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Blogs > hotdreamer1000 > While I was Dreaming

It's What I'm For  

hotdreamer1000 64M
8675 posts
4/24/2019 5:13 am

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It's What I'm For

Since my last post was a bit of a downer, and posted a long time ago, I thought I had better write something. But I warn you, I don't know what it is going to be yet - I am just going to let the words come!

You may remember I have posted before about how much I am drawn to the idea of someone who makes a "willing gift" of themselves. I am not a domineering sort of person in a relationship, so this idea does not carry any sort of undercurrent of abuse. In fact I would go further and say any sort of derogatory language or misuse of another person is a massive turn off for me. What I am talking about is the feeling I have occasionally had from a lover she feels, perhaps only for moment, her whole purpose is to have sex with me.

This is something I have been dreaming about again recently. The dreams have not been specific, just they have included a feeling my companion in the dream was a Willing Gift. One of my dream partners actually said to me, "it is what I'm for Dreamer." I found this very erotic. I have a vague memory of a girl who has the softest, warmest skin, who used to wrap her arms around my shoulders and press herself close against me. She always seemed able to satisfy herself when we were together, but looking back, she was always very focussed on my feelings when we made love. She was a Willing Gift.

Sometimes I think this is one of the keys to good relationships. each partner is willing to be a gift in this way, both physically and emotionally. It doesn't mean they can't have their own needs, or you can be selfish with them.

I don't know how well I am explaining this. I do know some of you understand..........

And I wasn't expecting to write about today.

MyNameIsKay 62F  
11887 posts
4/27/2019 10:12 am

 Happy end of April Dreamer!

I do understand what you are saying. I have had moments when I was dating my ex when I felt so connected to him that he could feel it. The first time it happened we were just kissing. He pulled back and asked what it was...he could feel that moment be different. I don’t know if that actually satisfies the willing gift “criteria” or not. But in that moment, the connection and focus was so tied to him, that all I wanted was to be as physically close to him in that moment as I could.

I miss feeling that kind of a connection...sex is great, but connection is better!
Swim...Bike...Done


hotdreamer1000 64M
12409 posts
4/29/2019 10:22 am
    Quoting MyNameIsKay:
    Happy end of April Dreamer!

    I do understand what you are saying. I have had moments when I was dating my ex when I felt so connected to him that he could feel it. The first time it happened we were just kissing. He pulled back and asked what it was...he could feel that moment be different. I don’t know if that actually satisfies the willing gift “criteria” or not. But in that moment, the connection and focus was so tied to him, that all I wanted was to be as physically close to him in that moment as I could.

    I miss feeling that kind of a connection...sex is great, but connection is better!
End of April is okay so far!

Yes, that connection is part if it. But it doesn't only happen when you really get that strong connection. Or....I don't know....maybe it does. I can't quite put my finger on it either. But I have also had it when it seemed more like a friends with benefits thing, so I am not sure.....


zandigal 59F
13016 posts
5/21/2019 5:59 pm

 What a Brilliant Post! For not knowing what you were going to write, you sure hit the nail on the head, Dreamy!
This is exZactly how it should be...
missed you! Happy May, 2019!
Respond to every call that excites Your Spirit
~Rumi

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2mrsrainbowsox 31F/30F
Ask me for a photo
8 posts
6/4/2019 2:06 pm

 Winky-Winky, look who is here not all that stinky?

Miss you more than you could imagine!

Love,
E' & H'


hotdreamer1000 64M
12409 posts
12/3/2019 1:39 pm
    Quoting zandigal:
    What a Brilliant Post! For not knowing what you were going to write, you sure hit the nail on the head, Dreamy!
    This is exZactly how it should be...
    missed you! Happy May, 2019!
Ha ha, OMG, have I been gone that long? You say "happy may" and here I am first reading it in December.

So good to see you Zandi.


1seeking1 58F
3767 posts
12/3/2019 2:42 pm

 I think I understand, I call it connection , seems rare and precious I hope to experience it again.


hotdreamer1000 64M
12409 posts
12/4/2019 1:58 pm
    Quoting 1seeking1:
    I think I understand, I call it connection , seems rare and precious I hope to experience it again.
Hi Seeking, thanks for commenting. I agree - this can't happen without a very strong connection, but the thing I am describing is something else in addition to that. I have had strong connections without getting the willing gift feeling, and I have also had the willing gift even on what turned out to be a short lived affair.


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