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Are you dating a Psycho (hehe)
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Are you dating a Psycho (hehe) I recently found this article on another quasi ‘dating-but-maybe-you’ll-find-a-fuck-buddy-outta-the-deal’ kinda website that I wanted to post here. I have done what I do best by adding some of my own comments along the way. The reason I am posting this is because some ppl I have wasted the time in chatting with (at least one a day now it seems) both here and via ya who messenger; like to end confrontational/argumentative conversations (the kind where they are right, you are wrong and there are no if's and's or buts about them getting their way on this one) with “OMG You really ARE psycho!” or "you are nuts you need to get laid/get fucked/ get screwed or other lewd 'sex is the cure all for all mental disease' suggestion which makes me laugh incessantly at the time because I’m like “ummm, Read my profile sometime eh?, catch that psycho bit in my name; ya dumbass…” and so on. But then ‘cause I am a bit twisted/sensitive, I actually start giving what they say to me some actual thought, even bouncing it off my husband to see…. “Am I really more psycho than I think I am?” Then in a moment of enlightenment, I came across this article which confirmed for me- NO I’m not psycho and those stupid chat phonies who are online trying to be something they aren’t and “project” onto me what they truly are themselves, can just kiss my tushy. So on with the article--- ********* We've all got a teeny bit of psycho in us. But the line between going ga-ga for someone and becoming completely delusional about the boundaries of the relationship is a fine one. If your newest fling's behavior is starting to give you a serious case of the heebie-jeebies and you wonder where the glowing personality went that you met on the first date, you may have hitched up with a psycho. From bunny-boiling to phone-tapping, incessant emails to branding-style scratched initials in your back, there's a lot to be afraid of. Herewith, six signs your honey is half-baked. Communication Overload (this is sooo not me; Id rather text than ever talk on the phone and I definitely don’t even give out all my and email addresses so that I can escape someone like this more easily  )There's a difference between an eager beaver and a psychotic partner. An eager beaver calls you once and leaves all their and email addresses so you can find them when you get the urge to reach out. A wacko calls all of your numbers and sends messages to all of your email addresses -- all day and every day. And the more time that passes between live interaction with a psycho, the more nutsy the notes and messages become. "Hey, it's me" morphs into "I've called 12 times...where are you?" and finally "Pick up the phone or I swear I'm gonna boil the bunny." Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire (I am way too ADD to try keeping up with what LIE I told to who and when… so the best policy on this one… for everyone even the not so psycho nut jobs out there is to just always be honest!) The fibs seem harmless at first; they may even be confused or couched as miscommunications. But psycho partners lie incessantly in an attempt to control you. So what starts as lies about small things, like liver also being his favorite food (so that it looks like you two are so similar you must be soul mates) escalates into elaborate fabrications about him needing your emotional support because he's just discovered that he has an identical twin brother whose cancerous liver will self-implode without a transfusion of your lover's genetically matched blood. Beware the contradictions, the overabundance of justifying details, the well-timed dramas. Stalk Talk (I just don’t have fucking time for this shit. With gas as high as it is and me being in some other effin state usually anyways… Im not wasting my time when I could be out dancing and partying to stalk some loser, eh!) Don’t be fooled by the cliché image of a trenchcoat-clad dude running from telephone pole to telephone pole as he follows his victim home from the bar. Stalking girlfriends and boyfriends come in all shapes and sizes (and outfits). And their techniques are many: from blatantly setting up tent and bonfire on your front stoop to see what time you get home, to “coincidentally” planting themselves in public places they know you’ll frequent ‒ your neighborhood porn shop, your synchronized swimming class, the recycling room in the basement of your building. Don’t discount the idea of your phone being tapped if it seems your lover knows secrets you’ve shared only with friends over the phone. If you’re starting to get that creepy “being watched” feeling and have actually found yourself wondering how the witness protection program works, you’ve probably made allies with a lunatic. Scarred Out Of Your Wits? (Anyone that is scared of me, should be institutionalized. I have 3 cats, 1 dog, one hamster and a husband that I treat very kindly. There is no reason in the world I’m going to go postal on some internet freak of nature if I’m not doing it at home LMA  Some guys like it when a girl draws blood from his back with her French manicured nails. And some girls, when doing the doggy, like to be spanked