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Advice For N00b Whinging Men
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Advice For N00b Whinging Men I will admit, I have become a blog addict. I browse the new bloggers and the latest posts, looking for something interesting, signs of intelligent life, posts where the title tells me I'm not about to read yet another bad porn fantasy. So few of them are ever worth even more than a skim over. I've noticed a recurring theme in blogs however. Whinging married middle aged men who are looking to cheat on their wives, have been here less than a month and are screaming that every "woman" they write to is an ad for some other site. After making a few posts telling these guys to get real, if they want to meet real women, it was the last straw. I saw [post 94407] by a n00b by the name of neglectedguyoh. Don't ask me why this guy's post pissed me off so badly. Perhaps it's the fact that I'm sick to death of finding these blogs where the only responses are, "Yeah! All the women I write to are fakes too! This site sucks!" Now, where to start? 1. OK, guys, have realistic views about yourself and what you can get. If you could score a model or a porn queen in real life, you wouldn't be here. You'd be in bed with her, leaving your wives for her and when you were too sore to fuck, you'd be down in the bar, bragging to all your buddies, or out showing her off on your arm. 2. Stop going after girls young enough to be your daughters! I can't tell you how many men in the 40 to 55 age range are looking for young chippies. Yes, I know you all see aging movie stars, rock stars, captains of industry and other big names nabbing some sweet young thing. But what do these men have that you don't? Fame, fortune and power. The kind of things hot looking gold diggers are looking for. If you're looking for a trophy, you have to be in a position yourself for a trophy. Just because you're bored with your wife, or she's too tired, it doesn't mean you deserve something else, just because you see celebrities who can afford the divorce settlement get them. You are not these men and you never will be. 3. Married men looking to play with couples. I wish you luck, guys, I really do. Couples play together and as a result, married and cheating tends to be looked down upon in the swinging community. Just because they're swinging couples it doesn't mean they don't have morals. 4. This isn't a sexual fast food service. Yes, I've seen the popups too, saying join now and get laid tonight. However, if you're dumb enough to believe it's that easy, you deserve to spend another night with your hand. Sex and swinger site does NOT mean women who are morally obliged to fuck anyone who asks. Even the town pump has the right to say, "you're not my type." It is that simple. Besides, for most of the women here, if we even tried to service every man who asked, we'd never be off our backs. We would have number machines next to the bed and lines going out the door. 5. Not everyone here is looking for the same thing. This goes for men and women. Yes, the end desire we all have is hooking up with someone we find acceptable. However, in essence, it is a dating site no different than Match dot come or Lava Life or Udate or Jdate or, well, you get the idea. Most men are looking for one night stands. Most of the women are looking for something more. But both men and women are looking for something here ranging from one night stands to a new life partner. Don't get pissed off that someone is looking for something you're not. 6. If you are married and looking, married and bored, look for others who are married. If a married person tells you they're not interested in you because you're married too, don't get piss, don't get confused, take it for what it is... A GIANT RED FLAG! A married women especially who won't touch married men is looking to replace what she has at home, pure and simple. 7. Getting back to how the popups advertise this site. The get laid the same day you join bit. *coughbullshitcough* Only if you're very, very lucky, or a woman. Men outnumber women here at least 25 to 1. Sure, the odds look better when you look at the browse page. But you have to removed all the timid gay men posing as women to collect pics, the hookers, the ads for other sites, multiple profiles thanks to lost passwords, fake profiles, some of which are meant as practical jokes or to screen out perverts, abandoned profiles, attention queens, fakes who are pretending to be young and pretty when they're anything but, the ones looking for nothing but cyber, the ratio does expand. Therefore, it's going to take time. It isn't going to be instant. You have to actively seek. Women aren't going to line up to fall on your dicks. It is very hit or miss. 8. That said, if someone keeps going on about how she can't meet, it's too soon, she's too new to this, she's afraid, emergencies keep popping up, etc., move on. Just move on to the next one. Keep that one as a friend, but realize she will never meet you. Not in a million years, not if you were the last man on the planet. She's here for the attention, probably misrepresenting herself and she's not worth the time or effort. Don't get sucked in. 9. Be respectful and courteous as you write to the women here. Don't send form letters. Read our profiles. Don't whinge at us that your wife has a medical problem and can't have sex. Don't tell us how now that she's hitting menopause or after having the , she lost interest. Get her to a doctor if that's the case. You are not the exception to the rule, no matter how much you think your circumstances are special. They're not. So write nice letters. Write about what's in their profile. Not what's in their pic. Let me tell you a story. A woman who used to be on this site had a pic of her left tit up. Peeking out the zipper of a leather jacket. Her profile was intellectual. Know who she met? The guys who read her profile and didn't even mention her left tit. The ones who said, "nice tit, can I see the other?" "what does the rest of you look like?" etc, she threw right into the delete pile. Which leads me to my next point... 10. People here play those kind of games. Yes, it is a game when someone does that. It's to see if you're paying attention, so do pay attention. 