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Two Worlds...
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Two Worlds... In my time here I have found that there are two very distinct and separate worlds for me. The one here, on this site, and the real world where I live most of the time. This world is obviously a fantasy and wonderful exploratory world. Everything goes here, lots to do, say, talk, meet, imagine. The real world? Well that's where I live and exist in real time and real life. My real world is good. It's fun and has lots to offer, yet I am drawn here to do things normal people only dream about. Occasionally the two worlds meet and that can be both fantastic and terrifying. I envy people here who have a life like the ones we have here in the real world as well. People who can meld the two worlds together and seamlessly exist on both planes. That would be amazing. When my two worlds intersect it is like that. But unfortunately that is the exception rather than the rule. I have made friends on here who have slipped easily into my real world life. Sometimes they actually help me create a third world of real life that constitutes the time I am with them out on the real world. That is great but usu sally short lived for a multitude of reasons. Jealous husbands or wives. . Job circumstances. Changing views and opinions, etc. The real world has a way of demanding much more than the world here. Here you can be just who you are and what you want. I know its not real and seldom can sustain itself, but it is a good place to release yourself and let yourself go and have fun. I was thinking last night how some people fail to see the distinction between these two worlds. Especially when they come from this world and enter the real world because of it. By this I mean say you meet someone on here and things progress to the point where you physically want to meet in the real world. Not only can that be scary but it can also end a friendship that began on here. We find that the image we have of the person on here is not the same as the person we find in real life and of course things go wrong and so forth. But in order for this world to continue to hold our interest there needs to be some cross sectioning of the two worlds. If this world was ONLY fantasy then it would eventually lose its appeal and people would drift away...I think this might explain why we lose some people from here. They just get tired of the fantasy and having no or limited luck in transposing this world to the real world they get discouraged and just stop trying. Or, they find that when these two worlds intersect it so messes up their real lives that they can't do it and run screaming from the room as it were. I find the only problem with being in two worlds is when people from the real world misunderstand what the fantasy life is like. They begin to transpose real life into this life and then can't get over the clashes of ideals. After all what may be perfectly acceptable in the Senior Sizzle world may be totally opposite in the Real world. Take relationships for instance. If I make a friend here and she meets me in the real world and we hit it off. Then one of us leaves the Senior Sizzle world while the other stays there may actually be misunderstanding and even jealousy about our activities here. The real world intervenes and says that this world is wrong and needs to be shut down. I had a friend once who I met on here and became increasingly jealous of the people who interacted with me on this site. She of course had used this site to find someone and then assumed that everyone else was doing the same thing and that caused her angst because I was still here. She asked me to choose between her or this world and despite my complete adoration for her it was not an easy choice. Our relationship in the real world was great, but it was really only an extension of the Senior Sizzle world for me. Despite that fact that for her it was REAL because it was in the real world, for me it was that third world we talked about before. She still wasn't allowed into MY real world, because the rules of my being here and with her precluded that. In the end she couldn't reconcile the difference and ended our relationship. On the whole I am a one woman man...at a time at least...If I am with one woman in the real world I am likely to stay that way. I have had occasion to have a couple of women in the real world, but usually they are both from here and our relationship really exists in that third world. When the real world intrudes and asks for a choice there really is no choice to be made. Last summer when I took my grand baseball excursion I found that this could not be more clear. Of the several women that I met from here I found that their concept of real world and Senior Sizzle world were very distinct. It was fine to talk and flirt and even tease in this world, but the Real world didn't lend itself to that. We could be friends etc, but not FWB's. And I understood that as mostly it would have been one nighters with them and both they and I were really not into that. Yet it was surprising to me that there would be an actual difference between their Senior Sizzle personas and their Real World personas. Not really surprising...just not what I suspected. I think the lady from Connecticut said it the best...she said that despite the fact that we had met before and even had glorious sex together, this time was different. She was no longer in the sex at all costs mood or place in her life. She was free of her main cause (a neglectful and hurtful husband) and now she was not so easily swayed. The fact that we had shared our passions before was not enough to do it again. Now she craved more substance and meaning. She had left Senior Sizzle because she felt she didn't need the fantasy anymore now that she was free. In the end I had a great time with her even if it wasn't sexual...but interestingly enough it was very real. Her two world s now were different. In fact she no longer existed in the Senior Sizzle world and therefore her real world dictated a different set of circumstances. I could fully grasp her meaning, but only lately have I been able to see where she was coming from. I wonder if when the two world intersect is when people on here have the most potential problems. How do you make the real world work with the fantasy one? I have succeeded, I thought, a couple of times...but sooner or later it always comes down to what is real, and what is not. It might be better to both realize this world and its intersection with the real world for what it is...a time apart from reality and real life. While it occurs in the real world it really is borrowed time from the fantasy world. If both people enter the relationship with that in mind, then perhaps it can succeed. the real world after all, is only the reality we make it. Here's a picture that describes a woman who would be real in either world....mmmmm...  |
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I agree it is a good post. 
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Great post, Quixy. I think that most have encountered at one time or another very similar situations. Thanks for posting this. Cheers.
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