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SIDE CHICK VS STALKER
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SIDE CHICK VS STALKER This probably going to hit close to home for some and it may even piss off others. Several of my "playmates" are married an I personally LOVE this about our relationships. Recently one of them has found himself a stalker. So I thought this would be a good topic. Like....who the FUCK does that????? If you went into the relationship KNOWING that you do not have the right to cross over to STALKER. In each of mine, I knew up front that they were married and I agreed and accepted that and knew when and where I could contact them. I LIKE IT THIS WAY! I have been friends with all of mine for over 8 years each. If you ever look at any of the published SIDE CHICK RULES....this one should be on the top of the list: Technology can give you plenty of means to stalk your man or even his main chick. While this is fairly easy, never do it. First of all, it’s pointless. Secondly, you might end up with a restraining order. If your man doesn’t want you to know where he is, it’s probably for the best. And if he wants you to know what he’s up to, he will definitely let you know. SO I thought that I would help you determine if you have crossed that thin, thin line from SIDE CHICK to STALKER! #1 Commenting on or liking all of his Facebook posts. While it’s fine to friend the object of your affection on Facebook, even if you don’t know him that well, it’s not cool to like or comment on every single status, photo or link that pops up on his page. #2 Showing up at places he’s checked into via social media. Thanks to social networks like Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter, it’s easy to post where you are or where you’re headed, so your friends can come join you. People generally don’t announce their location in hopes of spending the night alone. #3 Frequently walking or driving by his workplace, school, or home. You may need to walk or drive by one of these places to get where you’re going, but don’t do so more often than is necessary. If you don’t happen to see him, you’ll have wasted your time and accomplished nothing. #4 Texting him constantly. Perhaps you’ve been lucky enough to receive a cell number from your love interest. If so, don’t make him regret giving it to you. Remember, daily “Good morning” and “Sweet dreams” texts are normally sent by couples who are already dating, not two people who are just getting to know each other. #5 Viewing his LinkedIn profile without connecting. Most people have their LinkedIn account set up so that another user can see when they viewed their profile. If you happen to come across your love interest’s page, and you don’t have this feature turned off, bypassing his profile without doing or saying anything will make you look a little odd. #6 Becoming a *new* patron at his workplace. If the guy you’ve got your eye on tells you that he works at a store, mans the front desk of a hotel, or is a teller at a local bank, you may think this is great, since his job will give you super-easy access to him. Not so fast – if you’ve never entered his place of business before, but start showing up frequently after being told that he works there, you may, in fact, appear to be a stalker. #7 Getting close to his friends and family members. Even if your intentions are innocent, a guy may think it’s quite strange if you, seemingly out of the blue, become best friends with his friends and immediate family. Sure, his sister might be really cool, and you and his roommate may have the exact same taste in music, but you’ve got to keep your friendships with these people casual until he accepts you into his inner circle himself. Otherwise, he might think you’re using his intimate acquaintances in order to get closer to him. #8 Pumping people for information about him. Along the same lines, if you’re already good friends with a ton of people who know him, don’t use them as possible information sources with the intent of finding out more about his activities. Don’t ask mutual friends what he’s doing on the weekend, where his new job is, or what his holiday plans are this year. #9 Making his interests your own. When you’re looking to date a new guy, you should never pretend to like something that you don’t care for, or take up new hobbies solely because they’re his. Most guys will get weirded out if they meet you at a party on Friday night, and then you unexpectedly show up at their book club, their wine tasting group, and their gym, all within the next week. Moreover, if a guy finds out that you really aren’t as interested in their hobbies as you purport yourself to be, they’ll peg you as kind of manipulative and desperate. #10 Talking about him constantly to mutual friends. It’s understandable that when you’re crushing on someone new, all you’ll want to do in your spare time is talk about him. You’ve got to remember to keep this chatter to a minimum with anyone who is friends with the both of you though, since they may think they’re being funny or even helpful by passing what you’ve said on to him. #11 Giving him unnecessary gifts. Unless this guy is already your boyfriend, or you’re headed to his birthday soirée, you shouldn’t be buying him gifts, even if you think that hat at the mall will really complement his eyes, or those snazzy folders are just the thing that will help him keep his work documents organized. #12 Asking him to hang out after a few rejections. When we’re really interested in someone, sometimes our brains have trouble processing the word “no.” If a guy tells us he’s busy and can’t hang out, we may keep on asking and asking, ignoring the negative response each time. As much as you like a guy and want to stay within his radar, keep these 12 signs in mind and avoid turning into a stalker without realizing it, or you may just end up pushing him away instead of getting closer to him.  |
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