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Can an average guy find a relationship without buying a membership here?
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Can an average guy find a relationship without buying a membership here? So for quite some time now, I've tried being a paying member here (with little success) and being a non-paying member here (with no success). Of course, that was back in the day when if you were a blogger here, bloggers got more attention and were able to communicate via their blogs to talk to people. Today, the site has made that virtually impossible. I hate to say it, but unless you are a male model or look like one, if you are a normal average guy, it's nearly impossible to find someone here. Of course, as I've gotten older, my taste has changed from "hooking up" or a FWB situation to actually actively trying to find a solid relationship here. And yes, I know, it is possible to do it. I've seen others here do it. But it's like needle in a haystack type odds. So is it possible? Yes. But it's hard to do and it's not easy on this site. Let's face it, some guys here just make it harder with an attitude like they are god's gift to women and that women should be subservient to their whims and needs. Now if you are a sub, that's all well and good, but most women are not subs. And let me say there is nothing wrong with being a sub. If that's you're cup of tea, awesome. But finding a woman like that is difficult in today's society. So what can you do? How do you find a good woman on here? It's possible. And here are some tips that I've been told that can help: -Remove the dick picts. First and foremost, if you got a dick pic on your profile, and you are trying to find a relationship on here, chances are, you won't find one. Having a dick pic on your profile is like saying "Hey, I'm here for sex and that's it." Now yes, this is a site for hookups. I'm not denying that. But if you are looking for a relationship, and you have a dick pic on your profile, 9 times out of 10, a woman that is looking for a serious relationship will pass your profile over without reading it as they will not care what you posted. So dick pics....you'll need to get rid of those. -What does your profile say about you? So the dick pics are gone, but still no luck finding a relationship? Check what you have in your profile guys. Having a poorly worded profile or nothing on there...it's not going to help at all. Also, spelling errors are a major turn off for women. Yes....women can read. And it's statistically been proven that women get sexually turned on more by engaging their brains. When compared with pictures two average guys, the person with a well-read, well thought out profile, with no spelling mistakes, excellent grammar (knowing the difference between YOUR and YOU'RE), shows their intelligence. And most women love big brains. So double check and triple check that profile for errors in spelling and grammar. -What you say matters! This is related to #2 above, but you have checked for spelling and grammatical errors, but what you also say about yourself matters too. If you are post you are DTF (down to fuck), you're only going to get women that care about hooking up. If you post that you are open towards looking for a serious relationship and are looking for a woman that can match your intelligence and thoughtfulness, you are going to find that your quality of woman is going to change as well. Yes, every guy likes to fuck. As does every woman. But, if you are diving into the water, do you just jump headfirst not checking that the water is shallow thus risking injury, or do you ease yourself into the water first, and then dive in later? The smart person takes their time. Besides, you don't want to risk finding the wrong woman later and wasting your precious time, having to dump that person to find someone else causing problems for you when she gets mad at you and keys your car up because you broke her heart because she's not the right person for you. Think about what you want from this site, because if you want to hook up, there are plenty of people for that. If you want a relationship here, you have to put in the work and effort to find that gold instead of running across some pyrite. -BE YOURSELF! This is probably the most important thing I can tell anyone here. Never pretend to be someone you are not, nor do it for a woman you want to attract in order to draw her in. It's wrong on so many levels. Besides...don't you want someone to love you for who YOU ARE? Of course! Everyone does. Being yourself is important. Me? I love comic book movies, and Japanese Anime, and computer games and reading books. Are there some woman that are going to be turned off by that? Yep, absolutely. But for some woman that are going to be turned off by that, there will be others that do like that. Does it limit you a bit in finding the right person? A bit, but you want to find a person that is attracted to you for who you are. Why? Because if they share your interests in the things you like, then it allows you to draw more upon that person to share your interests. And that does mean both ways for people. By being yourself, it allows you to know that if a person likes you for who you are, they will be willing to stick around because they like what you like. And you don't have to like everything about a person and be the same, but by being yourself, it allows the other person to determine what type of person you are, and whether or not they could allow themselves to be attracted to you and determine what type of character you have. -Be OPEN to new things! If you are open to trying new things, it allows you to keep an open mind about others. I used to hate sushi. I never tired it, but I thought it was a prissy, preppy urbanite looking food that rich people would eat and brag about eating. And then I had a female that I dated a long time ago that forced me to try it on a date one time. I thought it would suck. But I allowed myself to keep an open mind and give this a shot. It was like eating a slice of heaven. I tried 6 different types of sushi that night. And it blew my date away that I was open enough to try new things. Which greatly turned her on, and we were supposed to go to a movie later, but she dragged me back to her place and promptly fucked my brains out that entire night. It didn't work out eventually between us due to she was a die-hard Republican and I'm a more independent political guy, but it was a fun night. The point being though is allow yourself to be open to new things. By doing that, you could discover the love of your life. Or at least, delicious food. Or that you like watching Japanese Anime. Or fishing. Or a ton of other new things. And most importantly, it allows you to open your horizons to new thinking and new ideas and concepts, which broadens your horizons to new and wonderful things in this world. I'm sure there is more ideas I can post here. And I'd love to hear what you think. What do you think can help find a relationship here? Any ideas or thoughts you have on this? Post them here! I'd love to hear them! Peace! Who can you call on to save the day? Why none other than... Agent  |
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Either NO, or very rarely. The site ties both hands behind your back if your not a paying member. You cant see emails without paying you cant send flirts without paying you cant look at other peoples profile without paying... Certain members can allow free members to send emails.. IF they are PAYING MEMBERS... ~Linc was here.~
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Are you asking if you can find what you seek on this site, OR are you asking if you need a paid membership to do so. To answer the first part of my question, Yes you can find a relationship on this site. I know of several locals here who have. Can you accomplish it without a paid membership, I highly doubt it as how would you ever communicate with anyone if you could not email them to initiate contact.
