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Sunrise, Sunset
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Sunrise, Sunset  Sunrise, sunset Swiftly flow the days Seedlings turn overnight to sunflowers Blossoming even as we gaze. And now another one is going. In 1992 I had a wife and three living with me. In 1996 I had three , but no wife living with me. In 2003 my middle , all of 14 coerced me into letting her move 500 miles to the north to live with her mom. My and youngest stayed in Carolina with me. In 2005 my 19 yr. old moved out of state and lives on his own 600 miles to the south. Now in 2006 my youngest wishes to join her sister and move in with her mom. I acquiesced, and now another one is going. Do broken families have broken hearts? I dunno, but I feel an overwhelming sadness sometimes. Is this the little boy at play? I don't remember growing older When did they? When did she get to be a beauty? When did he get to be so tall? Wasn't it yesterday When they were small? Sunrise, sunset Sunrise, sunset Swiftly fly the years One season following another Laden with happiness and tears... * God bless my . Oh! How dearly I love them! * Poetry from Fiddler On The Roof. |
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6/7/2006 3:51 pm |
I understand the feeling, Keith. My daughter was only 9 when when I was divorced. Not being able to see her every morning and every evening almost killed me. You will survive and your kids will always love you. 
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and you must have taught them well to conquer all that's out there....  ~hugz~ for the heart that's hurting....
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Here's the thing... Other than the divorced aspect, this is not a broken family. It's just one that's growing up. Like they all do. But oh, the poignancy of it, yeah? sigh... Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]
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My boys are 13 and 8 now...and I feel the same way already...can't imagine in a few years when the first one moves out.
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Gorgeous Keith, The love you have for them and they for you doesn't change, just the miles betwen you. Stay strong, let them go and grow and become the adults you have showed them to be. Big hug for you, Frangi xx
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awww hugs hun  as you know my dad got custody of all four of us i was the only one who never lived with my mom when the other three seem to go ,back and forth months at a time,all came back to dad eventually,we all left home to start our own lives one at a time me first and the third daughter last,as dad couldn't expres his feelings like you,he collasped with a susupected brain (cannot spell the next word) stroke lol after every test known to man they found it was a migraine brought on my the stress of the last baby leaving the next.So your not alone with these powerful feelings of love.We chicks all need to fly and find our way but we always know were the nest is and its a warm place full of love for us to keep on coming back I'm a   and i'm here to stay
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Those kids know that you will always be there for them even if they live hundreds of miles away. Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.
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The wings you have given them take them away, but they also bring them home. It appears with the love you have for them, they won't be gone for good... but for a season. And yet, the difficulty for you could be heartbreaking. I hope that your sadness lingers only a short while. This is the first time I've been to your blog. It was a beautiful trip. Thank you. Artistic
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Thank you PK. It helps girlfriend... Yes, thank you for saying that TTA, my friend. Not only will they always love me, but they will be able to express it as well. Hello, oh Goddess! It's nice to see you here in The Venting Blog again. I'm certain that I could have done a better job of teaching them, but it will have to suffice for now. Yes, thank you for pointing that out wahinie sweetie. It's just another part of the process, but I was so looking forward to being a part of their high school years, and now I'm just gonna be a far away daddy who can't help much with the daily stuff. Jeeze. Now I feel like I'm whining... Agreed, Erotica. I hope you will continue to visit. I really should not be moaning. This post is an aberration and it is unseemly for The Venting Blog to host a pity party. I find much solace in moongazing, my fair asianlady4love. It brings you closer to me.  Yes CHIEF. A new life phase is beginning for all of us. I will ALWAYS love you bunches Marylin. Good luck with it LT. We must all go through it sooner or later. Aw, thank you so much for those warm words, frangi sweetie. I feel better already! Hullo there MtnHikr! I used much of the same logic that you expressed. Much, but not all...  Yes, thank you playrigal. I'm reminiscing right now... Hello Cats! They're good tears mostly. The ones that well up at times like this. Thank you so much for your support and kindness. Who else am I? Wow honni! There is much to consider in those four little words. Too much to have the time to mope about anything. I shall reinvent myself. Stay tuned... That is a good point, FreeLove! They are confident. I will see them 4x annually. My middle daughter graduates next year and she says she's coming back to Carolina to start a business. Wouldn't that be marvelous? Hi papy! Yes, I have followed your story. Thank you for your kind words. You are very precious to me, don't ya know? Thanks Daph. It is true. I love the wing analogy, ArtisticTwist. Thank you for that. Also... Welcome to The Venting Blog! You caught it at an awkward time I think. There is more of lunacy than beauty here if you ever read further.  keithcancook has a difficult time staying blue for long, MOfun my sweet! It musta been the wine. I had a coupla glasses before I wrote this pitiful post. I'm back to my usual positive self already! Besides, my middle daughter just got in from Md. this morning. She looks marvelous! Blog On!
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Dammit keith, came by for a funny story to leave a funny comment on, instead I have nothing to leave but a tear. You are a very giving, and understanding father. You have allowed your children to grow, and make decisions, even though they may be painful ones. This further illustrates what a great dad you are! Your children are very lucky to have such a wonderful man for a "dad"!!! Kisses Lady
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6/9/2006 7:09 am |
awww Keith it will be fine. One day your kids will make you proud. And hey thanks for stoppin in the other day it was nice to see you again. Juicy
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Of course they are the same children. And you should be proud of having brought them up to this level of independence. It is sad when they are away. But it is also happy since the course of nature is fullfilled. I live half the world away from my parents who - I know - miss me. But they also know it was the best thing to do.