till their buttocks burn pink. But if the recipient of said "passionate" punishment isn't the one getting off, this kind of thing falls under the category of<b> branding. </font></b>As in, "This is my man and I've created a hickey self-portrait on his neck to show you that he's taken." Mine, Mine, Mine! (This is a huge issue with most people and Id have to say that where the article seems to condone some level of jealousy… jealousy is bad! It is what causes people to go insane from paranoia alone. If a quasi jealous person hooks up with a total and complete fake/liar/player that lying person is going to make the jealous person lose their mind before too long. Liars like to try to project what it is they are doing back onto the person that is accusing them of said act and it goes round and round and never gets anywhere until the liar gets busted and then suddenly one would ask themselves “Why put up with this kinda shit? You are better than that… get out and run far far away) We've all felt moments of jealousy in our lives. And that's probably a good thing -- a little bit of envy keeps us on our toes. But there's jealousy, and then there's jealousy of the paranoid variety. Imagine this: you can't look at anyone of the opposite sex, let alone talk to them, without your partner freaking out. And that's just with strangers (read: I know you're cheating on me with your doorman because you always say "hello"). Classic psycho jealousy behavior also pertains to, god forbid, ex-girlfriends and ex-boyfriends -- even pals and family members. In other words, to a psycho, everyone is a threat. Pay attention to ME (well I am a self professed attention and psycho and in this entire article this is the ONLY thing I could come up with that even came remotely close to describing even one facet of my personality and no I don’t have multiple ones. I need the attention, I need it from lots of places at one time but never have I ever gone off on someone for hanging out with exes or new friends, or having a BNO or a GNO if you are into that sorta thing. So… I guess even he similarity in this ends at… I need the attention but maybe Im too nonchalant to wanna work my ass off to get it) A psycho needs constant attention, and if that need isn't met, all hell breaks loose. Does your girlfriend fall to the ground in a pretend faint so that you have to stay home and take care of her rather than hit the pub with your friends on a BNO? Does your boyfriend hold your hand or perform other PDAs (public displays of affection) only when other males are around? You see, it's all about control and having power over you and the relationship. Psychos want to know everything (snooping is classic behavior and these dating duds seem to have eyes on the backs of their heads), and many may assume that you're in a committed relationship just because you made it through a first date. Caveat Of course we jest. In real life, stalking, obsessive phone calling and other possessive behavior is not cool. And not at all funny. If you suspect you are being stalked or are otherwise being harassed by a former or current partner, don't hesitate to call or visit your local police. And if you are facing an emergency, dial 911. (my own caveat to this is… the whole psycho thing for me is… half chemical embalance, half funny as shit inside joke that people who don’t know me, don’t get. I have to say I need to learn to be a little more light hearted here on the net as not to get so bent when people who don’t know me jump to some off-base conclusion about me based on something I said that they have interpreted inappropriately. It’s the internet for heavens sake and it is missing so much of what makes face to face conversation such a treasure, like body language, humor, facial expressions and hand jestures. The internet is a nice way to meet people you might not otherwise ever come in contact with or ever get to discuss the sorts of topics you can discuss anonymously here. But that’s basically where the niceties of internet communication end and where a real conversation face to face should begin. Judging someone here based on miscommunications could cause someone to truly miss out on what an awesome person has to offer.) |
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3/17/2008 5:17 pm |
Hey! You haven't changed a bit from the last time we talked....Its been a long time since we ksd . You look just great and I hope your doing well. ...I just wanted to say Hello! R
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3/24/2008 7:16 pm |
Not all end with “OMG You really ARE psycho!” or "you are nuts you need to get laid/get fucked/ get screwed or other lewd 'sex is the cure all for all mental disease.'
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5/11/2008 1:21 am |
OMG! YES!....LMAO. The last b/f, was complete in his psychotic, ego fueled, controlling moods and turned out those weren't the only moods he had. Yikes! There are psycho's out among us, dressed in decent every day likable people suits. They're everywheerrrreeeee!lol lol lol Thank you, I enjoyed reading this. OMG! It is true too,but as you stipulated in your profile & of which I whole heartedly agree; "if you don't have some drama in your life, you aren't truly living."
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