11. This is more than a few sites in one. Try your handle and password on all these sites and see where you end up: Senior Sizzle, Passion.com, Passion.com, Xmatch, HotMatch, LesbianPersonals. You will end up here. Although, they have changed things for Lesbian Personals. Those poor women can't see how many men are on this site and then get upset and write to the advice forum, asking why there are so many men writing to them. You can see their profiles, they can't see you're here. So, as a sidenote, leave the women looking for women alone. 12. The above sites are all advertised in slightly different ways. Senior Sizzle, which is how most come in, may tell you posting a dick pic will increase your chances of getting laid. However, did you know Passion.com,tells people that adding a pic to their profiles increases their chances of finding a soul mate? Therefore, when you write to us ladies, if you have a dick pic as your main pic, which is what most married men do, include a face pic. In spite of the nature of this site, most women are turned off by dick pics. I happen to be indifferent, unless they're really, really ugly. 13. Your attitude towards women goes a long way. It's a buyer's market here, guys. You're trying to sell yourself to an ever decreasing number of women, as we've been leaving in droves lately, thanks to the knuckledraggers who believe women are here simply to service their dicks. Keep it in mind and stop whinging that this site sucks. It doesn't if you're realistic about it and your shortcomings. As I said in the start, if you want real women on here, you have to get real yourself. N00bs and other bitter men, feel free to flame away. Now, those with common sense and who have been on this site forever... Have I missed anything? |
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My god - absolutely breathtaking! I couldn't have said it better myself.... I think you hit everything right on the head! How many guys are going to listen to you, though? Probably very few. Ignorance is prolific...
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9/22/2005 9:37 pm |
Excellent Post,No MissAnnThrope, I do not belive you missed any thing, Jim
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I agree totally with MissAnn on this one. I am myself sick of the people NOT reading the profiles. So many of you would do better if you only READ the profiles and did not think this was the drive through window for a sex toy shop. I state clearly what I want and do NOT want in my profile only to have men emailing me constantly that are the exact opposite of what I want. If someone writes in their profile NO married men, that means NO married men. I am not going to suddenly see your email and start treating your wife like a piece of sh*t, I am not going to start helping you lie nor feed your lame ego that you are the lovegod of the world. I am not going to sit around and wait for you to have time because you are busy with your wife. If I say NO anal…that means NO anal. I am not going to shove anything up my a** now nor ever for you or anyone. I had one man that had all those things checked and more in his profile and he had the balls to tell me that he felt shorted because of a sh*tty answer. Guess what…it is YOUR profile, if the answer is bad or wrong take the darned thing out!!! Obviously you did NOT think it was bad when you put it in there and changing your answer because you think it will make me suddenly let you f*ck me is NOT going to happen either. He also said that he thought that maybe we could pursue those things “down the line.” NO!!!! Not now not ever!!! Regardless of if you took the time to write an email or how polite it is…”I” took the time to write a PROFILE….READ IT!! It is polite and I took the time to write it. You do NOT need to ‘ask because you don’t know till you do.” Why? Because I wrote it in my freaking profile!!! Do NOT question it again. And sending us dick pics is soooooo off as she says. I am not an idiot that suddenly loses all coherent thought when a penis goes by. ALL men have them. I do NOT screw ALL men that walk by me. This is a sex site, and it is a dating site. But even as a sex site I am not required to screw every guy that asks. As she said, I get 50-75 emails a day and I could not sleep with that many in a week let alone every day. Get real. If you think that saying we are gorgeous, beautiful, cute, or anything else of the sort will make us suddenly open our legs…think again. 100 other men in the last few days also said that and they did not get laid either. Funny also, when you get told no thank you, no matter how polite, suddenly some of you tell us how fat, ugly, skanky, etc…we are. You didn’t think that when you thought you had a chance of using us as a dick warmer. We are not going to change our opinions because you call us whores/sluts either. If you truly want to see more of the emails that we get like this…Read my blogs and you will see a plethora of them. You have no idea the crap we get in here. Before you go whining….READ and READ again!! This site will and does work for those that come here REALISTICALLY is right. Many women have left because of the crap some men do on here, and I know a few men that have left also. I can’t say it enough…READ THE PROFILES!! Otherwise you are setting yourself up for a disappointment. As for the 100% compatability score…it is crap. It only means we both agree on smoking/drinking habits. I had one man email me saying we were a ‘perfect match’ only to read in his profile that he wanted to women. Uh…..NOT!!! Again, READ the profiles and remember what you put in yours!!! Do NOT email people that are not into what you want. Whining about it is just bullsh*t and truly shows your own immaturity to me.
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Very well put. It's a shame that a vast majority of the same men you are talking about will read your post as "blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah get laid tonight blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah." Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.
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9/22/2005 11:18 pm |
Excellent ...thanks for coming by my site ...I had to look for yours...I happen to be one of the lucky ones who got hooked up within hours of landing here....my profile had little to do with it ..nor the crap I spew in my blog...she just liked my pic and it went from there...as for the rest this place is better than Yayhoos or some others...I have only to put the interesting ones on my hot list and if they dont block or remove their profile i read it at my leisure...that way they remove them selves...with out me doin all the work ...but then again I think that I may have found the one...
