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Sexual Arousal
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Sexual Arousal  So today, my second day off in a row...be steady my heart...I have decided to do some research and comment on something that I have long wondered about...yes indeed! Sexual Arousal! Firstly...does the above picture arouse you? Why or why not? I have often wondered why I am aroused by some things/people and not others. It has been a ponderous of mine for several years now. I can sit in the mall and watch people and just get aroused by some and not others. Take yesterday for example...standing in line at Lululemmon...immediately in front of me was a young woman, likely 24 or so, with her boyfriend/husband. He was offering her comments on clothes she was holding up, but his comments were superfluous to her attention. He was trying, showing interest and just plane being there. She was aware of his prescience, just barely, as he held her place in the long long line. She finally came to stand with him when they were about three people from the front. She was absolutely gorgeous...I mean stunning, awesomely pretty and so oh so sure of herself. But I was totally un-aroused by her...I even thought to myself "Are you crazy? You don't find this woman absolutely amazing?" and to that my inner soul answered an emphatic "NO!" Well that confused my mind. He obviously thought she was worthy of arousal, but here I was not even remotely interested. Was it because she was with someone? No. Was it because she was not quite as beautiful as she seemed? No. Well then? I believe it was because she treated her man as a place holder and not as a true person. Interestingly enough I saw them again a few minutes later in another store. it was a men's store this time and she was paying attention to him this time...but she still didn't do it for me. She looked at me this time. As much to say "I remember you behind us in the last line?" But her smile was cool, not cold, but cool and quizzical. I didn't smile back, very unusual for me, I just went to another part of the store. Odd behaviour for me... So why when I should have been absolutely taken by her beauty, her perfect body, her obvious prescience was I cool and disinterested? My mind was completely bewildered...what the heck is wrong with you? It kept asking...but I believe that it was something she exuded that caused my reaction. Wikipedia describes sexual arousal as: Sexual arousal, or sexual excitement, is the arousal of sexual desire, during or in anticipation of sexual activity. Things that precipitate human sexual arousal are called erotic stimuli, or colloquially known as turn-ons. There are many potential stimuli, both physical or mental, which can cause a person to become sexually aroused. Sexual arousal usually leads to physiological changes in the aroused person, some of which are pronounced while others are more subtle. Sexual arousal may not lead to an actual sexual activity, beyond a mental arousal and the physiological changes that accompany it. Given sufficient stimulation, sexual arousal in humans will typically end in an orgasm; but arousal may be pursued for its own sake, even in the absence of an orgasm Does this mean I was not interested in this fabulous beautiful woman because she didn't turn me on? Huh?? If she didn't turn me on then I must be gay! AND BELIEVE ME I AM NOT GAY. In fact quite the opposite...more homophobic than otherwise. No it wasn't that. She didn't arouse me because she was not even considering that. She was self centered and satisfied with where she was. She was giving off no<b> pheromones. </font></b>There was nothing psychological in her approach to the world. There was no arousal AT ALL! The reason I am making such a big deal about this is SHE WAS SOOOO STUNNING! I mean she was the most beautiful woman I have seen in likely a year! Yet - nothing! I am incredulous at myself. I can sit in the mall on a bench and watch women go by and get turned on by 90% of them...just because of the possibilities...all shapes and sizes, all kinds, all colors. The range of arousal will vary naturally...but most every woman has some degree of effect on me. And those that don't - well, the reverse is also true. They turn me off! But this woman? Nothing...blank..zip. Very odd... Wikipedia goes on to state: Depending on a situation, a person can be sexually aroused by a variety of factors, both physical and mental. A person may be sexually aroused by another person or by particular aspects of that person, or by a non-human object. A physical stimulation of an erogenous zone or acts of foreplay can result in arousal, especially if it is accompanied with the anticipation of imminent sexual activity. Sexual arousal may be assisted by a romantic setting, music or other soothing situation. The potential stimuli to sexual arousal vary from person to person, and from one time to another, as does the level of arousal. Stimuli are generally classified according to the sense involved: somatosensory (touch), visual, and olfactory (scent). Auditory stimuli are also possible, though they are generally considered secondary in role to the above-stated three. I can think of times lately when I am lying in bed with Mar. She is particularly attentive to my body...even after we have just made love. Her hands are always on me, stroking, holding, fondling, or even just resting. I love it when she puts her head on my shoulder or stomach and just lies there. It "TURNS ME ON"...definitely fitting the wikipedia definition of arousal...even if we just spent the last hour or so making love. It is absolutely amazing. I think she knows it, but I keep reminding her of how amazing her touch is to me...how satisfying it feels, how perfect. At times I would rather have that than any other form of sex. It is so complete, so perfect. Sigh.... Arousal is in and of itself just amazing. I am easily aroused...with the exception of yesterday...and I do appreciate it in every form it presents...but I am confused as to why it is so different and sometimes when it should be front and center totally absent. Sorry for rambling...if you're still reading thanks very much...I have questions here for you...Is there something or some set of circumstances which never fail to "turn you on"? Are you sometimes amazed by what does turn you on? Have you ever found yourself amazed that you WEREN'T turned on by a set of events? Please let me know. |
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You must have a bad day or you didn't eat your celery.  Quixy, there is an old formula for "old guys" - half your age + 8 years is the ideal bottom threshold. Below that age, there has to be a lot of connection. The connection is the eyes, body energy and pheromone cocktail, but that is another blog cuming. So stay tuned.  btw The pic - No, it doesn't do it for me. Come visit openagenda: provocative thought, adult discussions, sexy pics & giggles.  Is This How Friday The GET IT ON Solution MASSAGE exploring partners SEDUCTION Love What is it Relationship Rules Trust and other Issues Essence Be In Tune Does Size Matter The Facts Hand in Hand
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