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Blogs > AK_Snowflake > Growing up Kelly

Puppy love and other fun things  

AK_Snowflake 48F
788 posts
7/2/2013 7:15 pm
Puppy love and other fun things

Also defined as simple<b> infatuation </font></b>or a crush. This term came up this week, I don't like it. Do I have crushes? Yes. Have I been infatuated with someone? Yes. I don't want to put the word love in with something unless it is love. Real love. So the real question; what is real love? Can you love someone you have not been with for very long? Can you love someone you have long spent time with in bed? Can you love someone based only who you think the person is?
In past blogs I have discussed temporary love. This is when you have a connection with someone you know will not be around, you know it is a temporary situation but you have it right then, right there. No need to ask for more than just that moment. Temporary.
Is there anything wrong with wanting something to be a permanent love? To move from the safety of shallow waters to the scary deep world of knowing who you really are?

_King_Cobb_ 61M
25441 posts
7/2/2013 8:23 pm

 I think what love isn't is when you're completely taken by a very strong fantasy you have in your head. I think when people say "they've fallen in love" that's what this is. But it's mostly in your head and not real love.

Real love generally comes from a deep sense of who someone else truly is. It's not really a fantasy. And it's when you are willing to do whatever it takes to support them in continuing to more futherly develop into who they naturally are.

But it's not about changing anyone. It more about "letting them be".

These ideas apply across the board to any type of love you might imagine be it family member or romantic. Most "romantic" love ends up being about "fantasy" and "possession" and those things really are not genuine love at all.

insert exploding bomb image here


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