check on your mate periodically - " Are you OK, Having fun, etc. " ) during your first few party experiences ? Without getting " Totally carried away " or oblivious to what's happening in all parts of the partyhouse ? Can you stop in the middle of a sexual experience, if your partner really needs you ? 12. Can you honestly tell your partner you love them after you watch them engage in sexual activities with another person ? Dangers in Swinging : There are some very important Do's and DONT's :- 1. Couples should never force one another's partner to swing. Swinging may be attempted only if both partners exhibit a GENUINE interest in it. Do not have a ' Hidden Agenda ' in finding a replacement for your exisiting partner. You will almost surely be disappointed. 2. Females or husbands with their wives, should ideally NEVER<b> meet a man </font></b>or couple alone for the first few times, in a private place. It would be better to meet such people in a public place for the first few times, over a cup of coffee or maybe even a lunch. 3. Females or husbands with their wives, should ideally get to know the man or couple's back ground in terms of their work, residence etc. Confirm if this information provided is right and only then proceed to meet them in private. 4. Females or husbands with their wives, should ideally not meet in a strange man or couple's house. There have been instances of private hidden video recordings which can lead to future black-mail ! There have also been instances of sudden gang and ! Instead it would always be worthwhile to meet in a hotel or guest house, which is confimed to be safe for such private meetings. 5. Females or husbands with their wives, should ideally avoid getting together with un-educated or ' rough ' single men and women. The chances of finding an un-wanted or troublesome aquaintance increases. It would be worth your while, to instead focus on educated and financially / socially well settled people and couples. 6. Females or husbands with their wives, should ideally avoid too much alcohol and absolutely avoid drugs in the company of other men and couples. It can be dangerous to not be alert in your full senses during - swinging. 7. Females or husbands with their wives, should NEVER allow cameras or allow themselves to be photographed during swinging - unless you know the partner / s, extremely well for more than a couple of years and are very confident that such photos may not be mis-used. 8. All the swinging couples MUST ALWAYS use condoms in any sexual action. You are swinging for enjoyment - not to invite misery ! Swinging Styles : Soft swinging : Watching another couple during sexual relations. May also include foreplay with other partners, sometimes including oral sex but no vaginal penetration. Can add spice to a couple's relationship and allow them to have fun without the risk of disease or jealousy. Many couples start out as soft swingers as they first explore swinging. But don't think that soft swingers will always convert to full swapping. Closed swinging : Partners swap, but have sex in separate rooms. Closed swinging allows for a more intimate experience. Some people feel it allows them more freedom to explore and fewer interruptions of their enjoyment. Open swinging : Partners swap and have sex in the same room, or bed. This includes orgies and is great for exhibitionists & voyeurs, who can show off or just enjoy watching their partner play. Some people find open swinging allows for total release of the sexual desires and fantasies. In order for open swinging to be successful, none of the members of the group can be jealous  |
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10/18/2007 12:05 am |
how could one induce one's partner to swinging?
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