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9/23/2005 7:41 am |
very well put...this is another that should be sent to people when they join
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Great blog and totally right on Miss Ann! I also like rdy2 comments. You mean all women don't want to be my dick warmer? Tragic!  Hubris as the Greeks say is the downfall of many a hero. The odds for men are pretty discouraging, but I am trying anyway and with luck or karma something good will happen eventually. Patience is a virtue. I don't understand the point of complaining or as the Brits say whinging! It makes you appear stupid and dumb, probably not attractive qualities likely to get one laid! Attacking people who reject you is not likely to get you laid either, just a rep as a bad breaker upper as they said on Seinfeld! So much wasted energy and so much stupidity!
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9/23/2005 11:59 am |
A really good Post... held my attention right to the last word.. I really hope that it will be read by many, and you receive lots of complimentary comments. All of which are, so well deserved. A pleasure visiting your blog.
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I've just taken the time to read almost your entire blog from your start and enjoyed it very much. I will add this to the blogs that I keep an eye on as I enjoy your wit, charm and insightfulness. I've also just put myself on your radar, by writing this entry and one on your profile, so I risk becoming the subject of your public scorn. (as you say, as soon as I hit "send" this material is yours to do your bidding) While every last guy on this site (mulleted or otherwise)thinks they are the exception, I am confident enough to state that I am among the lucky few who will probably fare well...besides, as I am no longer looking to get laid, even bad publicity couldn't hurt. Take care.
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9/23/2005 6:55 pm |
I too have become a bit of a blog addict. I don't think I whine about not getting laid though..... I like your humour MissAnn. I like your honesty. Both are quite refreshing. I am not dead yet
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9/23/2005 7:18 pm |
Point well stated, However for every hot girl in the world there is a guy that is bored to death of fucking her. I am here for other reasons. I do enjoy reading this shit. PS. If these guys can not filter out the crap then they deserve to be fools.
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Darius: Thank you and I'm afraid you're right. The very people who should read this won't think it applies to them. Or care. RailBaron: Thank you, but I'm sure I left a thing or two out. Sassy: Lamers? Learn to read? When pigs fly, maybe. rdy: BTW, I have your number machine ready. When do you want to pick it up? *ducks* QuietGuy: I hate to be the one to break it to you but yes, you have to put in effort. Unless in some really strange accident, some woman does fall on your dick. mzhumy: Thank you. Daphne: I'm afraid you're right too. handyman: A few hours? That really is beginner's luck! connor: Perhaps well thought out would have been a better term? And talking ATM and Coke machines? Please, please, PLEASE tell me you're joking. Please. And no, it doesn't sound self-serving. Streak: Thank you. Perhaps we can lobby the site to send it to n00bs? Nah, it would keep them from buying paid memberships. red: Sad but true. Now, if only you weren't in CA but NYC. And single. Or at least had the permission slip from the wife. And were into fat chicks. But alas, none apply. sleepless: Thank you. I just hope the people who need to read it read it. I sent someone to read it last night and he came back into chat calling me a man hating lesbo. *sigh* Atomic: You'll only become the object of scorn if you act like a complete asshole. So far, you're safe. So far. Bardic: Thank you. rru: Wasn't that the name of a chapter in a book by Bill Maher? I agree. I love it when people who should know better start talking to the bots. I let them anymore.
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Thank you so much, Candy. I did forget those things. But don't you know, when they gripe that you won't do something they want done, it's because they love the pic, want to meet you, but want you to be all things to them. After all, they're paying for the fantasy, right? *cough* Half the time they want things that not even the skankiest of street whores would do. I had to take "alternate fetishes" off my profile because of all the guys who wanted to pee and shit on me. Then there was the one who wanted to tie me to a tree and beat me to within an inch of my life. Yeah, that just sounds so hot...
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3. Married men looking to play with couples. I wish you luck, guys, I really do. Couples play together and as a result, married and cheating tends to be looked down upon in the swinging community. Just because they're swinging couples it doesn't mean they don't have morals. ------------------ Finally someone who understands that point. If I hear one more time - but you are married - why can't we have sex? I'll scream - if your wife doesn't know, and I can't meet her before hand to talk to her - then NO we are not having sex... I hate the people think I have no standards because my husband and I are very open about things....I actually have higher standards because I'm not looking for sex every minute of the day...(like some single people I know)... Anyways - thanks for saying your piece...was a breathe of fresh air to read 
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6/17/2006 6:02 pm |
Well written, MissAnn...I didn't address the advertising issue in my version, but after discussing with it a friend and reading it here, I'm thinking I will. Still working on how to distribute it to those in need of this kind of help.
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11/20/2007 5:40 pm |
MissAnn, I've finally made it over here and read this. It needs to be pimped afresh. So, so true. Thank you Blogito ergo sum.
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MissAnn, I've finally made it over here and read this. It needs to be pimped afresh. So, so true. Thank you
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