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Thanks Salz. I do appreciate what you have said here. (and the hug was real sweet too!) I think that will be the next step for me, nikki. Thank you for stopping in to tell me that. The blues don't sit well with me, and they almost always pass quickly. Aw, that is the sweetest thing anyone has said to me all day, Lady. Thanks, sweetie! I will try and come up with something amusing for you real soon. I think I may be ready to try writing again this weekend. Oh thank you so much, candysoveryverysweet! That was so veryverybeautiful, and I will cherish your comment forever. It's all good, Juicy! One good turn deserves another, as they say! I am counting on your prediction coming true. Yes, I always cope well, happyladychat! I am an excellent adapter to the environments I find myself in. I suppose there are a few benefits that will be coming with them going. (did that make sense?) Thanks dz, my very good friend! I'm sure that I will find something to focus on. However, since I just lost my reading glasses yesterday everything is a bit blurry and out of focus... Ah, that is an interesting perspective, interested my friend. I do believe I may have a post in it. You have got me to thinking... (oh, oh)
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Went for another good bike ride. Overestimated my oxygen carrying capacity but only just a bit. Just couldn't quite pull that one hill, couldn't get unclipped and had to lay her down. You should see the bruise on my ass. -Fat bottomed girls you make the rocking world go round- GET ON YOUR BIKES AND RIDE!!!!!
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Keith, mine were 16 and 18 when we got a divorce. The 18 year old hit the rod to FL that was 7 years ago. My daughter just graduated from college. Even though they've both been out of the house for years, they've been in and out at times. I've still been able to mommy them some. My daughter is here now not really allowing me to mommy her but I am like you a fish out of water. I don't know what to do with myself. But it's as it should be. They grow up and they move on and I am sure our parents felt the ssame.
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(((HUGS))) I have so much respect for parents and the sacrifices they make. You are a wonderful, loving and caring father. You children - regardless of age or where they are living will always know you love them. (((HUGS))) Whisper...
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6/11/2006 4:13 am |
My dad used to sing this song and I always felt as though he was singing it for me....he's gone now but still with me if you know what i mean...Don't you worry Keith...you gave them a good foundation....they love you...and will always be a part of you....hugs for you ...take care...HB2xx
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6/11/2006 10:35 pm |
Sweet sweet Keith ... my "warm huggies" come on the wind to surround you. The hardest thing I ever did, was watch mine walk out the door. The most loving thing my daughter said to me was ... "Mom, you loved me enough to let me go, and I didn't turn out so bad." She actually makes me look good. Dang it ... this wasn't in the parenting book 101, they slipped us a zinzer on this one. *kicks sand* We are here for ya.
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Ride on up South Mountain and I'll meet you on the western side in a coupla weeks, JayR. I think I will pay a little visit to Sharpesburg on my way to Penna. And maybe the next post will inspire you better than the last two? Thank you, absolutelynormal. The cycle of life continues... I dunno, candysoveryverysweet. I don't turn on my chat thingie that often. When I do, you are never there.  Aw, dry your tears my little wildflower. It's all good. Parents do make sacrifices, Whisper. But they don't seem like it so much at the time. Thank you for your kind words. Thanks, HBowt2! I only worry on odd numbered days and then for only a moment. Yes, I know what you mean, maggie. Mine have been a pretty good reflection on me for the most part too! And yes, BlogLanders have shown they care about their own. Thanks to everyone of y'all!
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Our children are precious and we should always cherish them They have a wonderful father and one day soon they will come to see that you are their rock. You have lots of wonderful memories to carry you through... Smile and remember them. tender hugs... ...m.
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Good Friend Keith: Sooner or later they all grow up and leaves us to have their lives. Yours chose sooner...sad for you, surely a learning experience for them. Bless you, sweety and no regrets...only happiness, love and adventures ahead! Alice
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6/15/2006 8:50 am |
I MISS YOU! and that's all I have to say about that. warm huggies 2ya
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Aw, thank you mm. They love me very much indeed, although the memories seem to have a bittersweet feel to em. I guess I'm still a bit flustered with this latest leaving. I know it well, delicious Alice. It's the cycle of life. Hey! Ya wanna come over n watch The Lion King with me? We can smootch some more... Hey Maggie! You sure are pretty... Thanks MO. I am quite fond of you too, sweetie. BlogLand is a blessing for us all. If I am making sense, then something is wrong, happylady. Also, it's more like Wise Guy than Wise One I fear. As for the relaxing mixed in with adventure.... yes ma'am! 
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6/16/2006 2:35 am |
Awwww everyone has said such lovely things, it is a beautiful post, but kind of sad too...
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Those lines are very nice, funsassy. Thank you for them. Oh, and welcome to The Venting Blog! Yeah, it's a bit bittersweet TabithaE and the post did generate great comments revealing how wonderful the folk of BlogLand be... Hello ready! Welcome to The Venting Blog! Thank you for your kind words. Well candysoveryveryinvisible, I always have my light on so folks can see me. If you're there how come you don't page me when I come on? Oh well, blog on!
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