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 I have found 2 relationships on this site, one lasted 10 years... it can happen   Sure, but you're a woman. Very different for a male.....yes, it COULD happen for that guy, but the odds are heavily stacked against him while he's on this site.
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Quote: whoisagentj replies on 10/2/2018 11:05 am: Heathen, while I know what type of site this is, I will respectfully agree to disagree, and say I have known several people to have found lasting relationships here on this site. I'm not saying there isn't some truth to what you have said. But again, I've seen your posts in the past and from what I know, your views on women in general are just that, your views, and not mine. =============== My "Views" about women have nothing to do with the universal common sense of choosing the best site for the best results. You don't visit a Hardware store for a hamburger, even though you may know some guys who once visited a Hardware store and there was a hamburger vendor cooking hamburgers, once upon a time.
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Sir, you are on the wrong kind of site. You want a more serious relationship, so you need to go to those sites that advertise serious relationships. Eharmony , for one. That's more your speed. Just ignore the lame commercial. I'm sure you've probably seen the stupid commercial, really, really bad, where the little emo guy says he found his love, and the woman says she's found her "Person". ...ha.. who was the idiot who wrote that lame commercial..... anyway, that's the site you need to be on to find what you want. This is a boner and vag site. Old women want to see if they can still get attention, and young women want to find the highest bidder for her vagina. This is the least likely site most anyone is going to be themselves. As the saying goes, "Seduce her mind, get her body"..... basically tell her what she needs to hear, and bang her. No man is getting laid trying to appeal to a woman's brain. That's just stupid. She's looking for a man she wants to hump, just like many of them did in High School. Oh yeah... if any woman tells you, "I've had my fun, now I'm looking for someone serious"... I don't care what site you are on, tell that woman to cram it up her ass and get lost. You don't want to be with that woman. She's probably been knocked up by several different men, from the age of 16, and needs your wallet for paying for her kids. You are wasting your time on this site. I have found 2 relationships on this site, one lasted 10 years... it can happen
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Also,.. which ever site you choose to be on.. .you are going to have competition.... Some men will , indeed, be gods gift to women. You may not have that much of a confident personality, but they do. It's not wrong. And without a paid membership, here, or anywhere really, you're extremely limited. Practically nonexistent.
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Sir, you are on the wrong kind of site. You want a more serious relationship, so you need to go to those sites that advertise serious relationships. Eharmony , for one. That's more your speed. Just ignore the lame commercial. I'm sure you've probably seen the stupid commercial, really, really bad, where the little emo guy says he found his love, and the woman says she's found her "Person". ...ha.. who was the idiot who wrote that lame commercial..... anyway, that's the site you need to be on to find what you want. This is a boner and vag site. Old women want to see if they can still get attention, and young women want to find the highest bidder for her vagina. This is the least likely site most anyone is going to be themselves. As the saying goes, "Seduce her mind, get her body"..... basically tell her what she needs to hear, and bang her. No man is getting laid trying to appeal to a woman's brain. That's just stupid. She's looking for a man she wants to hump, just like many of them did in High School. Oh yeah... if any woman tells you, "I've had my fun, now I'm looking for someone serious"... I don't care what site you are on, tell that woman to cram it up her ass and get lost. You don't want to be with that woman. She's probably been knocked up by several different men, from the age of 16, and needs your wallet for paying for her kids. You are wasting your time on this site.
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Seriously, any suggestions? Because I'm open to new ideas or suggestions to help me here. Who can you call on to save the day? Why none other than... Agent
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