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What to do?  

winnipegjewel13 58F
5724 posts
12/12/2007 11:30 am
What to do?
Caught up with a friend last night, D. She is funny and sweet and nice, always makes me laugh, has a good heart, and I value her friendship.
She also has another friend that she has had for 15 years, but I have no use for her, T.
T is always putting D down in ways that seem subtle but are actually not very nice. But she has been doing for so long, D does not seem to notice but it drives me crazy to watch. T is also very childish and is threatened by D having any other friends. I have had to hold my tongue many times.
But last night D came and asked me if I had ever noticed T doing these things. She has started to see it and wanted my opinion. I wanted to say, yes, she is a BITCH but again, didn't because they have been friends for so long.
What to do in that situation? Do you tell the truth, and maybe wreck their friendship? Do you lie even though it is true?
I hate to see T saying things that undermine D's self confidence and self worth. But if I interfere do you think it will bite me in the ass later?
How would you handle it??
partygald 41F
1963 posts
12/12/2007 11:55 am

 I'd tell her the truth. Your friend, or no one for that matter, doesn't needs to be slapped down in any way. That's not what friends do. Just my two cents worth


rm_Quixy101 71M
9036 posts
12/12/2007 1:11 pm

 I think you try to be gentle, but tell her the truth. Say you have noticed it from time to time and you don't like it. Then let it go. If she persists etc. give her the data, but don't come off sounding like you dislike her friend because then she might also wonder about you. Just try to put yourself in the role of impartial observer.


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