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The subby drop
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The subby drop Well it's been quite a ride for me the past couple of weeks. Happy to be me and fulfilled. I wanted to share this part of the experience with my readers...it's called the subby drop. This is what I have been going through...What is a subby drop??? Well, it's like this. I borrow this from Sir Gallahad, if you want more information on this web site, feel free to let me know...It is just a wonderful learning tool for all those who just even want to know more. Subby Drop Dropping Top/sub drop is something that most if not all of us experience after “playing”. Dropping can take on many different forms and intensity levels. If you are not educated on the symptoms/effects of Drop, it is conceivable to talk yourself into something worse than what you are truly experiencing. First, let’s define Top/sub drop. There are two main types of dropping, physical and emotional. Physical drop comes from the change of endorphins, adrenaline, and physical activity that is created in the course of play. Emotional drop is the psyche adjusting and responding to the new chemicals in your brain from the<b> power exchange. </font></b>There are other factors in which you will read about that may contribute to the intensity of each of these forms of drop. "Physical Drop"Preparing for Physical Drop: Get ample sleep! Resting your body is vital if you plan to play hard. Drink plenty of fluids. Water, Gatorade, and a low in sugar juice are recommended for this. Alcoholic and caffeinated beverages are greatly discouraged! Drinking these fluids will enable your body to stay hydrated. Dehydration can create a physical drop that you would NOT want to repeat (Think hangover after a bottle of Bourbon). Also, eating healthy will help you to ease out of Top/sub space with a bit more ease. Complex carbohydrates are suggested whereas sugars are discouraged. Make sure you take all of your necessary medications before you play. It is suggested you discuss your chosen lifestyle with your doctor in case there is a medication you have been prescribed that would create a problem during or after play. Make sure you have comfortable clothing and footwear to change into after your scene if needed. Wearing tight clothes (latex, corsets, etc.) can hinder one’s breathing which is not good if you are suffering an anxiety attack or hyperventilating. Preparing for Emotional Drop:Focus on the scene that lies ahead. Figure out what you want to get out of the scene. This is important to relate to your partner so that they may better be able to accommodate you. (For Women) Are you menstruating? Menstruation can be a delicate time of the month emotionally for women. This is a time when communication is key. Are there other problems/situations/concerns that you may have outside of the scene that has your attention? If so, this would be a good time to either take care of them or to set them aside so that you can focus all of your time and energy on the scene that lies ahead. Begin to identify the feelings that you are experiencing at the moment (fear, anxiety, anticipation, lust, frustration, hope, excitement). Once they are identified, talk about them. Don’t be afraid to just “feel” them. Enjoy them for what they are. You have prepared yourself, played, and now you are dropping. This is when aftercare is crucial. Make sure you get plenty of water after the scene has ended to replenish the fluids you have lost. Eat if it is necessary (eat lightly if it is shortly after the scene). If you are shaking or cold, a blanket is very helpful. Your partner can also cuddle with you, give you a massage, wipe your tears, console you, whisper encouraging words of how pleased you were with the scene. Taking a warm bubble bath and a short nap is also a nice touch. Spend the first few moments after the scene to relax. There is plenty of time later to dissect the scene and critique it later. When you get home or after your partner leaves, after care is still very important. Make sure you schedule some quiet time. Continue to eat healthy for the next day or so. Call a couple of friends who would understand or be willing to listen to the struggle that you are enduring with drop. Also, writing your partner an email, letter, or even making a phone call to him/her is helpful. This allows to you to vent your feelings to the one that created them (at least this is how you will feel, trust me). *Warm smiles* Spend the next few days to a week pampering yourself with manicures, pedicures, shopping (don’t over spend), and long hot baths with bath salts or scented oils (lavender, rosemary, and sandalwood are calming fragrances). If you are still experiencing drop after a week… DON’T PANIC! *Smiles* Remember this is normal and that these feelings will pass. If you happen to find yourself sliding into a depression repeatedly after a scene, or with life in general, and nothing seems to pull you out of it, consider seeking professional help. Preparing for Emotional Drop: Focus on the scene that lies ahead. Figure out what you want to get out of the scene. This is important to relate to your partner so that they may better be able to accommodate you. (For Women) Are you menstruating? Menstruation can be a delicate time of the month emotionally for women. This is a time when communication is key. Are there other problems/situations/concerns that you may have outside of the scene that has your attention? If so, this would be a good time to either take care of them or to set them aside so that you can focus all of your time and energy on the scene that lies ahead. Begin to identify the feelings that you are experiencing at the moment (fear, anxiety, anticipation, lust, frustration, hope, excitement). Once they are identified, talk about them. Don’t be afraid to just “feel” them. Enjoy them for what they are. You have prepared yourself, played, and now you are dropping. This is when aftercare is crucial. Make sure you get plenty of water after the scene has ended to replenish the fluids you have lost. Eat if it is necessary (eat lightly if it is shortly after the scene). If you are shaking or cold, a blanket is very helpful. Your partner can also cuddle with you, give you a massage, wipe your tears, console you, whisper encouraging words of how pleased you were with the scene. Taking a warm bubble bath and a short nap is also a nice touch. Spend the first few moments after the scene to relax. There is plenty of time later to dissect the scene and critique it later. When you get home or after your partner leaves, after care is still very important. Make sure you schedule some quiet time. Continue to eat healthy for the next day or so. Call a couple of friends who would understand or be willing to listen to the struggle that you are enduring with drop. Also, writing your partner an email, letter, or even making a phone call to him/her is helpful. This allows to you to vent your feelings to the one that created them (at least this is how you will feel, trust me). *Warm smiles* Spend the next few days to a week pampering yourself with manicures, pedicures, shopping (don’t over spend), and long hot baths with bath salts or scented oils (lavender, rosemary, and sandalwood are calming fragrances). If you are still experiencing drop after a week… DON’T PANIC! *Smiles* Remember this is normal and that these feelings will pass. If you happen to find yourself sliding into a depression repeatedly after a scene, or with life in general, and nothing seems to pull you out of it, consider seeking professional help. Information taken from "Gallahad's Safe Haven" Good information for D/s and M/s Muffy da Brat |
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2/11/2007 1:49 am |
Well, that sounds like overcare to me... If I met someone who needed to have manicures, pedicures and shopping after a single play session, I would be questioning their psychological propensity towards bdsm, and suggesting they don't play. I for one, along with other experienced tops I know who I've discussed aftercare with, wouldn't touch someone who needs that much aftercare with a ten foot barge pole. It would be too much hassle..... *S
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